Neice complaining about the size of a present

DevilsAdvocate1

I was an only child and my Uncle was weathly (I used to love it when he drove me to school in his Mercedes!). I can only remember getting a present from him and his wife once - it was an imitation Cindy doll and some of the clothes were missing. Think I would have been 4. Mum always thought it was their daughter's doll that she didn't want anymore.

But I never really thought about it one way or the other. It never occurred to me that I should get a present from them. I can't believe you would spend more on your niece than your own children.

Very strange.

Jobseeeker

Even though they don't have much money it doesn't mean she's not spoiled. Only children usually are regardless, own room, never having to share toys etc

You could suggest for next year not giving presents and taking them to volunteer at homeless christmas dinner or something like that.

mountainofdebt

Jobseeeker wrote: »

Only children usually are regardless, own room, never having to share toys etc

By the very nature of being an only child, they're bound to have their own room!

Top_Girl

She'd get a pound shop selection box off me. And the pound itself, if she asked for money instead. Possibly in pennies from the copper jar.

Obnoxious moo.

jemb

Jobseeeker wrote: »

Even though they don't have much money it doesn't mean she's not spoiled. Only children usually are regardless, own room, never having to share toys etc

Again with the spoilt only child thing. Only Children are not always spoilt. They also dont have scapegoats, have to earn things , and although they are only Children, that is a product of the Parents, not the Children. They are what their parents make them.

ViolaLass

Jobseeeker wrote: »

Even though they don't have much money it doesn't mean she's not spoiled. Only children usually are regardless, own room, never having to share toys etc

Not having to share a room doesn't mean you're spoiled.

InsideInsurance

isitchristmasyet123 wrote: »

The money comes from a trust fund.

Out of curiosity where is this trust fund from?

Could this be a deeper rooted issue about you receiving some inheritence but your brother didn't?

Pollycat

InsideInsurance wrote: »

Out of curiosity where is this trust fund from?

Could this be a deeper rooted issue about you receiving some inheritence but your brother didn't?

isitchristmasyet123 wrote: »

Anyway, earlier this year I bought a birthday present for a neighbour's son who is about the same age as my neice and who is having a hard time about it and who now lives with brother and his wife temporarily. They are getting paid from for this. They would never do anything for nothing. The money comes from a trust fund.

The way I read it the trust fund has nothing to do with the OP or her brother.

It's paid to the OP's brother & wife in respect of the brother's neighbour's son who seems to live with the OP's brother & his wife.

angeltreats

jemb wrote: »

Again with the spoilt only child thing. Only Children are not always spoilt. They also dont have scapegoats, have to earn things , and although they are only Children, that is a product of the Parents, not the Children. They are what their parents make them.

I was an only child and obviously had my own room, but I was most definitely not spoilt. My parents didn't have a lot of money and I understood this and never asked for very much. Santa always brought what I wanted, but my lists were never very long and I was (and still am) grateful for any presents no matter how big or small. And when I was a child I wrote a thank you letter to every single person who ever gave me a present for birthdays or Christmas.

Bit unfair to generalise.

Incidentally, my parents have some very wealthy friends (they were very close friends, more like family really) who always used to buy very expensive and generous presents. My mum used to feel slightly embarrassed at their generosity, but I know that they were given out of love and not out of any sort of obligation. They stopped buying for me when I got older but to this day I still send them a Christmas card and keep in touch, and go to see them when I'm visiting my parents (as I now live in a different country). Had they stopped buying for me when I was a child I would not have felt aggrieved in any way as I considered them to be family and loved them to bits. I suspect your niece's sense of entitlement has been instilled by the way she's been raised and are nothing to do with being an only child.

lee111s

Tell her to FRO!