Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

Probably Freudian considering of them as rubbish?

I scroll down on the screen with my finger for I read the posts below mine with my finger above them poised to scroll down to keep reading, then I dart my finger down and hit spam instead of blank space.

Ah, I am still using antediluvian technology with a mouse, so I don't have that problem. I do click on all sorts of wrong things on the rare occasions when I try to read on my phone, though.

lostinrates

Thanks to the dry day my road side hedges are being cut!!!!!

Hurrah, I feel less embarrassed now!


He's going to try inside ones too, then we'll be ready to put up summer fencing again!!

Another year....

ukmaggie45

LydiaJ wrote: »

If anybody works out a wording for a will that would have the effect of giving the widowed spouse the freedom to use the money for housing etc including moves as necessary, while still guaranteeing that the kids would get it in the end, I'd love to hear how it could be done. If I ever marry again, I might want to write a will like that (depending on the ages and levels of income and capital of the various people involved).

Might be worth taking a look, or even posting and asking, on the Death, Funerals and Probate section of the Marriage, Relationships and Families board. That's new since I needed some help and suggestions when my parents died - I posted my questions on the Over 50s as figured that was where I was likely to find people who had been through what I was facing. Reminds me, after 6 and a half years just about my parents' Estates are finalised - need to update my thread!

GDB2222 wrote: »

I told DW that I am happy to have MIL back if we can help her get better, but not if all she is going to do is slide into a rapid decline. I hope that is the right decision all round. I know the children want us to do more for her, so I may relent.

Oh GDB, really feel for you. Hugs. My dear MiL is in a home, and she doesn't eat much, has faded away really, though the staff are wonderful and do their best to try get her to eat. The food arrives, she looks at it, and just says "I can't fancy that, take it away", despite it's what she asked for, admittedly the day before... It seems to help if family or friends are there to encourage her to eat. But not really feasible to manage even just lunchtime every day of the week, though she does get plenty of visitors compared to most folks in homes. I'm sad to say I haven't visited since just before Xmas - both OH and I had really dreadful virus then, and I have my own health issues that make it difficult for me to get over along with all the stuff that needs doing here and at old house.

NDG, might be worth looking at a deed of variation? We ended up doing that for IHT reasons (our second solicitor sorted it out for us), but might be a way round a difficult set of circumstances if all parties agreed? Hope not said too much, let me know if I need to edit this paragraph!

LydiaJ

ukmaggie45 wrote: »

Might be worth taking a look, or even posting and asking, on the Death, Funerals and Probate section of the Marriage, Relationships and Families board. That's new since I needed some help and suggestions when my parents died - I posted my questions on the Over 50s as figured that was where I was likely to find people who had been through what I was facing. Reminds me, after 6 and a half years just about my parents' Estates are finalised - need to update my thread!

Thanks. Should I ever find myself with anybody in my life, other than my kids, to whom I'd want to leave anything, I'll do just that.

silvercar

LydiaJ wrote: »

Are you allowed to tell us anything about the possible new version of the forum?

Does it still have the choice between fixed and stretchy width?
Have they removed any of the stats or added any extras - post count, thanks count, etc?
Does it still have the badges that that badger is supposed to award to people?
Are there any new features that you think are obviously great?
Do you still dislike it in the way you did when you first tried it?
Or is it all too hush hush for you to be able to tell us?

I feel like when told that Jews are the chosen people; chosen as in picked for tasks rather than honoured in some way.

Don't know about width choices.

You still have a post count and a thanked count, but the badges for number of posts have gone. Don't know about badger awards as there are so few of us testing.

The only new feature I like is that the OP stays visible on every page. Not useful on this thread, but when jumping back in on other threads it is quite useful.

One cute feature is that clicking the thanks button causes a thumbs up to appear with "glad you like it" written on it.

I still dislike it, there are some annoyances (at least one I reported as a bug only to be told it was a design). You can't see the total number of pages when you are reading a fast moving thread. You can't see child boards (boards within boards) when you are in a board. I dislike the overall look it is white, even the signatures have a white background and most of the buttons are written onto white backgrounds. Not only is it boring, but it is hard to see at a glance where you are on the page.

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

. I dislike the overall look it is white, even the signatures have a white background and most of the buttons are written onto white backgrounds. Not only is it boring, but it is hard to see at a glance where you are on the page.

This sounds not terribly great for the type of people who have trouble with certain types of reading background.

I think it sounds clean looking (I find Mse very cluttered , so much so I know I don't make use of all the saving things because I find it a bit daunting.

All that stuff on the right? I never look at it. Ever. It just clutters my eyes .

ukmaggie45

silvercar wrote: »

You still have a post count and a thanked count, but the badges for number of posts have gone.

Oh no! I really like the badges for number of posts, felt so proud when I got my third one! Plus it gives you an instant feel as to how experienced on the forum an individual is without having to look at numbers. Multi medalled folks have been doing it for ages, and (probably/should be) aware of the rules and so on. Which I think does make some difference? I'm sure I'm not the only person (Nice or otherwise ) who likes to watch their post count and badges going up? OK, I'm just a sad person! :eek: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

lostinrates

ukmaggie45 wrote: »

Oh no! I really like the badges for number of posts, felt so proud when I got my third one! Plus it gives you an instant feel as to how experienced on the forum an individual is without having to look at numbers. Multi medalled folks have been doing it for ages, and (probably/should be) aware of the rules and so on. Which I think does make some difference? I'm sure I'm not the only person (Nice or otherwise ) who likes to watch their post count and badges going up? OK, I'm just a sad person! :eek: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Actually, I think its better they go.

I think that they do just what you say, and that it can be misleading. My posts are all accrued talking dribble, quickly.

ukmaggie45

lostinrates wrote: »

Actually, I think its better they go.

I think that they do just what you say, and that it can be misleading. My posts are all accrued talking dribble, quickly.

Most of my posts weren't about talking dribble - at least in the early days. And even now I don't post much, and I try to make useful posts. Yes, some are chat posts both here and with the daydreamers, but chat isn't dribble, it's trying to be supportive even when can't be helpful in terms of knowledge. Plus (some) chat helps build a community, which I feel is what should be happening here on MSE in general - and I think mostly it does work towards that. Your posts help build community, even when they don't necessarily impart "useful moneysaving stuff" - so just as important IMO.

neverdespairgirl

michaels wrote: »

A quick google of 'your age and births' suggests that 'of course' should be replaced with 'pretty unusual'....

One of Isaac's classmates is in that position - he was born when his mother was 42, and his sister came along as something of a surprise when their mother was 48.

But not exactly common, if not out of the question, anyway.

WHen I was pregnant with Isaac there was a fuss about some Italian IVF patient who was pregnant, aged 58 or 59, with her first. My mother, who was younger than that at the time, paled at the very idea of pregnancy and new motherhood for herself, she thought it was a better idea to be expecting her first grandchild in her 50s!

ukmaggie45 wrote: »

NDG, might be worth looking at a deed of variation? We ended up doing that for IHT reasons (our second solicitor sorted it out for us), but might be a way round a difficult set of circumstances if all parties agreed? Hope not said too much, let me know if I need to edit this paragraph!

I'm sure all sorts will be discussed - the trouble is, deeds of variation are only relevant when all existing beneficiaries (in this case, wife #2) agree, and that's likely to be the sticking point.