Maintenance payments after 18 years old

DUTR

clareski wrote: »

Thanks all. Who will tell me about when we legally have to pay until? CSA??

CSA is paid a week in arrears, so one week after the 19th birthday (although rumour has it, that it may increase to 20) .

maggy50

Clareski
I have been wishing for years for the end of this situation you are going through.
It was similar leaving for another man and they were divorced a while before I met my oh.
Paying maintenance was not an issue and was paid voluntary until his ex decided to involve the CSA because she claimed she would get more money.
When an assessment was made of my oh financial situation she was worse off as the CSA judged he was paying over the requirements.
As he was forced to pay the CSA he carried on for years paying without a revue of any kind .
He was not notified when the children left education due to there not being any contact he just did not know or even where they lived.
Out of the blue he was refunded by the CSA several hundreds of pounds and this was due to a revue being made after the last child had left education and the payments were still being paid.

paulineb_2

According to gov.UK they stop at 16 or 20 if studying in full time education not higher than a level equivalent, there are a few exceptions

Csa or child maintenance service can advise.

Sunshine_and_Roses

We are both trying hard to save, and working as much overtime as we can at the moment. I am assuming that if we did stop paying when daughter reached 18, and the ex went to the CSA, then they would take 20% off all overtime payments as well?

I really dont want to sound heartless, and we would be more than happy to support her all the way through uni if we could see her, but we have had absolutely no say in her upbringing and education for the last 12 years. Its good to know that we have support from others who have been in this situation, you have no idea how much this has helped tonight thanks

martinbuckley

As its not compulsary to continue in education beyond 18, then maybe you should consider either stopping the payments, or paying them directy into your daughters student bank account, which she must have when she goes to uni. As for the bit between May, when she finishes her A Levels and September when she goes to uni - she isnt in education and why should you pay for that bit?

Sunshine_and_Roses

martinbuckley wrote: »

As its not compulsary to continue in education beyond 18, then maybe you should consider either stopping the payments, or paying them directy into your daughters student bank account, which she must have when she goes to uni. As for the bit between May, when she finishes her A Levels and September when she goes to uni - she isnt in education and why should you pay for that bit?

My thoughts exactly. I started working on Saturdays when I was 13, through school holidays and started full time the week after I left school. Ok, I may not have had a great education, but it has not done me any harm. It taught me to respect money, also how to interact with people, and life experience which you cannot get at uni.

Edwardia

My view on this, is that if the CSA had been involved from the beginning, the ex-wife would not have been able to marginalise the child's father. He would have gotten access, been able to insist on visitation rights and prove himself a loving caring father. It's likely that the ex-wife has poisoned his daughter against him

He could write, telling her that he loves her, that it's her choice, according to her mother, to have no contact with him but they have been happy to accept his additional financial support Write that his own financial position has worsened. If he is not legally obliged to pay for a daughter who refuses to see her father, then he will stop payments. For payments to continue, her school needs to send him proof that she is enrolled in school full-time.

Spendless

IMO child maintainance should continue until they have finished A level education or equivalent unless they stop studying and start a job. At the point that the child becomes eligible to claim student loan (due to going to Uni) or can claim JSA or starts working, then stop paying.

Presumably the resident parent, doesn't get the option of not feeding or clothing their child just because the A level student is 18 instead of 17?

Sunshine_and_Roses

Thanks. We did not want to go down the CSA route when she first refused to speak to him as we kept hoping she would change her mind, and that contacting CSA may antagonise the ex (she would probably get less money). Neither of us are nasty people, we know that the ex has told daughter untruths about us and lied about her affair, but we have no intention of lowering ourselves to this level.

Would have been nice to get a phone call or text to thank us for the money and presents we sent for Christmas tho

Mojisola

Edwardia wrote: »

My view on this, is that if the CSA had been involved from the beginning, the ex-wife would not have been able to marginalise the child's father. He would have gotten access, been able to insist on visitation rights and prove himself a loving caring father. It's likely that the ex-wife has poisoned his daughter against him

CSA has nothing to do with contact. Lots of parents pay directly through the CSA and still lose contact with their children.