In this situation would you have said something (as I did) or keep quiet?

neverdespairgirl

This thread's been highly unusual in one way - the almost complete unanimity that the OP was in the wrong, ranging from thinking he was mildly in the wrong, to bang out of order. Rare agreement!

Tyler_Du

It seems that whatever I say or do I'm in the wrong, I said that I apologized to them both "to be on the safe side" meaning that even though my cousin said she was ok with everything, I apologised to her also in case she was saying that. The post(s) that I was referring to as trolling were some in which I was told to "grow some balls", was called a coward and was told I'd be onto a hiding (or something).
The forum rules and even the banner at the top of the thread say "Be nice to all MoneySavers" these are hardly nice things to say are they?

I've apologized to those people that matter and thanked the contributors to the thread, I shall not be posting on this thread further.

paulineb_2

Snorts at borderline trolling.

*max*

The thing is, an apology is never genuine if you only do it "in case the person was only saying they were fine".

An apology is real when you MEAN it - if you truly believe what you did was wrong and say sorry for it. No matter what the other person say they felt about your wrong-doing - that doesn't even matter. Unless your apology was genuine, it's not valid.

victory

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

It seems that whatever I say or do I'm in the wrong, I said that I apologized to them both "to be on the safe side" meaning that even though my cousin said she was ok with everything, I apologised to her also in case she was saying that. The post(s) that I was referring to as trolling were some in which I was told to "grow some balls", was called a coward and was told I'd be onto a hiding (or something).
The forum rules and even the banner at the top of the thread say "Be nice to all MoneySavers" these are hardly nice things to say are they?

I've apologized to those people that matter and thanked the contributors to the thread, I shall not be posting on this thread further.

I think you will find we have been nice. What has not been nice for you is that many many posters have all come on and agreed that you over reacted and it was something of nothing and should have never happened in the first place, it is difficult to see you were in the wrong in print but there is no need to over react again and say that there were trolls, best to learn and move on:D