Renewing wedding vows.

Dunroamin

Soleil_lune wrote: »

I found this

http://voices.yahoo.com/how-why-couples-renew-their-wedding-386041.html

I think many people renew their vows to celebrate a milestone (maybe 25 years.)

And also apart from renewing vows after a long time, 25 years or so, as a celebration of their marriage, people do it if the first wedding didn't go too well. Also, survivors of things (cancer/serious accident) may do it, to celebrate their lives together.

I think 'because someone had an affair' is not one of the main reasons for doing it, and wonder why people are saying this. Maybe they are speaking from personal experience.

As I said, an American invention.

thorsoak

Shock!! Horror!!:eek::eek:

We did it all ourselves - a little half-hour ceremony in the village church - friend played the organ ....with a ripple of laughter from everyone when we entered to "The arrival of the Queen of Sheba".

We stood at the front, the Rector - another friend - said a few words about us, then we just repeated the vows that we'd made 25 years before and received a blessing, sang Love divine, all loves excelling - and that was it! We posed - as we had done 25 years ago - with best man and bridesmaids - and laughed a lot.

It was wonderful - and let's face it, those of us who married so long ago didn't have our children as accessories on our wedding day as is often the case now (we joke that no 2 son & wife waited until they'd grown their bridesmaids, so I'm not having a dig!)

It was good that they could feel part of it!

DigForVictory

Renew our vows? Where, when & why?...

I'd rather celebrate 25 years with a solid party myself.

If Himself wanted to renew wedding vows, (in a suit!), then I'd be ringing a family lawyer for an urgent meeting, unless he'd been told his folk wanted it & had *days* left.

It really does depend on *why* IYSWIM!

A religious ceremony that includes the family you've created sounds great, but these days a lot of folk have that for their, um, original wedding.

Renewing vows after a serious accident or the like? That's one way to say thank you, but I'd want to be very sure we both had the strength!

For me, & I think us, we'd prefer the anniversary kneesup every time. We enjoy them...

thorsoak

"For me, & I think us, we'd prefer the anniversary kneesup every time. We enjoy them..."

We did both! Knees up went on into the wee small hours and then continued on the Sunday at ours!

Person_one

thorsoak wrote: »

"For me, & I think us, we'd prefer the anniversary kneesup every time. We enjoy them..."

We did both! Knees up went on into the wee small hours and then continued on the Sunday at ours!

Please don't get upset about the fact that other people aren't really keen on the whole vow renewal idea. You've explained why you did it, you're allowed to do things other people aren't keen on (I do all the time!) so you really don't need to keep justifying your decision or trying to convince anybody!

thorsoak

Person_one wrote: »

Please don't get upset about the fact that other people aren't really keen on the whole vow renewal idea. You've explained why you did it, you're allowed to do things other people aren't keen on (I do all the time!) so you really don't need to keep justifying your decision or trying to convince anybody!

okay ....I'll shut up:beer::beer::beer::j

inkie

The vows are taken, forever. The meaning and significance in them is when they are mutually entered in to. Therefore, they really cannot be renewed, in my opinion, unless they have been broken, as they are still valid. Really can't see the point.

catkins

bagpussbear wrote: »

I find it pointless.

If they need to be renewed, then that indicates the first ones were broken in which case the marriage was a sham (in my humble opinion).

If no breaking of vows has taken place, then why 'renew' something in existence already? I can understand a wedding anniversary party to celebrate of course, but to get someone professional to do the official bit, well to me that is pointless quite frankly.

Just have a nice big party instead :-)

You may think it shows that the marriage was a sham but for me, and anyone else who doesn't think a renewal is pointless it doesn't.


As I said, me and OH don't like parties - never have and never will - so not interested in a party.

DigForVictory wrote: »

Renew our vows? Where, when & why?...

I'd rather celebrate 25 years with a solid party myself.

For me, & I think us, we'd prefer the anniversary kneesup every time. We enjoy them...

Yes, you enjoy a knees up - we don't.

Person_one wrote: »

Please don't get upset about the fact that other people aren't really keen on the whole vow renewal idea. You've explained why you did it, you're allowed to do things other people aren't keen on (I do all the time!) so you really don't need to keep justifying your decision or trying to convince anybody!

It's not just that others aren't keen on the renewal idea it's more the fact for me that others are saying that you would only want renewal if one or both of you had broken your vows which is ridiculous rubbish.


We all have different ideas on things. I think big expensive weddings are a complete waste of money and have nothing to do with a couple in love getting married but I realise my views are not shared by a lot of people

mischiefmaker

We (my Dad, my sister and close friends) arranged for my Mum and Dad to renew their vows for their 40th Wedding Anniversary. My Mum knew we were having a party in the evening but knew nothing of the renewing until my Dad left some flowers which said meet me at the church. It was a lovely service (the vicar was in on the surprise). The reason we did it was because when they got married first time round it was abit of a rush lol and her Dad never got to walk her down the aisle. It was a really special evening.

Dunroamin

catkins wrote: »

You may think it shows that the marriage was a sham but for me, and anyone else who doesn't think a renewal is pointless it doesn't.


As I said, me and OH don't like parties - never have and never will - so not interested in a party.





Yes, you enjoy a knees up - we don't.





It's not just that others aren't keen on the renewal idea it's more the fact for me that others are saying that you would only want renewal if one or both of you had broken your vows which is ridiculous rubbish.


We all have different ideas on things. I think big expensive weddings are a complete waste of money and have nothing to do with a couple in love getting married but I realise my views are not shared by a lot of people

I agree with pretty well everything you've written and obviously it isn't just people who've broken their vows who want to renew them. However, I do think that it's quite a silly idea and would prefer a really nice meal together with a toast to the last 20 (or whatever) years and to the next 20. Alternately, if religious, a blessing would seem to be the ideal solution.