How sociable are you?

bluebag

I love being alone, lets me head breathe. I don't do much socializing by choice, generally run of the mill conversation leaves me a bit bored and vacant.

I am at my happiest in a muddy field really, water, birds, rain, any thing that nature sends me 'cept cows I is ascared 'o cows.

Shopping leaves me totally cold, eating out is not the wild experience my friends seem to find it and I don't do fashion, celebs or reality TV.

Writing it down I've just realized I am a boring f**t to most folk.
Better off in the muddy field.

Honeythief

Add me to the crowd who don't need/want to be part of a crowd! I am very happy with my own company most of the time. My husband is the opposite and would go crazy if he didn't have a million friends and social outlets, so he mostly goes out with his own mates and leaves me to it. I can knit or sew or cook or read a book and don't care at all if I see nobody but my own reflection most of the time.

I do worry that I am turning into somebody who is not fun to be with, and I would quickly become very isolated if something happened to remove the social outlet that I do get through my husband and his events (which I do sometimes attend). It's difficult to force myself to keep in touch with other people but it's probably quite dangerous to rely so heavily on just one other.

strandedinaber

I live alone and quite enjoy it. I love seeing friends when I'm in my home town but miss them horribly the rest of the time (I live four hours away from my best friends and family), so I am attempting to build up a bit of a social network in my current area because I occasionally feel a bit lonely. Pretty happy as I am as a solitary being though.

Justamum

moments_of_sanity wrote: »

Me too, whoever said silence is loud must have been mad! :rotfl:

Add me to the list of non-sociable people

As for the silence bit - I don't understand people who find silence "awkward" and feel the need to fill it with constant verbal noise. It's annoying.

GreyQueen

I think we live in a culture which places a very high value on gregariousness, even if it's the somewhat specious kind of having 250 FB "friends" and rattling around pubs and clubs in packs of 10-20 with a fair few included in the group whom you barely know, and probably wouldn't find much in common with, should you spend the time getting to know them better. A person has to be seen to be "popular".

I was once fascinated to hear two of my colleagues, attractive mid-twenty-something men with girlfriends and lots of male pals and good social lives, discussing whether it was "OK" to go to the cinema on your own.

Both admitted to quite liking this, but one said that he wouldn't want to be seen to go to the cinema on his own, unless it was an off-peak time when he was unlikely to be seen by anyone who knew him, in case he was thought to be a Billy No-Mates. And the other was in absolute agreement.

Fascinating. Some people are so hyper-socialised that they won't go out alone in case they're judged as being sad-sacks who have no choice to go out alone..........

And don't even get me started on the people who can't spend even the time walking down the street without constant distraction from their i(diot) phone or headphones. I think some people are genuinely frightened of the sound of their own thoughts and strive to crowd them out at all times.

[Deleted User]

Count me in as another one who likes my own company most of the time. I don't do so badly in social situations now but quaked at the knees at the thought of having to go to a 'function' when I was younger. I have a couple of very good friends and see them once in a while, the one I see most often I walk the dog with and that's about twice a week. I'm not madly keen on eating out as I always find it a dissapointment for the amount charged, I don't drink and I don't smoke so I find it a bit of a trial being out with people who do. I rarely go to the cinema or theatre and find the TV very very BORING most days. I guess my favourite evening would be a nice bath followed by snuggling up with a book beside the fire and maybe a cup of hot chocolate!!!

Macca83_2

I love my own company.

I work with the public on a daily basis so I'll quite often find myself needing a half hour or so when I get Home to just sit by myself and unwind. It drives my partner crazy but after a day of answering questions and dealing with different requests I just want to sit quietly, watch a wee bit of telly or check up on emails etc. After that I'm good to go!

I'm fine in a social situation, quieter than my friends but then that's not hard! I seem to have the most sociable, out going friends going.

But the one thing I can't stand is someone that can't deal with silence. I'm sure you all know someone like that who would rather talk absolute drivel than sit in comfortable silence.

dandy-candy

Greyqueen there is a lot of truth in what you say. Even though I never use an MP3 player and I'm happy to go to the cinema alone, I haven't joined Facebook because I would only have about 5 people to "friend" and I don't want to look like a billy-no-mates. Isn't it awful to feel the pressure? That's why I avoid it!

[Deleted User]

I was the oldest of seven, then I went to college and then teaching so life has always been full of people. When dh was a boss then I had to go to lots of functions and make small talk to strangers, when being quiet was my nature

I left work, dh retired, we moved. I have to say that I absolutely love my own company and am in my element, I have silence all around me for most of the day, if I need uplifting (rarely) then I listen to my new age music. I craft, work on the allotment, bake, preserve, read and I do not need anyone outside of my own family circle. I like to cocoon myself in my own house, doors closed to the outside world

I will not go on facebook or twitter and don`t have a mobile phone, I avoid most of the monthly coffee mornings in the village but am out and about just enough to say hello from time to time. Someone older and wiser said when we moved here `keep a distance as it is a small village` quite right too as people are friendly and that is as far as I want to go.

So to sum up: I am not sociable but am very very happy

trolleyrun

When I'm at work, I'm surrounded by people all the time, so I do enjoy being on my own (with the mutt) when I'm not working. Gives me head space and I can do whatever I feel like. I'm not concerned with being popular or fashionable and unless I'm grocery shopping I detest shopping. In an ideal world I'd be living in a little cottage in the middle of nowhere with the dog, some chickens and a decent vegetable garden.

Am I happy? Absolutely!