Renewing wedding vows.

thorsoak

itsanne wrote: »

I would probably have written something pretty scathing about renewing vows, but it would have been hurtful after reading this. For all I don't see the point (OH knows I love him. I know he loves me.), there's no need to offend those who feel differently. However, I don't understand why people renew their vows.

Why did you want to renew them, thorsoak?

As I said, we'd had a tough few years prior to this - we'd lost OH's father to cancer, then my mum, then his mum; OH had had a life-changing accident, teenage children, etc, etc, etc - and when we started talking about a party to celebrate our silver wedding, we thought that we should also celebrate the marriage service itself. Neither of us were the same people that we were when we married (I was just 20, he was just 23) - we'd grown up, and felt that as adults, we were renewing the vows that those young people had made. :j

We didn't dress up .....although he could still get into that sharply-tailored mohair suit of 1963, I certainly couldn't have got into my size 8 wedding dress:cool: ....and I do think that my bridesmaids (especially my youngest one) would have objected strongly!!

It just seemed right!

fluffnutter

Something 'celebrities' do to get themselves another deal in OK! magazine.

thorsoak

fluffnutter wrote: »

Something 'celebrities' do to get themselves another deal in OK! magazine.

....we got a mention in the local parish magazine:beer::beer::beer:

pollypenny

No need. We know we love each other. The problem years, with illness, children's difficulties, the deaths of our parents, only brought us closer.

OH has been my rock!

Morglin

As we haven't broken the vows we made, I can't see the point in renewing them, other than as an excuse for a party.

Lin

Toto

I don't have a problem with other people doing it if they wish to but I can't see us ever doing it. It all seems a bit pointless really but if we did do it we'd probably slip off quietly and do it with just us.

codemonkey

I've often thought about organising this for my parents. Not because either of them have broken their vows (they've been married for 55 years) but because my mum hated their wedding. You see, they got married in 1958, and my Episcopalian mother got treated like scum when she married my Catholic father. They weren't allowed music or flowers or any kind of celebration and she said it was like they got thrown at each other grudgingly and that was it. My mum says that her only regret about marrying my dad was how terrible their wedding was. Bearing in mind that both were from working class families, her expectations of a wedding wouldn't have been that high in the first place, so it must have been pretty terrible.

I would have organised it for their Golden Wedding Anniversary but I'd been made redundant, and had only just started a new job so I had no money at all.

tanith

I'm another who can't see the point , vows are just that , 'until death do us part', they don't need renewing. By all means a party to celebrate significant anniversarys but renewing vows no sorry!

SandC

A friend of mine's husband and children organised a wedding vow renewal as a surprise for her 40th birthday. Just them and their parents and a meal afterwards. It was one of the most romantic gestures I've ever heard about and she was delighted at the thoughtfulness of it.

thorsoak

I'm sad that so many people don't see the joy in renewing/celebrating their marriage - and I do realise that my views will be mocked/denigrated by some posters - but when we married, we considered the service as a very important ceremony - we were making our vows before a God we believed in, and we asked for his blessings on our marriage.

So, when 25 years later we were planning a celebration, it was only natural for us to have a renewal/celebrate our vows in church, before God again.

Just as the marriage ceremony itself was an integral important part of our wedding day, so the renewal of vows/blessing was an important part of our silver wedding celebrations.

But heigh-ho - we are all different!