Renewing wedding vows.

Georgiegirl256

thorsoak wrote: »

I'm sad that so many people don't see the joy in renewing/celebrating their marriage - and I do realise that my views will be mocked/denigrated by some posters - but when we married, we considered the service as a very important ceremony - we were making our vows before a God we believed in, and we asked for his blessings on our marriage.

So, when 25 years later we were planning a celebration, it was only natural for us to have a renewal/celebrate our vows in church, before God again.

Just as the marriage ceremony itself was an integral important part of our wedding day, so the renewal of vows/blessing was an important part of our silver wedding celebrations.

But heigh-ho - we are all different!

Don't be sad thorsoak It's just people's opinions, like you say, we are all different, no one is mocking you, please don't think that they are.

I'm one of the ones who doesn't see the point in it, but that could just be that I'm not a romantic person really! :rotfl: But after reading your posts stating your reasoning, I do have to agree that they were lovely reasons to renew your vows, also, how lovely for your kids to see their parents love for one another.

arbroath_lass

We renewed ours on a significant anniversary. I wanted to include a spiritual element that we could not have when we married.

Whilst we've had some tough times together I'm not aware either of either of us cheating or "needing" to renew them. We had a small party afterwards. All guests were told "no gifts, please" on the invitation.

Morglin

Actually, I did find a way to celebrate after 32 years of marriage.

I finally found the motivation to walk out and smack down the divorce papers.

Then, when all done and dusted, friends threw me a divorce party lol :beer:

Lin

catkins

I too find the comments on here sad.


I get that not everyone would want to renew their vows but why the comments about it must mean one has had an affair etc?


Everyone has different views. For insitance I don't see the point in big flashy expensive weddings personally and our wedding was small and inexpensive but plenty of people pay a fortune for their wedding. It doesn't make them any more married than couples who spend very little nor does it stop the marriage ending in many cases. I do however think it is a lovely romantic idea to renew your vows after say 25 years.


Me and OH talked about renewing our vows on our 25th anniversary. OH wasn't so keen but was happy to do it for me. As it turned out that year wasn't great for us for a number of reasons and so we never did it.


We may think about it for our 35th or 40th though and no, never of us has ever been unfaithful and it's not an excuse for a big party or presents either.


It would be immediate family (same as our wedding), no presents, and a nice celebratory meal after

Person_one

catkins wrote: »

I too find the comments on here sad.


I get that not everyone would want to renew their vows but why the comments about it must mean one has had an affair etc?

I think its fairly obvious why people wonder.

Marriage vows don't expire, they aren't like a passport that you have to update every ten years!

LEJC

we had the wedding we wanted back in the early 90s....family close friends etc for the day around 60 and then a very large evening reception...probably around the 250 people mark....so in essence we had something small anmd a larger celebration.


Fast forward 20 years and rather spur of the moment we were on a lovely holiday and thought what a lovely place to say that we were still together...


We didnt have religous prescence we just took ourselves off at sun set with a bottle of champagne and quietly repeated our promises to eachother....


Our sons were there....although they watched from a distance and took some lovely photos to capture the time


Afterwards the 4 of us went out for a meal as we would to celebrate any anniversary.


We told no one what we did but we do display one of the photos next to a wedding photo at home....friends and family initially commented on it and we told them it was just the way we wanted....a very private renewal of or vows...no fuss just us.

I agree that vows dont expire like a passport ...but sometimes its nice just to take a little time to reflect ....

I'm not sure I get the whole public thing of inviting others to join you or indeed turning it into a large celebration....neither myself or my husband have had an affair or felt it needed to be done as a grand gesture...but at the point we did it,it felt right to celebrate/reflect/commit forward...and acknowledge the changes we had been through to get to that point.....and by changes I look on that to be the addition of our children....for us it was more about celebrating the time we have had together and our hopes and dreams for the next 20 years.

PuzzledDave

Each to their own of course. I have to admit I don't really understand it - do you renew as the marriage vow wears thin or runs out ? The idea of renewing just brings to my mind a subscription service like renewing your contract with the AA, then again with divorce so common... maybe that's exactly what it is.

TeamLowe

DH's Uncle had lost his wedding ring and their youngest was being baptised so he bought them (Uncle and Auntie, not Uncle and child lol) both a new ring and had their vows renewed before the baptism which I thought was lovely, especially as they could include their children in the vows x

duchy

TeamLowe wrote: »

DH's Uncle had lost his wedding ring and their youngest was being baptised so he bought them (Uncle and Auntie, not Uncle and child lol) both a new ring and had their vows renewed before the baptism which I thought was lovely, especially as they could include their children in the vows x

This I can understand (although I wouldn't have wanted a new ring if I was the one who hadn't lost theirs personally) or a couple who had a civil ceremony having a renewal in church with a blessing at a later date ............... but a renewal just because baffles me.

Georgiegirl256

Tbh I've never actually known anyone personally that's renewed their vows, but when I've heard of it being done, I've never thought that one or both of the couple must have been having an affair. That thought never occurred to me, it probably will now though!