How sociable are you?

flowertotmum

Hi..i love my own company..not that i get much time on my own..i home school my 2 little ones so they are with me.
I prefer my own bubble to the world out there..i see it from my older girls the pressure to have this and that..be amazingly good at everything,go here and go there..do this do that..enough it drives me mad.
So i conciously put a stop to it all..its just me the girls hubby and son..we are all happy not to be sociable..but are gracious when we have visitors.
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VfM4meplse

Like many, I'm happy on my own and in company. Too many mights out in a row leave me craving time to myself, though, and I would be seriously unhappy if I was in an environment with people I don't like (eg stuck with a spouse I don't get on with).

PasturesNew wrote: »

I am always on my own, I don't know anybody and haven't the spare money to go and do things/meet people. I've just been to buy some basic food and it's the first time I've left this room for 3 weeks I think.

This is not healthy. Is going out for an occasional walk, to the park, the library, anywhere there is community activity not an option? If you pay council tax - and even if you don't - try to take advantage of whats out there. Not everything needs to cost money; sometimes spending just a little on a small treat (like a chat over a cup of cup of tea) can do you a lot of good.

Steve059

The older I've gotten, the less sociable I've become.

Bogof_Babe

PasturesNew wrote: »

I am always on my own, I don't know anybody and haven't the spare money to go and do things/meet people. I've just been to buy some basic food and it's the first time I've left this room for 3 weeks I think.

VfM4meplse wrote: »

This is not healthy. Is going out for an occasional walk, to the park, the library, anywhere there is community activity not an option? If you pay council tax - and even if you don't - try to take advantage of whats out there. Not everything needs to cost money; sometimes spending just a little on a small treat (like a chat over a cup of cup of tea) can do you a lot of good.

Just what I was thinking when I read PN's post. I'd go stir-crazy if I didn't get out for a walk and a change of scene almost every day. Doesn't have to involve meeting people -just a bit of window shopping, or simply walking to the edge of town and back.

I'm not comfortable in big noisy crowds and not very good at keeping in touch with people, but I'll chat to a stranger on a bus if they say something first! Perfectly happy to spend time alone though, and prefer to be alone when I'm off for a mooch around the shops.

jackomdj

I fall into both categories. I am happy with my own company, but also happy to spend time being social with others, though I can be quite fussy about who I choose to be friends with.

I do have quite a lot of close friends (although they are quite spread out with where they live), I have some friends who I get on fantastically with, although if you compared our upbringing, likes, dislikes etc you probably would not put us as a match.

I am lucky as my OH is similar, although he does go through phases of being more antisocial!

OrkneyStar

I love my own company but as I get older I am also starting to enjoy the company of friends. It is great to have things in common but I am also realising it is great if we don't agree on everything.

charlies-aunt

BB - we are sisters under the skin!


I love being alone, lets me head breathe. I don't do much socializing by choice, generally run of the mill conversation, gossiping & !!!!!ing leaves me cynical, bored and vacant.

I much prefer animals to people & am at my happiest in a natural environment - muddy field, windswept beach, water, birds, rain, any thing that nature sends me...... even cows as I isn't ascared 'o cows. :rotfl:

Shopping leaves me totally cold, going for a drink, team lunches, eating out are not the wild, fun experiences that my friends seem to find them and I don't do fashion, celebs or reality TV. Never had the faintest interest in acrylic nails, tattoo's, hair extensions, spray tans or false eyelashes

I, too, am a boring f**t to most folk :rotfl:

melanzana

I have always liked being on my own. Don't know why, but am at my best when pottering about in the house or the garden, going for a walk, or taking a trip into town.

I live alone but have had a partner for years. He lives in the country, I in the city and we hook up once a week and at the weekend. But not ALL of the weekend either! We both like our space, and are quite alike in that respect. We prefer just each others company, but occasionally have dinner with friends, and reciprocate. Enjoy that.

