Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

trix-a-belle wrote: »

*hugs*

A suggestion on the mobile phone WiFi issue if you have done already, delete the settings for your home network completely from your phone & then set it up from scratch as I'm sure that will be one of the first things they suggest (if they are helpful). At least if you've done that & know it connects to other WiFi networks then you can tell them that & therefore it looks to be the router.
Is your laptop connected by WiFi or cabled direct? If its cable but has WiFi capability you could try connecting it via WiFi to further prove or disprove the problem to be with the router

The laptop is wifi and its working. The kindle is too. But yet the phone works at work, and at everyone elses place. I will go and delete it and start it a fresh and see what happens.

Savvy_sewing

OOh, Http Proxy was on in my settings, turned that off, and Its working! Wonder why it was on, and what it does? Anyway, I can now send my iphone messages again, and access the internet without having to do it on 3G. Yeah. Thanks!

On another note I have been doing Cheryls spreadsheet and seeing if I can get my self within budget.
Its not going to be easy, but I am hoping that I have now sorted out a guide as to where/what the money is going on. Now it means remembering to update my expenses everyday. IF there is anything that goes out of the bank not accounted for it will have to come out of the Anythingelse column. EEK
I still need to trim it, as I have still incorporated what I get between now and March. So Next years will have to be trimmed even more. Unless the income increases significantly. But then as the income goes up the tax credits etc, housing benefit etc go down.
(Oh no, just realised there was no rent in that spreadsheet- back I go again).
DS has just come home. Out smoking in the shed. I think he has been to Banbury to see about signing on etc. But I still just had a shout at him as his money has gone out, of the bank, on Xbox stuff, when he hasn't got an income yet coming in. I am so fed up of my children and their lack of caring about money.
I mentioned on the Frugal thread, I had told them bank of mum is closed. Last night when I was at Twin1 I reiterated it. Had a look at her cupboards, and she hasn't much, and doesn't get paid till Thursday. But I said she had soups etc and a few other things that she can at least eat.
This morning she rings up and asks to borrow money! I said what for? She said Sandwiches etc.
I said "No". You have tinned soup, and packet pastas. You will have to eat them!
So it doenst matter that only 14 hours earlier she had been told the bank of mum is closed. She still asked.
I can see I am going to be saying NO a lot over the next few months until they finally realise that enough is enough.
I now need to go and talk to twin2. Her DLA is the only money now coming into my account, remember she changed it all over. Well she will not be able to have that £84 as I am still paying her rent and her phone/broadband. That alone is more than £84 a month.
And she still asks for the DLA money. So I better remind her that she cannot have it. I need it to pay her rent/rent arrears, never mind the phone bill.
The phonebill etc has until May or June before I can cancel it as it was me who had it installed when DS was living there with her.
But its in my diary to cancel it as soon as I can.
I have to be as tough as I can, as loosing funding means I am going to have to be.
Why should DGD and I, loose out because of the bigger kids?
We shouldn't. As it is we will be frugalling away as much as we can to adjust to the budget I had just worked out, and now even more as I forgot about the rent payments.

Errata

Good luck with your budgetting. DGD's needs come first, good food (lots of fruit and veg), decent clothes, a social life, treats, holidays. The big kids have had their time at coming first.

minimoneysaver

Maybe you need to print out a sign for the twins and put it up in their kitchens? It should be a reminder to take care of the pennies and only buy sensible healthy, fillings foods as money is limited and the Bank of Mum is shut.

It is time that your money funds your lifestyle. DGD deserves better. She shouldn't have to go without so the twins and DS can have their mobile phones and xbox games etc.

Savvy_sewing

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Maybe you need to print out a sign for the twins and put it up in their kitchens? It should be a reminder to take care of the pennies and only buy sensible healthy, fillings foods as money is limited and the Bank of Mum is shut.

It is time that your money funds your lifestyle. DGD deserves better. She shouldn't have to go without so the twins and DS can have their mobile phones and xbox games etc.

she hasn't noticeably gone without. She has plenty of stuff. But if we carried on then it would not be.
She has had plenty holidays, and she gets spoilt. She gets plenty fresh fruit and vegetables. Etc
But if I don't start to save the future would not be very bright.
Just been looking at the photographs of DSs party on Facebook. Brilliant pictures that I will have to upload and save. Great treasures with whole family together. My parents too.

Savvy_sewing

Right, I am really winging it!.
I have used the tokens etc, to book a holiday with the sun, but dispite all my choices, they came up with a site in France!.
So what the heck, DGD and I are going to France in April. Maybe I can extend my times either side with going to visit my sister and brother etc out there.
This could be an adventure or a nightmare really.
Now I need to see about getting there!!!!!! I think I had a mad moment.
Off to see my Mum and Dad in a few minutes, and then I am going to Ikea for those folding chairs. Biggest of Mooloo wants to come too. So that will be fun.
The sewing is slightly on the back bench then!.

Savvy_sewing

Had a busy day yesterday. Was at work sewing labels on all the retrend stuff. So seeing lots of my old work and all the ti-dye stuff. They are finally concentrating on it and getting it up for sale on the Internet.
When I got DGD from school it was dinner and then it should have been more jobs at home but Ex turned up on his way back from work to talk.
( I know!)
Anyway we talked once I'd got DGD to bed and aired loads of stuff. Not all pleasant for either of us to hear but it was interesting in someways.
I told him a lot of home truths about his daughter, his lack of commitment etc and what I had expected for the future etc.
I had nothing to loose in telling it to him straight. My thoughts are still mixed. But after all the ups and downs of the past I am under no illusions that we are about to have a break through. I am in no hurry to go running back. I have so much to do here anyway. My biggest concern was of course DGD and the unsettled future for her. I told him a lot about why I had had enough of the way things were.
Interesting results on some of his replies, but he is off mulling over what I have told him. I can't see that he will be able to make the changes that we would need to accommodate DGD, and so I am still here and he is there.
I realise lots of you will be shouting at me as you read this, but I am and try to be as honest as I can about my life, so as this is what I am dealing with then this is what's happening with me now.

Savvy_sewing

Another busy day at work. All the retrend now labelled and 4 sweatshirts embroidered with skateboarding kid. Was fun playing with the embroidery machine. I really want one! Saving hard!
DS has just gone out as I come in. So easy tea for DGD and myself as she has school dinners. Something simple like an omelette then!
Evening infront of the TV a few glasses of wine, and tomorrow I plan to start to de clutter ! ( again).

Errata

I realise lots of you will be shouting at me as you read this,

Not me m'dear. Your love life life, your challenges, your problems to solve.

Savvy_sewing

Well dispite a very early night as I was feeling shakeup and shivery, I don't feel any worse etc thank goodness. Still in bed though being very lazy. Been reading my emails, drinking tea and generally faffing about on the iPhone.
Suppose I better get up and start on the chores and the mountains of ironing, etc etc lurking everywhere I look. I just wish I could find enthusiasm to do anything! Twin1 wants me to take her food shopping today. So a chunk of my day will be helping her. Yuk. Food shopping on a Saturday and with a child in tow ! My worst nightmare!
Twin2 is not in a good way. yesterday being DGS2's 4th Birthday and still no response from Social Services about letterbox contact.
I am fuming.

She is distraught.

Life is so unfair to her.

I see yet another letter of complaint now on my todo list.