In this situation would you have said something (as I did) or keep quiet?

emsywoo123

*max* wrote: »

Actually, I don't even know how they found the inner strength to stay the day and pretend to enjoy it. I'd have gathered my things and left on the spot, no matter how far I'd have to drive back.

Then you'd be off my social calendar until I received a grovelling apology.

I'm gobsmacked.

What I like about MSE is that it teaches me that
A) things are not all that bad for me
my friends/family are crazy but not off the scale
C) I'll never really understand people.

KiKi

meritaten wrote: »

But - wouldn't you all have turned round and gone back home? if they felt offended why stay? why not say 'scuse me but - it couldn't be helped and we came THIS weekend?' why say nothing and then text you were offended?

Sometimes you're so taken aback you take a while to process things. Plus, you've driven 100 miles and you want the kids to have a good time. Or, you've reflected on it afterwards and realised you are upset.

We've all had things happen that have riled us but stuck it out for the sake of the kids / a happy family etc, or where it's only when we've stopped and thought about it that we've realised that wasn't okay.

(The OP took a WEEK to tell his cousin that they were cross with them, even though they were immediately annoyed.)

Dunroamin

Do people always invite loads of adults to a children's party and, if so, why?

goonarmy

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

We didn't let them visit just to have a row, we always get special food for my cousins husband when they visit

Buying food doesnt mean you didnt tell em off. Not on.

random1980s

by creating this thread the op has at least made me realise I am not the biggest idiot on here. seriously, grow up you plonker

*max*

emsywoo123 wrote: »

What I like about MSE is that it teaches me that
A) things are not all that bad for me
my friends/family are crazy but not off the scale
C) I'll never really understand people.

I'm with you there. It takes reading stuff like this to remind me I actually have it really good. Some people are just unreal!

POPPYOSCAR

I also think you are making mountain out of a molehill and I am sorry to say this but it does smack a bit of your own self importance.


People have to work and sometimes have no choice in the matter if they want to keep their job.

My daughter and her boyfriend had tickets to see a show last week and he was told he had to work late that night, he told them he had booked to go out and he was told he still had to work. He wants his job so he did it.

I think you should be apologising to them for making them feel so uncomfortable in your home.

KiKi

Dunroamin wrote: »

Do people always invite loads of adults to a children's party and, if so, why?

IME, when they're very little, yes. Often for 1-4 year olds it's just family and adult friends (who may or may not have kids). When they hit 5 onwards, we adults get dumped for their schoolfriends.

Tiddlywinks

Dunroamin wrote: »

Do people always invite loads of adults to a children's party and, if so, why?

It's to share the 'joy' of their little princess don't you know!

meritaten

KiKi wrote: »

Sometimes you're so taken aback you take a while to process things. Plus, you've driven 100 miles and you want the kids to have a good time. Or, you've reflected on it afterwards and realised you are upset.

We've all had things happen that have riled us but stuck it out for the sake of the kids / a happy family etc, or where it's only when we've stopped and thought about it that we've realised that wasn't okay.

(The OP took a WEEK to tell his cousin that they were cross with them, even though they were immediately annoyed.)

But - despite the OP giving them plenty of notice of the party - they ring up the night before and say they aren't coming. now in my book that it is not on unless there is an emergency. then they INVITE themselves for the next weekend? dunno about you, but I am not very keen on people inviting themselves to my house.