Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Brighton_belle

Mooloo wrote: »

"And Breathe?"

Right instinct is to run away. Biggest of Mooloo, also had harsh words with me last night, and hung up on me.

That will be the person you provide a free (plus costs of your petrol) baby sitting service to that prevents you from earning much needed money on that day is it. HHmmmmmm.

candlelight_2013

Good gracious Mooloo, I don't know what to say. I honestly don't know how you keep going with everything that life throws at you.

I think at the moment you will have to stop worrying about removing the cooker and furniture for DS and give yourself some time to take all this in. I know we all make excuses for our children but I really think they have treated you very badly this time and it is time for you to take stock of everything. No matter what you do for them it never seems to be enough.

I am sending you lots of hugs and much love, I just wish I could help in a practical way.

Candlelightx

Errata

I am going to ask if he and his girlfriend will have Biggests Daughter next week so DGD and I can go to a few national trust places and get out and about.

Biggest treats you like trash and in return you feel compelled to sort her childcare out? I'm speechless.

duchy

Is it just me or has Biggest changed since she moved in with her new bloke?

To be fair she was probably concerned no-one had stopped Twin 2 and as usual "someone else" who "should" have done something is Mum..... Hopefully she's thought twice since but TBH I wouldn't be rushing to provide free regular childcare to a couple who lecture you on please and thank you and blame you for stuff that wasn't your fault.

Savvy_sewing

Think Mum is supposed to fix it all.
To be fair, he did apologies the other week, but it is true that I cannot earn when I am babysitting and it does cost me money to have her.
Biggest will probably apologies if she realised what she was saying has affected me, but I am very very unhappy that I cannot tell her how I feel without being got at for winging! I'd never dare to speak to my mother in that way, even if I thought it.

I certainly don't feel that I have any respect from them at the moment.
I am going to step back.
DS and his girl friend can do the babysitting next week, as they are living there.
DGD and I are going to use our NT membership and get out and about, as can't afford to fly off. ( because my children have drained my purse for years).
Onwards then!

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

Biggest will probably apologies if she realised what she was saying has affected me, but I am very very unhappy that I cannot tell her how I feel without being got at for winging! I'd never dare to speak to my mother in that way, even if I thought it.

I certainly don't feel that I have any respect from them at the moment.
I am going to step back.
DS and his girl friend can do the babysitting next week, as they are living there.
DGD and I are going to use our NT membership and get out and about, as can't afford to fly off. ( because my children have drained my purse for years).
Onwards then!

Biggest must be as thick as a brick if she doesn't realise. Most people are affected by having the phone slammed down on them.
I wish I could lend you some of my backbone - if you can't tell Biggest the unvarnished truth without being got at, then do it on here. You know full well she reads your posts.

Savvy_sewing

I know she used too certainly, but she hasn't posted in a very long time.
DS rang a few minutes ago, and I asked him and his girlfriend to do DGD2 next week, and told him that I was upset at his sisters response. I also said that I was going to go away with DGD next week.
We are going to do something with my National Trust membership at least.

Now I am going to relax a bit, and then get on with my sewing jobs, that have been taking a back seat over family!!!

Savvy_sewing

Well didn't get on with the sewing but I did go and shake up the "lodgers" and while I was there the housing officers turned up. They served a 7 day notice. The girl has agreed to go back to her Parents, and is going to give the keys to twin1. ( if we can believe them). I said they didn't need to be there to end up arrested and they thought about that. I was just about finished when the housing arrived.
They seemed happy enough with my help, and I will call as soon as we have the keys. Then once she has the keys that's it. twin2 will get billed for the damage and clear up, but I am not liable for that as I wasn't a garantour. Thank goodness.
Then I went on to the Range for some PVA glue, and storage baskets for my sewing room. Also found some pretty voile that I can finish the Elsa costumes.
Then I called in to see an old friend who I have been altering some clothes for. She had some shocking news about her husband, and their marriage is over after 22 years. Can't go into details, but it is not good.
Made me feel greatful for my life! Imagine that!
This evening BT have agreed to disconnect the phone tomorrow.
So fingers crossed that the bill will be reasonable and then that will be that.
No more money for twin2.
Dinner was easy, left over bolognaise for DGD and a spoon of curry paste added to make me a curry.
Cup of tea time and then try and face the ironing over a few catch up on TV programmes.

My head is in a better place this evening, thank goodness.
BGKs are on!!!

Brighton_belle

Well done mooloo. These situations are daunting but yet again, a big breath, and BGK's on and you have tackled it head on.

minimoneysaver

I am shocked at Biggest. Why do you have to ask DS and his GF to watch their child? She has been uncharacterisically rude and she needs telling how upset you are. Her children are her responsibility. It's not like you have DGD as a favour for your daughter, she is there because she was placed with you officially. There is no reason that you should enter into a weekly arrangement with her to watch her children, because you have DGD. DGD is at school now, the daytime is your time for earning money, so that when school holidays come around, you can afford to pay to go abroard or have lots of day trips out and about.