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vivatifosi

lostinrates wrote: »

That does sound good.


Not as good as elective ceaserian though.


I wasn't saying anything at the time, but that storm last week? When DH was travelling, I had some pretty dodgy nerve stuff going on round by back and lungs and I though I was going to kick the bucket then for a while because I copuldn't breath properly and it was getting a bit stressful and everything was getting a bit strained. It was an unusal place for me to get pain, lungy.....almost...hearty. So I was thinking, right....that's it, . I am sort of calmly fatalistic at times like that, :rotfl:

I'm glad I had the weather to distract me tbh, I was thinking, yes, its a good night :rotfl: Out with a bang :rotfl::rotfl:


I just kept posting and trying t relax in case it was my heart.

Now I know that, I can see even more why fir was so determined to get home.

vivatifosi

We applied online for HSBC chewy, it's who our mortgage is with currently. It helped that DH has his current account with them (no joint account here either). A couple of calls later and we were approved. It was very easy, particularly as they had access to our accounts trail.

michaels

When I was looking to remortgage about 6 months ago I think Yorkshire Building Society or their Chelsea brand offered the best on paper offsets. I was with first direct before, I did complain about their not having an offset cash isa and they said it was something they might look at in future, they currently pay 2% on their cash isa so a fair bit more less than their offset mortgage rates - this is probably why they don't offer an offset isa! If you can't offst the isa does offsetting definitely make financial sense, I thought it normally only works for the self employed who pay taxes in a lumpy manner, otherwise the lower rates on a straight repayment tend to 'win'?

bugslet

GDB2222 wrote: »

Thanks. Very insightful, as always. Sometimes, it feels like she is deliberately fighting us just to seek attention in a very negative way. That's because she is quite lucid at times. I agree that it's more likely that she has just given up making any effort at all to stay alive.

The kids are up in arms, because they take the not unreasonable view that if she had a couple of proper meals inside her she would have the strength to carry on and enjoy life for another five years.

MIL has her own home and has expressed the wish to go there. We have engaged a full-time carer, although she will need help as she can't work 24/7. However, that would make it feasible to cope with MIL at her own home. The only question is whether it is better to have her fade away there or here. At the moment, I am just shying away from having her die here, but that's probably completely illogical - just me being squeamish.

Hi GDB, I don't seem to be keeping up vry well with the thread at the moment and missed this earlier.

If she has given up on making an effort to live, then that's her choice. You say that she has lucid moments and my personal beliefs are that you don't transfer your own preferences onto someone.

Mr Bugs in effect starved himself to death, though no-one knows if there was any conscious decision in there to do so, or if the dementia had robbed him of the ability to understand that eating was necessary. With the benefit of hindsight, I regret agreeing to sub-cutaneous fluids for as long as I did as it extended his life unnecessarily.

If it gets to the stage where your MiL is doing the same, it's not a pretty way to go, but at the same time allowing someone to die in a home environment is in my opinion the better thing to do if you can cope with it. I fully appreciate it's difficult and often it seems men don't cope so well as women in my limited experience.

Good luck with whatever decions you have to make.

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

Now I know that, I can see even more why fir was so determined to get home.

He didn't know either:eek: I wouldn't be so mean as to say I think I'm kicking the bucket, don't come home!

Doozergirl

lostinrates wrote: »

That does sound good.


Not as good as elective ceaserian though.


I wasn't saying anything at the time, but that storm last week? When DH was travelling, I had some pretty dodgy nerve stuff going on round by back and lungs and I though I was going to kick the bucket then for a while because I copuldn't breath properly and it was getting a bit stressful and everything was getting a bit strained. It was an unusal place for me to get pain, lungy.....almost...hearty. So I was thinking, right....that's it, . I am sort of calmly fatalistic at times like that, :rotfl:

I'm glad I had the weather to distract me tbh, I was thinking, yes, its a good night :rotfl: Out with a bang :rotfl::rotfl:


I just kept posting and trying t relax in case it was my heart.

Yes, no, I mean, given the choice, I wouldn't choose to die suddenly at home alone over being in hospital with someone I knew! That sounds horrid, lir! :eek:

lostinrates

Doozergirl wrote: »

Yes, no, I mean, given the choice, I wouldn't choose to die suddenly at home alone over being in hospital with someone I knew! That sounds horrid, lir! :eek:

But you seeit was a total over reaction on my part. I just had. A problem which passed.



It wasn't however too horrid. . I was more worried about DH, and I was stressed about him not understanding why I wasn't going to go out in the weather ( too bad for some one feeling great to risk travelling In IMO) to find him.

