In this situation would you have said something (as I did) or keep quiet?

pollypenny

Yes, gods! What a thread!

A storm in a tea-cup, which will probably fester ( lovely mixed metaphors coming) as you do live so far from each other.

OP, you must be living on a dream world if you think everyone can control when they have to work. Can you imagine the guy telling his boss that he couldn't cover a shift fir a kid's party? Especial in the present economic climate?

OH used to arrive home and tell he he was off to Germany the next day. People have to look after their jobs.

You have hugely over-reacted. I'm with the majority of posters who say that you owe them an apology.

Morglin

I cannot imagine driving that distance for a two year old's party!:eek:

The baby wouldn't care who turned up, and it all seems a bit of a waste of time to have a party for a child that young.

The couple should have declined the invite to begin with, but I don't blame them for not going, or for feeling miffed that the subject was bought up when they were guests at the house.

Lin

tea_lover

I wonder if we'll ever get an update from the OP on this one? There's a pretty strong consensus that they were at best OTT and at worst downright rude. Would be interesting to see if they've had any more thoughts on the matter now there's been so many comments.

duchy

I doubt it
The fact the poster asked in the first place despite thinking he was right ...and his later responses leads me to deduce "someone" had already told him he was out of order (his wife maybe)and he was hoping for confirmation he was in the right.

I do think he is still at that "besotted parent" stage where we think our child is not only the centre of his universe (as they should be) but also the centre of everyone else's (nice thought but not realistic)

Either that or he's just generally infused with a false sense of his own self impotance in general

Tyler_Du

I said previously that I wouldn't let this turn into a family rift and I haven't. I have spoken to my cousin and she was absolutely fine with regards to what (and how) was said. Her husband txted us saying that they were upset without her knowledge, she did say that he has a tendency to let these things stew, to be on the safe side I have apologized to them both for any upset caused. It would seem the only storm in a teacup was the one on this thread. For the majority of posters who offered genuine comments / help, I thank you. For the few posts that were borderline trolling, I guess these say more about you than my posts have about me.

duchy

So you upset her husband but not your cousin so that's OK ?

Glad you've made a sincere apology though .....this sort of incident can get way out of hand if not sorted quickly.

Tiddlywinks

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

I said previously that I wouldn't let this turn into a family rift and I haven't. I have spoken to my cousin and she was absolutely fine with regards to what (and how) was said. Her husband txted us saying that they were upset without her knowledge, she did say that he has a tendency to let these things stew, to be on the safe side I have apologized to them both for any upset caused. It would seem the only storm in a teacup was the one on this thread. For the majority of posters who offered genuine comments / help, I thank you. For the few posts that were borderline trolling, I guess these say more about you than my posts have about me.

So, you've apologised - not because you feel you've done anything wrong but just to go through the motions...

Plus, it seems that you don't really 'get' that the overwhelming feedback on this thread shows that you completely overreacted.

No... it must be 'trolling'.

YOU could never be wrong!

victory

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

I said previously that I wouldn't let this turn into a family rift and I haven't. I have spoken to my cousin and she was absolutely fine with regards to what (and how) was said. Her husband txted us saying that they were upset without her knowledge, she did say that he has a tendency to let these things stew, to be on the safe side I have apologized to them both for any upset caused. It would seem the only storm in a teacup was the one on this thread. For the majority of posters who offered genuine comments / help, I thank you. For the few posts that were borderline trolling, I guess these say more about you than my posts have about me.

why does it have to be trolling? There was no way you should have had your family in your house driving for three hours to 'talk at them' about how upset you were they missed the birthday party, everyone said you made it into a much bigger thing than you needed to, you made them feel uncomfortable, you owed them more than an apology,it was wrong

Person_one

Person_one wrote: »

Does that mean you're going to apologise?

Please don't make it one of those insincere 'I'm sorry you're upset, but not sorry for what I did' non apologies.

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

I said previously that I wouldn't let this turn into a family rift and I haven't. I have spoken to my cousin and she was absolutely fine with regards to what (and how) was said. Her husband txted us saying that they were upset without her knowledge, she did say that he has a tendency to let these things stew, to be on the safe side I have apologized to them both for any upset caused. It would seem the only storm in a teacup was the one on this thread. For the majority of posters who offered genuine comments / help, I thank you. For the few posts that were borderline trolling, I guess these say more about you than my posts have about me.

Totally called it. :cool:

Georgiegirl256

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

I said previously that I wouldn't let this turn into a family rift and I haven't. I have spoken to my cousin and she was absolutely fine with regards to what (and how) was said. Her husband txted us saying that they were upset without her knowledge, she did say that he has a tendency to let these things stew, to be on the safe side I have apologized to them both for any upset caused. It would seem the only storm in a teacup was the one on this thread. For the majority of posters who offered genuine comments / help, I thank you. For the few posts that were borderline trolling, I guess these say more about you than my posts have about me.

Borderline trolling? Just because people dared to disagree with you and thought you were overreacting (which you were btw), they get accused of being a troll....okaaaay!