Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

duchy wrote: »

Gosh is it really 7 years Mooloo ?
So much has changed over that time, for so many people.

September 2007!
So very nearly. I started writing on Hypno's thread a lot, and then was encouraged to set up my own thread.
Seams like a life time ago, at times. But dispite all the ups and downs I feel fairly happy with how things are, or the way they are going, for me and DGD, although the twins will never be plain sailing. Alas.
I certainly feel much stronger, and have become more resilient then I ever imagined I could.

grey_lady

Gosh Mooloo - I can't help but think that you deserve better from a boyfriend. He won't take you and DGD out for a meal when she's around? she can't stay over when his son is there? pull out z-beds are about £20.

Spirit_2

Mooloo wrote: »

September 2007!
So very nearly. I started writing on Hypno's thread a lot, and then was encouraged to set up my own thread.
Seams like a life time ago, at times. But dispite all the ups and downs I feel fairly happy with how things are, or the way they are going, for me and DGD, although the twins will never be plain sailing. Alas.
I certainly feel much stronger, and have become more resilient then I ever imagined I could.

I have just read your summary of life's ups and downs (not having read them previously) and just want to say how much I admire your optimism, resilience and sheer work ethic. Oh and your sewing skills.

A big well done.

Savvy_sewing

Oh I know I deserve better! Problem is I love the man.
Although not getting spoilt at least I know where I stand and at the moment it's OK.
Not that a bit of pampering, wouldn't be nice!
I have some great ideas for my making, and hope that I will soon get at it, just want to get the house in order again so that I can concerntrate on the work.
I hope that there will be a trickle of orders for the thermal cooking bags, that will help boost my income, so allowing me to work from home.

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

BF has said he will come here tomorrow. Afternoon, as he's laying a paving ready for his arbour. I was looking forward to some adult time, going out to a restaurant or pub. BF won't take DGD to either of those unless were away on holiday. Even then that's rare. We tend to eat in.
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That reads very much like he's ashamed of her. Sorry to be blunt- but that's not normal behaviour for a bloke who wants to be in your life.

minimoneysaver

Errata I thought that too. I don't understand it. It seems that he is really happy when the three of you go on holiday together. You talk about enjoying time together. Why can't that be recreated at home?

Your BF has fought to get you back many times. From what you have said, DGD is a lovely well-manered and well-behaved little girl. I hope that the three of you can find resolution. x

Savvy_sewing

I don't think he's ashamed of her at all. I think it's more that he never took his kids to a pub or restaurant unless it was a birthday at a Toby carvery.
I think it stems from the way he was brought up.
Anyway this weekend as we stayed at home, we went out for a drive to Stowe Gardens. We've just got back. We had a lovely stroll around the gardens.BF and DGD played ball etc and we had a good little picnic with us. As we are NT members it didn't cost us a penny. £26 if we hadn't been members. So the annual fee has nearly been recouped on just two trips.
We came home via a quick stop at Tesco for milk, and he bought Soda Cream and chocolate mint ice cream and he made us a floater. (And he bought it not me, bonus).
Re his son, when he moved out a few years ago, his other son swapped the bunk beds out and bought a double bed. So when he comes home to visit he will stop in the dinning room, which is where DGD normally sleeps.
So there is no room for Us.
There isn't the space in any of the rooms to add a zbed. It's really quite a small house.
I didn't mean it to come across that he is ashamed of DGD, far from it. He is very good with her. (Unlike my children).
No, he has plenty of time with her, is strict but fair, and will have fun with her playing games etc

It's been a lovely day. I'm quite worn out now. (He's having a rest before he goes home- dGD is watching TV now as we have had enough sun for one day I think.
Me, when I have caught up on here it's getting ready for school and work tomorrow.

Savvy_sewing

Morning, I didn't do very much last night in the end, wrote a lot in my diary. Watched Vera before bed.
Was up and down to the loo several times, so very interrupted sleep. The sun streaming into my room between a crack in the curtains woke me at 5am. Tried to go back to sleep, eventually I did, and had a weird dream, where I was at a cash machine, trying to get money out, but couldn't get it, and the queue behind me was getting longer and longer as card after card was going wrong!!!! Weird.
Anyway I am awake, it's cup of tea time, and then the normal routine before work and school. I wish it was a work from home day as the sun is out, but so does half the population I should think.
Last night I text twin1, to see how she was, I got told she was not good, time of the month etc etc.
She has offered to have DGD next Friday, but I won't tell DGD incase she changes her mind again.
Then she went on to say that she was redecorating ready to move to Kent. So that has come up again. She reckons that she is going there 2nd June, and his parents are taking her down the council about getting a place ( and Laugh- a job). I told her not to mention it infront of DGD as she will be devastated. She won't see her very much. ( not that she does now). She then said that she was planning on getting her back, in 2,3 or 4 years!! I said good luck with that. I meant it sarcastically. As there is no way I would give up DGD willingly now.
I know when she first came to me, I hoped she could have returned to her, eventually, but DGD is my life, my world, now. It would break my heart to loose her. Just the thought of not having her is enough to make my heart race. suppose we will cross that bridge when we come to it.

duchy

I suppose if she has the full support of BF's parents -in the very long term it is a possibility -but certainly as she is now nothing more than that -and not anything to worry about at this point.
SS down here do seem to be reasonably clued up with ASD adults so maybe it would be a good move for your daughter in the long run. Is she planning on moving to Kent or Medway (two different councils although Medway is in Kent of course)?

minimoneysaver

I am sure that you can provide a more stable life for DGD. She loves you!