I was FINE, I was just overreacting, ( and I wasn't alone, I was with the cats and dogs)

neverdespairgirl

lostinrates wrote: »

Iron supplementation in humans in pregnancy, is I am guessing, quite specific?

my private GP told me she advised almost all women (she might have said all, ) to take a particular iron supplement during menstrauation. She's a doctor, I still think that's pretty brave. But prolonged menstruation can be pretty draining, and anaemia is often undetected. If I were in nikksters shoes I'd definitely want it checked.

I KNOW I am prone to anaemia, definitely suffer blood loss, and would take iron all the time but for the limited desire to take more pills. . I defineitly take the that time though, and take them randomly through out the month, Supplement phobics would be horrified.:D

I'm not a supplement phobic, I think they have their time and place - I just don't think it's a good idea to chuck down handsful of random pills just because they might help. You need to have a good reason to do it.

I've never had heavy periods, but I tend to anaemia sometimes anyway, partly, I think, because I rarely eat meat. And I've heard it suggested before that very fair-skinned people are more prone to it, but I'm not sure if that's right. It does make you feel washed out and terrible, though.

I'm not taking pills, it's a liquid thing called Feroglobin B12 (as suggested to me) that is supposed to be refreshing and "delicious tasting", but actually tastes how I imagine road tar would if mixed with artificial orange flavouring.

Nikkster wrote: »

I'll definitely be asking. I feel the GP and I know each other well enough.

I told this story when it happened:
GP: Do you have any regular partners?
Me: No. (Then hastily added) I don't have any irregular ones either!

He definitely looked much more embarrassed than me
We're definitely familiar enough for me to make a polite request.

When my supposed conception date for Isaac was worked out, I said it couldn't have been then, because it was the Wednesday of a week when OH had been in Carlisle for a week-long trial. Midwife looked as horrified as if I was choosing that time and place to break the news to OH about the milkman. Fortunately, OH realised that I was, instead, suggesting that the conception date had been the weekend before or after (-:

They were having some sort of anti-domestic violence drive on in ante-natal care in 2004-5, and asked me at every appointment whether I had any problems with domestic abuse. It struck me as particularly box-ticking when they did that in front of OH, when he came too. What on earth is the actual point of asking someone in front of her partner if he's violent, for goodness sake?

Just before Isaac was born, my patience snapped, so I answered that I only had trouble with domestic abuse if I was drunk AND OH was asking for it.

neverdespairgirl

misskool wrote: »

if it's a female problem I can assure you that the GPs seem particularly averse to helping you and some go as far as to suggest it is psychological or give you diagnoses for everything. You need to line up the ducks and show it to them. and then ask for the tests.

and query why they won't do it. And then move to a different GP :rotfl:

My darling Mama likes almost everyone, and seeks the best in them.

She makes an exception for gynaecologists, though. She firmly believes that men only become gynae specialists because they dislike women. I remember her turning an interesting shade of purple when we were in Greece and a gynae doctor also on the holiday opined over dinner, "show me a teenage girl who says she has problem periods and I know the real issue; she had a problem mother."

misskool wrote: »

we used london & county, they do the standard mortgage brokers and go through what you want and help you. Sometimes, they have deals not available online. If you want a small freebie, I can refer you.

But don't forget to search for direct lenders, e.g. first direct, HSBC.

Although First Direct are terribly, terribly picky about who they lend to. They declined us, even though we have a spotless credit rating, all our tax affairs sorted, and everything. They just didn't like us both being self-employed.

neverdespairgirl

I was a total, absolute bloody idiot today.

I got to Feltham in a nice, relaxed fashion, plenty of time to meet the clients and have a chat before our case started.

Wondered where clients were. Then tried to work out which courtroom my case was in.

Eventually the penny dropped - I was in Feltham, but the clients, and the case, were at Taylor House, in central London, a gentle stroll away from where I live. So I had to belt back in a hurry, feeling like a total moron.

tomterm8 wrote: »

An article that I strongly disagree with.

Also, it's wet outside today. Have to do some work soon...

It's funny how our views of medical ethics vary - like Jenner and smallpox vaccine. He had this idea that cowpox was protective, and to prove it, deliberately gave cowpox to a small boy, then tried to infect him with smallpox, and the boy didn't catch the second. Then he did the same with lots of other people, too.

Now, the idea of using children in such a way would have everyone hysterical (rightly so). But we still think of Jenner as a Good Egg.