I too am not a shopper. I must be odd, but I absolutely dread weddings and the Christmas work do and so on. I find it so boring being with people i dont know too well, and the forced jollity of it all. Its quite hard work sitting beside someone you don't know and trying to keep an interesting conversation going for hours! Anyone else find this?

I am good fun to be around though, (so Im told!) specially with my girlfriends and family. I just love being with my two young nephews. They are the light of my life, no kids myself. I have a very small circle of friends, but I so enjoy their company, and family is very important to me too.

I lost my youngest sister in the Summer, and that has had a devastating effect on me. She was a party girl and so witty, and so much fun, a total foil to me. Each to their own. I miss her terribly.

I am planning to take early retirement next Summer touch wood, and all my colleagues are asking me what will I do with my time..... But I know I will never be bored, and am looking forward to spending more time with OH who also retired early, last year.

I think if you are happy in your own company you do not need to be surrounded by activity and people. You will know what you like yourself.

This is a great thread, and I am very relieved that I am not the only one who prefers a very quiet life!

lostinrates

dandy-candy wrote: »

As a city dwelling OS I find if I talk to people about being frugal and doing things the old fashioned way, they look at me like I have two heads. Everyone seems to talk about careers, moving up the ladder, buying fancy stuff, holiday etc. Basically I have nothing in common with these people.
I love it on here and on other sites because people are proud to be family orientated and frugal, do crafts and Eco friendly stuff. I'm actually turning into a bit of a hermit as I love nothing better than being at home alone fiddling with my knitting, baking, pottering around the garden etc. I don't really feel the need to be with other people, but it totally freaks my DH out! I have always wanted to live somewhere quiet with nature but he thinks that's weird.
How sociable are you offline? Do you need to be around other people or are you happy left to your own devices?

I don't think the career driven stuff and 'frugal'
is as mutually exclusive as often portrayed.

DH works in a lucrative environment, works extremely hard, in a pretty all consuming career and yet we are 'frugal' people on a day to day basis. Certainly, the painter who came yesterday was shocked we didn't have tv other than free view and friends in less ' cut and thrust' careers than dh's have asked things like why our car isn't newer or why we haven't done x, y or z in our old wreck of a house.

But by being frugal we had a very considerable house deposit, that let us buy the Wreck which we will never outgrow. By not being reckless with money, when we buy fabric for curtains, the fabric we buy is 'fancy stuff' but its been bought while, and by, forgoing a lot of stuff a lot of people consider 'run of the mill'.

A lot of the richest people I know are also the most old style !!


Any way, how social am I? Less than I'd like to be. Health precludes getting out to often. Though we have nice neighbours because we don't get out as often as we would like at weekends ( only time DH is home) we haven't made more really good very local friends, I have a couple of nice girlfriends here in the sticks, but any kindred spirit friends are further a field in cities close to here or in London).

Increasingly as we leave our early thirties, DH and I wonder if staying in Europe far from immediate family of our generation as we are childless is going to be fulfilling emotionally. We love England, and feel a call in our bones to be here, but financially and for family.....its not so good for us here. These things can be hard to balance.

tiredwithtwins

I like my own company and have no wish to go partying in any shape or form.
As a child I was bullied because of my looks (goofy teeth, thick glasses, skinny) so was a fairly lonely child. when I got into my 20s and went off to London to do my nurse training I seemed to come out of my shell a bit and did party and socialise hard - I also did a lot of travelling, usually alone cos none of my friends had any desire to chuck on a backpack and travel the world, they were more interested in parties and blokes! but when I had kids I kinda settled down, and now would rather spend my time with my kids and new partner (the ex was a drag on my soul so I had to leave him) and enjoy simple stuff. I don't really have any friends, except about 5 online friends that I chat to regularly. I get on well with my work colleagues but they are busy with family and their own friends so I don't socialise with them except on the odd works do ... and quite like it this way.