How sociable are you?

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Pooky wrote: »

I'm very antisocial most of the time. But I'm happy with my little bubble.

I've got my hobbies, my family and my moggies.

I have a couple of longstanding friends, the sort you can call on in a crisis but if you don't manage to speak for a few months then no biggy.

This is so like me ( but we have guineas and a rabbit instead of moggies). I love snuggling on the sofa in front of a drama with my knitting and a stack of biccies. I can call a friend I haven't spoken to in six months, and we talk like we saw each other yesterday.

snookey

Iv always liked my own company but I can be sociable when I need to be.

Having had mh issues isolated me from the outside for quiet a while so being on here has helped get me .

GreyQueen

Hmmm, two dear friends are incoming in a few mins for an evening of laughs, my famous h.m. pizza, a bit of wine and some wacky board games. We'll have about 4 hours' socialising and it'll be great but it'll leave me knackered for days...........

I have ME and a couple of other health problems and a temperament which likes to spend a fair bit of time on my ownsome, although I'm otherwise gregarious. If I have people around me 24/7 I start to come unglued after a few weeks and want to go into my cave.

I have very few people IRL who are on-side with the OS way of doing things, although some have an overlap with an interest in crafts and gardening. Mostly, it's best not to talk about things which aren't of interest to people who'd just be bored by them. If they want to know, they only have to ask, is my viewpoint.

Today I've been at work in a busy call-centre, enjoyed the company of my colleagues, talked to some lovely members of the public, dropped into a pal's shop for a natter on the way home and that's plenty. Oh, and had two convos with SuperGran, on the other side of the block, by phone.

Byatt

Can I just ask, for those who say they enjoy being on their own, are they on their own at home also?

Pasture'sNew, I think you've hit the nail on the head, lack of money does prevent socialising, and when you are alone at home, much as I enjoy my own company, I can get stir crazy talking to myself and my cat.

I don't have the problem of not having friends who are frugal, because we all seem to be in the same boat, plus even my better off clients/friends whilst being much better of financially than me, have very frugal ways, some might call them skinflints but not me.

GreyQueen

Yeah, I'm on my own at home, and loving it.

Lack of money does limit your social options, and I have some stuff I do with certain friends and some stuff those same friends have long learned not to invite me to join them at, such as theatre trips/ gigs in Lunnon Town or meals out in restaurants.

snookey

I do have my family around me but did live on my own which I loved.

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I am a fairly sociable soul ,but I also never mind being on my own either.I lead a very busy life with my two DDs and their families and 7 grandchildren and am on call for most of the week.Saturdays is a day when I can potter about if I wish on my own, and catch up with all the things I haven't had time for during the week. I go to a Creative wrtting course, a Pub quiz, coffee mornings,Book club,Knitting group, History club, a Luncheon club,and I'm thinking of joining the local evening W.I. as well:D.
I also look after four of my DGS before and after school and fulltime during the holidays.So Saturdays are my day of rests.Sundays I have my eldest DD in the morning for her coffee and breakfast brunch, and late afternoon I go to my youngest DDs for dinner and scrabble or cards with the children.
So I suppose I do get out and about quite a bit.When I was sadly widowed 10 years ago I felt like I never wanted to step out of the house again ,then I though my late OH would have hated to think of me giving up and retreating from life as he loved life so much .
We had been retired by then for 8 years and although he perhaps wasn't as much of a 'joiner' as I am he still enjoyed folks company.He never minded what I did in my spare time as I had always said that life is for enjoying and having worked for most of it I was going to do everything that I wanted to try now I didn't have to work I returned to adult education and did various exams and went to Uni (great fun as I was by far the oldest person in the class and the other students treated me as a surrogate Granny ) I learnt to swim (another skill I always wanted to have a go at.)Each year since I have tried to learn a new skill or pastime.
Having gone through a mastectomy in 2007 and all the following treatment of chemo and r/therapy I got the all clear in June of this year so now have picked up the threads of life again and every day to me is a bonus. Lots of lovely ladies I went through the treatment with never sadly survived , I was one of the lucky ones who did and I make the most of everyday since then.but even when I am indoors on my own I don't mind as I am always doing something or other I'm just one of those people who find it hard to do just nothing:DLife won't come to you,you have to get out and live it,but if you enjoy being alone that's good as well Its what YOU enjoy doing that's important
JackieO xx

Goldiegirl

I'm quite shy by nature, and being an only child, from an early age I was used to entertaining myself, so I'm quite happy to spend time alone.


I currently work two days a week and Mr GG works 4 days a week. We have the weekends at home together and Wednesdays, but Monday and Tuesday are my home alone days, and I relish the solitude.


The days go by so quick and I'm never bored, there always something to do. I try and get my housework done on Monday, so I can have Tuesdays for me, whether it's family history, working on my little eBay business, reading or jigsaws.


I do have a couple of good friends that I see every few weeks, by I don't have a packed diary or social engagements. But, I wouldn't really want a packed diary, Apart from going on cruises, I'm a bit of a home bird

sparrer

I love being home alone, or rather with the company of my little dog and cat. I worked in the people business for 30+ years, am now on my own and can honestly say I never get lonely. I have a chronic illness which makes it embarrassing to be in company for long due to an incessant cough so I don't enjoy it anyway.

I go to fellowship meetings on average twice a week, I shop before both so I don't have to make more trips than necessary, both for (anti) social and economic reasons. The fellowship has endless weekends away, retreats etc which I can join in if I want to, but seldom feel the need. My DD lives 9 miles away, I visit her most Monday mornings for a cuppa and maybe once a month we'll go out for a light lunch. That way I can guarantee she also gets out occasionally. She has a disability and no transport during the week so those times are quite precious.

Not a crafty person but I do like to cook/bake which my amazing neighbours benefit from. We don't keep running in and out of each other's homes but they are always there should I need them. I love my little home and garden, they've a joy to me and I don't need or want anyone invading my little corner of the world.

Having said which I'd never refuse anyone who comes to my door just for a cuppa and a chat, their need may be greater than mine.

MATH

I am very sociable. Raising the three MATHLETTS (when it wasn't as fashionable for men to be doing such things) I had to gate crash the Mum's & Toddler groups, with a "I'm here - deal with it" attitude.

I now work with children with profound physical and learning difficulties. It is a job that seams to attract a lot of compassionate, outgoing people (like me LOL). We have lots of social events and after-work get togethers. They don't have to be expensive. The other night, a colleague made a huge vat of pumpkin soup, and we all brought a bottle and something to dunk in the soup. It was a great night.

My book club deliberately sticks to Amazon 1p books or uses the local library to keep it cheap and cheerful, and gossip cost nothing!!!We meet every six weeks and have a wild ol' time.

I am also an active member of my local church and am involved in a lot of the activities and groups there as well as attending the services. It's very comforting to know that if you 'fell off the map' someone would notice and come looking for you!

Having said that, I do like my own company too. A Saturday morning just pottering making soup, bread or gardening is a lovely treat, and I do plan in a couple of nights in a week to just veg out, have a bath and read a book.