How sociable are you?

mudgekin

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Have you both given any thought to how things will be when one of you is left on your own?

We have and the thought is dreadful. Hopefully it won't be for a while yet and when it happens then we will just have to see what we do. I can't see at our ages and with our physical problems that there are a lot of options open and especially where we live.

We are genuinely happy and content and self sufficient so far.

busiscoming2

I suppose I'm just below the halfway mark in being Sociable. I am quite content to spend time on my own doing my own thing. Am pretty rubbish at small talk and find it very boring even trying.
I can't actually spend more than one day without going out even if it is just for a walk. I can't stand the feeling of being shut in.
I do find some social situations quite scary but then I think the vast majority of people are like that too, which makes me feel better

LittleMissPennyStretcher

It is me,DD,our cat and our pooch.

I do have a few close friends that I see on a regular basis. Obviously I see people for school run but I don't class that as socializing.
I have the odd lunch or coffee with friends and have a really good catch up and on a very rare occasion a couple of Vinos at the pub but if I had to all the time I would go stir crazy...I love my me time!! :j

Whether that is sat reading my book,watching my tv program,walking pooch or enjoying a cuppa and coming on here.
DD likes to potter around the garden with me and she absolutely loves to join in the cooking/baking-although I also enjoy doing these things alone-and I treasure the time I get to spend just us,I have her all to myself


I don't have a partner and that (at the moment) suits me just fine. I worry that I wouldn't be able to 'squeeze in time' with him...or I don't want to sacrifice my me time . I do get lonely but this usually happens when I have spent time with couple friends but as soon as I am home pottering I realise I am happy with the way my life is.

I would say I am half and half and pretty darn happy!!

red_devil

We are pretty self sufficient and happy together. We rely on family for nothing. We are alone at xmas but as oh works hard in own business we enjoy a few days off together. All our christmaases just us may have been quiet but they are always very enjoyable.

115K

LameWolf wrote: »

Now THAT is definitely something that really, really worries me. DH is my Carer - I need assistance with things like bathing and dressing. I have no family - I'm estranged from the whole boiling of 'em. I am also childless (by choice, I have to add - I'd have been a lousy mother). DH is 10 years older than me, and is currently 5 years older than the age at which his Dad died. The idea of being at the tender mercies of Social Services is completely unacceptable.:eek::eek::eek::eek:
*Hides under table and chews a slipper*.

This is something that worries me too.:(

I am antisocial and have been socialising less and less since we adopted our rescue dogs. They seem to take the place of human company for me.:o

I am very content with just my DH, my animals, walks, watching TV and films, internet and my kindle.:o

jackieblack

busiscoming2 wrote: »

I suppose I'm just below the halfway mark in being Sociable. I am quite content to spend time on my own doing my own thing. Am pretty rubbish at small talk and find it very boring even trying.
I can't actually spend more than one day without going out even if it is just for a walk. I can't stand the feeling of being shut in.
I do find some social situations quite scary but then I think the vast majority of people are like that too, which makes me feel better

I'm the same as you, and I think you're right that a lot of people can feel uncomfortable in social situations.
I dread getting an invitation to anything like a party or a wedding. My first instinct is 'how can I get out of it'

davenport151

bluebag wrote: »

I love being alone, lets me head breathe. I don't do much socializing by choice, generally run of the mill conversation leaves me a bit bored and vacant.

I am at my happiest in a muddy field really, water, birds, rain, any thing that nature sends me 'cept cows I is ascared 'o cows.

Shopping leaves me totally cold, eating out is not the wild experience my friends seem to find it and I don't do fashion, celebs or reality TV.

Writing it down I've just realized I am a boring f**t to most folk.
Better off in the muddy field.

I could have wrote this (I see charlies-aunt said you were sisters under the skin-Me too)!

I remember out for a walk on my birthday one year (just after christmas ) thinking how happy I was walking in a muddy field in the middle of nowhere!
I do socialise with people I know - my work has a xmas meal coming up but we all know each other well. A friend from school that I meet occasionally for a coffee and a chat and a friend I still see from when we worked together. But those times are few and far between. I would rather be cosy at home.

I am more confident now than I was in my teens and 20s (& 30s)...So will strike a conversation but i do not go out of my way to socialise.

I'm scared of cows too.

agreenmess

I learned very early on that "friends" only want something from you and if they don't get that then they tend to be backstabbing, with this in mind I don't have friends. I have "work colleagues" who I talk to but if you stuck me in a room on my own I would just be as happy if not happier. I do have a couple of people who I talk to outside of work and one I would kinda call a friend but they are all at least 30 years older than me, everyone my age only cares about how to get drunk at the weekend and sleep with someone they don’t know, not how to make butter out of cream or how to re-use something instead of throwing it away or how to knit this/craft that.

I managed to find my soul mate at the age of 18 (I found him online, we meet the day after he asked me out, a year later he moved over here once he finished Uni and that’s that!) wasn't even interested in boys and even now 7 years later I'm still none the wiser, never had anyone else and never want to. We don't smoke and don't drink, never have done, never will do so the thought of going to a pub and seeing drunk people really isn't our idea of fun. We tend to do allot of walking, we own three lovely children a Cocker Spaniel (Joey) and a Welsh Springer (Oscar) and BamBam the cat, we also do allot of cycling when we are out and about with cooking, crafting, DIY ect when we are at home. I think we could probably even get rid of the tv, were not really into that either lol.

I love the fact me and the other half can put some music on in the background and sit next to each other for hours on end not even talking just being so happy in each other’s company. We love each other’s company and that’s that quite happy not to socialise if I could do we'd live on a little Island, be self sufficient and just have each other.

On the OS side its very unknown to talk to someone who has the same practices I have, even today I was knitting a pair of gloves at lunch and my work colleague was saying how everything hand knitted is so frumpy and old and how it’s stupid that I’m doing it when I could just buy it in the shop and it would be allot nicer, grrrrrrrrrr, I thought the gloves were lovely hence why I was knitting them, made me quite upset. Allot of people think I'm crazy in saying I cook everything from scratch and I grow my own things and I want to be as self sufficient as possible, I've given up talking to people, I tend to stick to here and other forums TBH.

I’m finding it quite interesting that there is quite allot of us on the forums that are just like this.

HTH

Justamum

agreenmess wrote: »

I’m finding it quite interesting that there is quite allot of us on the forums that are just like this.

Me too! Reading most of these posts I could easily have written them myself

Greetings also from the Isle of Man

Muzikmaster

What a great read this thread is.

I'm single and have been single for most of my life. I can count on one hand the amount of long term partners I've had. The longest being 6 months. I have a 16 year old daughter who stays with me 4 nights a week and I'm also gay which I'm not ashamed of.

I'm the happiest I've even been in my life (now 40) and I have no intention of looking for a partner to settle down. I really enjoy my own company and being able to do things when I want to do them.

My social life isn't the best and I'm not bothered about that. I'm happy and thats all I am bothered about.