In this situation would you have said something (as I did) or keep quiet?

emsywoo123

One child didn't come to my son's 3rd birthday party yesterday, which was at a huge "cost per head" expense. No phone call, no text, nothing. Should I a) be plotting some awful revenge ready for nursery tomorrow b) accept something happened, and hope for an apology or explaination tomorrow, but just move on if it doesn't.
This thread has got me thinking now. :-D

KiKi

meritaten wrote: »

But - despite the OP giving them plenty of notice of the party - they ring up the night before and say they aren't coming. now in my book that it is not on unless there is an emergency. then they INVITE themselves for the next weekend? dunno about you, but I am not very keen on people inviting themselves to my house.

I guess it's lucky they're not your cousins, then.

Dunroamin

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

It's to share the 'joy' of their little princess don't you know!

Done for the presents, more like.;)

Mojisola

meritaten wrote: »

But - despite the OP giving them plenty of notice of the party - they ring up the night before and say they aren't coming. now in my book that it is not on unless there is an emergency. then they INVITE themselves for the next weekend? dunno about you, but I am not very keen on people inviting themselves to my house.

If the "host" really didn't like it, wouldn't he have told them that the family had plans so it wasn't convenient?

It sounds as if he wanted to spend the money it took to do a 200 mile round trip just so he could upset them face-to-face.

*max*

meritaten wrote: »

But - despite the OP giving them plenty of notice of the party - they ring up the night before and say they aren't coming. now in my book that it is not on unless there is an emergency. then they INVITE themselves for the next weekend? dunno about you, but I am not very keen on people inviting themselves to my house.

What's wrong with having a last minute emergency? Or even not actually really wanting to go and drive 3 hours to a child's birthday party because you're a little tired? They did say in advance they weren't coming! Or does a child's 2nd birthday party require a month notice???

And! What wrong with saying no if people want to "invite themselves" to yours? Which I strongly suspect is just a figure of speech actually - they more likely said "Sorry we couldn't make it, we could come next weekend if you want?". To which OP agreed - just so he could teach them a lesson! Urgh.

Seriously. What is wrong with some people??

mountainofdebt

meritaten wrote: »

But - wouldn't you all have turned round and gone back home? if they felt offended why stay? why not say 'scuse me but - it couldn't be helped and we came THIS weekend?' why say nothing and then text you were offended?

what stormed out of the house in a huff? No I wouldn't but I wouldn't rush back either.

I had a relative who made an embarrassing comment to me in front of a load of people and I was so upset that our relationship hasn't fully recovered 11 years on.

POPPYOSCAR

meritaten wrote: »

But - despite the OP giving them plenty of notice of the party - they ring up the night before and say they aren't coming. now in my book that it is not on unless there is an emergency. then they INVITE themselves for the next weekend? dunno about you, but I am not very keen on people inviting themselves to my house.

But not everyone is in control of when they work- he may have had to go to work despite thinking he was free that week. In this economic climate people will do what they have to to keep their job and I commend them for that.


When they said they would come the following week the Op could always have said no.

Tiddlywinks

meritaten wrote: »

But - despite the OP giving them plenty of notice of the party - they ring up the night before and say they aren't coming. now in my book that it is not on unless there is an emergency. then they INVITE themselves for the next weekend? dunno about you, but I am not very keen on people inviting themselves to my house.

It's a two year old child's birthday party... who won't be any the wiser about a couple of adults missing the day.

Now, if we were talking about the birthday of a new born, slumbering in a manger, the north star shining above and three shepherds standing nearby... maybe that would be a different matter !

The world and commerce does NOT revolve around a kid's birthday party.

dandelionclock30

I think your expectations are too high. Its only a cousin and a lot of people cant be bothered doing family stuff at the best of times. Frankly a lot of people apart from little tots wouldnt want to be bothered with a party for a 2 year old.
I would have just let it go and enjoyed the company of the people who wanted to be there and not said anything to them when they visited.

Tyler_Du

Wow, I'm surprised do people really not let each other know how they feel in situations like this? Doesn't not being honest cause more problems / resentment in the long run. To those suggesting that any malice was intended please don't be ridiculous.