Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

purch

michaels wrote: »

Ahem, NP thread, the clue is in the title....

So which of Hamish and Gen were you refering to?!

It's said in jest, and I hope G_D appreciates that......I even :eek: agree with him sometimes

Generali

Anyhoo. Starting to get a little worried by my first visit to the specialist on Thursday (it's Tuesday night my time).

I've not really had anything like this as an adult, I've been rather blessed with good physical health. I'm bothered that I might be accused of smoking. This benign tumour is associated with smoking. I'm a very ex-smoker.

Doozergirl

Generali wrote: »

Anyhoo. Starting to get a little worried by my first visit to the specialist on Thursday (it's Tuesday night my time).

I've not really had anything like this as an adult, I've been rather blessed with good physical health. I'm bothered that I might be accused of smoking. This benign tumour is associated with smoking. I'm a very ex-smoker.

If being accused of being a smoker is the worst you have to worry about today, then I am extremely pleased. I'm sure they'll have seen plenty of people who don't smoke. Stuff happens.

I shall think of you on Thursday. I think of you every day with regards to having stuff cut out of one's head.

Generali

Doozergirl wrote: »

If being accused of being a smoker is the worst you have to worry about today, then I am extremely pleased. I'm sure they'll have seen plenty of people who don't smoke. Stuff happens.

I shall think of you on Thursday. I think of you every day with regards to having stuff cut out of one's head.

That's nice. Every time you think of someone having a bit of head chopped off you think of me.

tomterm8

An article that I strongly disagree with.

Also, it's wet outside today. Have to do some work soon...

Nikkster

Generali wrote: »

Anyhoo. Starting to get a little worried by my first visit to the specialist on Thursday (it's Tuesday night my time).

I've not really had anything like this as an adult, I've been rather blessed with good physical health. I'm bothered that I might be accused of smoking. This benign tumour is associated with smoking. I'm a very ex-smoker.

Maybe it is due to past smoking, maybe it isn't. I doubt they will be able to tell you for sure. Hopefully the Dr. will be more concerned about dealing with it than trying to assign it to a past 'misdemeanour'.

Hope it all goes well.

lostinrates

Doozergirl wrote: »

If being accused of being a smoker is the worst you have to worry about today, then I am extremely pleased. I'm sure they'll have seen plenty of people who don't smoke. Stuff happens.

I shall think of you on Thursday. I think of you every day with regards to having stuff cut out of one's head.

Stuff in head that shouldn't be there is a pain


My head is belting today. I've been mainly curled up whimpering

tomterm8

As a rule conditions aren't caused by smoking... it's a risk factor. Just like living in London is a risk factor (all that pollution) or being a passive smoker is.

Edit: Or, in other words, it's better to deal with the problem than assign blame. And it's better to deal with future problems by reducing risk as far as it's practicable but you're going to die eventually however blameless your life.

GDB2222

LydiaJ wrote: »

Oh GDB. That sounds so difficult for your and your family. Hugs.

Do you think refusing to eat is a kind of "giving up on life" thing? My mum, who had LBD (which gives you dementia and Parkinsonism) and other things, soldiered on for a long time, but near the end she gave up fighting, and stopped eating unless coaxed, and then only tiny amounts. The GP said he'd seen it lots of times before - "They get to a stage where they just give up", he told my dad. With my mum, it didn't feel like a "refusing to eat as a deliberate attempt to bring about her death", but just "no longer having the will or the strength to make any effort to stay alive", which made all the difference to me in terms of being able to accept it.

If your MIL is giving up the effort to stay alive, does she have strong views about where she wants to die? Is she able to express how she feels about it? Perhaps if this really is nearly the end, and she wants to die at home with family rather than in hospital, that might be something you could do for her.

Thanks. Very insightful, as always. Sometimes, it feels like she is deliberately fighting us just to seek attention in a very negative way. That's because she is quite lucid at times. I agree that it's more likely that she has just given up making any effort at all to stay alive.

The kids are up in arms, because they take the not unreasonable view that if she had a couple of proper meals inside her she would have the strength to carry on and enjoy life for another five years.

MIL has her own home and has expressed the wish to go there. We have engaged a full-time carer, although she will need help as she can't work 24/7. However, that would make it feasible to cope with MIL at her own home. The only question is whether it is better to have her fade away there or here. At the moment, I am just shying away from having her die here, but that's probably completely illogical - just me being squeamish.

Nikkster

GDB2222 wrote: »

but that's probably completely illogical

It sounds logical enough to me. It's a horrible situation to be in.