Renewing wedding vows.

redmel1621

Hi.

I am just wondering what people's thoughts are on renewing wedding vows.

A waste of money and pointless, or a nice romantic gesture?

Have you ever done it, and if so why did you? Also what did you do for the 'ceremony'?

Looking forward to your thoughts

Mel xx

Person_one

Usually either an excuse for a big fancy party with presents, or an indicator that the vows have been broken, in my experience. I'm a cynic though!

Wilma33

I always think "which one had an affair?"

jenhug

We made our vows 15 years ago. We haven't worn them out or broken them, I see it as a pointless exercise to stand there and say "yeah, I still do".

mum2one

I would say it depends on the individual, my parents celebrated their golden wedding this year, she wanted to renew her vows, my father didn't but they had the party.

If it was me, (although sad and single!!). If I had got married abroad, then maybe 10yr anniversary I would have thought about a renewal so that friends and family could share the day.

1st Anniversary - would be nice, if it was just a small family event.

25th (silver) then yes, but really other ocassions, if I recieved an invite to a renewal of vows, i'd also wonder who's been a naughty person and been caught out. Sorry to sound cynical... xx

lostinrates

We had a no 'wedding' wedding. We did say we'd have a party when we bought a house, then didn't. we have since occasionally discussed having a party on a big anniversary instead, not a vow renewal just a ' we weren't in a place to celebrate with you all in one place then but are now' thing. Tbh, I cannot see us doing it for the tenth.......maybe though.....

I'd rather just have a party for our friend s to celebrate them tbh.

ognum

I really don't understand why you would do it, I have seen it done a few times on sunny Caribbean beaches but each time I just don't get it but each to his own if you want to then do it.

thorsoak

I'm very sad to read the cynical comments on this!

Yes, we renewed our vows, the weekend of our silver wedding - in our local parish church - not the one where we had celebrated our marriage, but in the local parish church where we then lived. It was lovely - sadly my dad was the only parent who could come as my mum and OH's parents had died in the preceding three years, so it brought to an end the sad times, if you like. We'd gone through quite a lot in that three years, with OH having had a nasty accident as well as losing my mum and mil and fil in that time. It was lovely with our four children there - plus dd's then bf (who later became her OH). OH's best man - plus his wife and children, and my bridesmaids (my sisters + OH's cousin) and their families were there as well - and our friends as well.

A party in the village school hall (which went on well into the Sunday) rounded it all off very happily.

The three years up to our silver wedding were horrendous, and we really did know what "for better, for worse" meant when we repeated them.

It would have been lovely to have renewed them again last summer, when we would have celebrated our Golden Wedding - but sadly, couldn't quite make it.

itsanne

thorsoak wrote: »

I'm very sad to read the cynical comments on this!

Yes, we renewed our vows, the weekend of our silver wedding - in our local parish church - not the one where we had celebrated our marriage, but in the local parish church where we then lived. It was lovely - sadly my dad was the only parent who could come as my mum and OH's parents had died in the preceding three years, so it brought to an end the sad times, if you like. We'd gone through quite a lot in that three years, with OH having had a nasty accident as well as losing my mum and mil and fil in that time. It was lovely with our four children there - plus dd's then bf (who later became her OH). OH's best man - plus his wife and children, and my bridesmaids (my sisters + OH's cousin) and their families were there as well - and our friends as well.

A party in the village school hall (which went on well into the Sunday) rounded it all off very happily.

The three years up to our silver wedding were horrendous, and we really did know what "for better, for worse" meant when we repeated them.

It would have been lovely to have renewed them again last summer, when we would have celebrated our Golden Wedding - but sadly, couldn't quite make it.

I would probably have written something pretty scathing about renewing vows, but it would have been hurtful after reading this. For all I don't see the point (OH knows I love him. I know he loves me.), there's no need to offend those who feel differently. However, I don't understand why people renew their vows.

Why did you want to renew them, thorsoak?

mum2one

thorsoak wrote: »

I'm very sad to read the cynical comments on this!

Yes, we renewed our vows, the weekend of our silver wedding - in our local parish church - not the one where we had celebrated our marriage, but in the local parish church where we then lived. It was lovely - sadly my dad was the only parent who could come as my mum and OH's parents had died in the preceding three years, so it brought to an end the sad times, if you like. We'd gone through quite a lot in that three years, with OH having had a nasty accident as well as losing my mum and mil and fil in that time. It was lovely with our four children there - plus dd's then bf (who later became her OH). OH's best man - plus his wife and children, and my bridesmaids (my sisters + OH's cousin) and their families were there as well - and our friends as well.

A party in the village school hall (which went on well into the Sunday) rounded it all off very happily.

The three years up to our silver wedding were horrendous, and we really did know what "for better, for worse" meant when we repeated them.

It would have been lovely to have renewed them again last summer, when we would have celebrated our Golden Wedding - but sadly, couldn't quite make it.

That sounds lovely renewing them on your silver wedding weekend, sounds like after everything that had happened then, it brought some good times back, sorry you never made the Golden, xx

Georgiegirl256

Tbh I don't really see the point, I once read that someone had wrote (on a different forum) "Why? Did they not take the first time you said them?" I thought that IMO that was a true statement.

I can understand having a party for significant anniversaries, my parents had one on their 25th Wedding Anniversary. But I can't understand why people would want to renew their vows. Just my opinion, no offence intended.