Rant!!!

liney

Perhaps you could put it to him that being a residential school, he may be getting distracted or interrupted by other things going on, so his work is taking a little longer. Could he try working from home and make a comparison...

Alchemilla

mandragora wrote: »

I know, hence me also including: 'It does not include any additional time which teachers spend on planning, marking, assessment or other tasks related to the professional responsibilities of the role.'

The amount of time you need to spend on completing 'other tasks related to the professional responsibilities of the role' needs to match a sensible work/life balance. Clearly that's gone awry here.

I agree with you in principle but if he is a teacher, and depending on his situation and the school's situation, that would be more or less easy to achieve (for example capability, special measures). I agree though that for the sake of his family he needs to manage it better.

ecgirl07

Alchemilla wrote: »

1265 is the limit on our working hours at school. It is not a limit on our total working hours.

It should be within reason though. In Scotland we are contracted for 1 hour a day over our 9-3 so are expected to work 8-3 or 9-4. Most of us do at least 90 minutes in school outside 9-3 everyday. We also have to 37 hours a year outside hours CPD.

Going home and doing hours and hours actually devalues the profession and gives employers far too much for nothing. It is important we make a stand against changes to terms and conditions and ensure for our own health physical and mental that we find a work life balance.

Alchemilla

ecgirl07 wrote: »

It should be within reason though. In Scotland we are contracted for 1 hour a day over our 9-3 so are expected to work 8-3 or 9-4. Most of us do at least 90 minutes in school outside 9-3 everyday. We also have to 37 hours a year outside hours CPD.

Going home and doing hours and hours actually devalues the profession and gives employers far too much for nothing. It is important we make a stand against changes to terms and conditions and ensure for our own health physical and mental that we find a work life balance.

I am right with you there. I still think it is easier for some people than others.

CH27

I have several friend who are primary & secondary teachers.
They have been teaching for a good few years & this last year they are all so stressed & overwhelmed by the constant pressure & changes.
They are all good teachers & I am very worried about them all.

daisiegg

CH27 wrote: »

I have several friend who are primary & secondary teachers.
They have been teaching for a good few years & this last year they are all so stressed & overwhelmed by the constant pressure & changes.
They are all good teachers & I am very worried about them all.

I'd agree with this. I have only been teaching 5 years but this year is miles worse than anything I have experienced before. I know teachers who have been doing it for 20+ years saying the same thing.

supersaver2

CH27 wrote: »

I have several friend who are primary & secondary teachers.
They have been teaching for a good few years & this last year they are all so stressed & overwhelmed by the constant pressure & changes.
They are all good teachers & I am very worried about them all.

I'm a secondary teacher myself and I'm Faculty Director for our large Science Department. I've really noticed a lot of my staff getting more and more stressed these last few years, that flipping Gove changing his mind like the wind doesn't help and the pressure to ensure our students get the best results is massive otherwise we know Ofsted will be back again.

Would be really helpful to know if the OP's husband is a teacher, does he have extra responsibilities, is he head of a subject?

poet123

My eldest son teaches, he spent three days of half term in school running revision classes for the exam scheduled for the week after half term. He was stressed, he knows that the league tables, his pay, and mainly his students futures depend on him.

He came here the day after the exam and he was pleased, what he had drilled into them came up. He said he was so relieved that whatever their results, he could, on the day they get them, look them in the eye and know he has done as much as he could.

I want my kids and any possible future grandkids to have teachers who care and who work hard.

Back to the OP, maybe they have been told that Ofsted is due, and believe me the paperwork and stress that brings is enormous.....is this a regular thing or just a recent thing?

Savvy_Sue

Say_who? wrote: »

Silly little me and there I thought I was being supportive by carrying the household, doing all the housework, shopping and caring for OUR children single handed Monday to Friday. He does NOTHING in the house, no i lie he cooks for himself because theres never any knowing when he might be home and he does a bit of washing up because he cant abide anything left in the sink. I might as well be a landlady and childminder offering sex on the side. In fact I'd be better off my life would be my own. He waltzes in and out whenever he chooses often not arriving home until after 10 o'clock at night 8.00 is the very earliest we expect him.

I was attempting to be supportive by offering to do the service but that would have prevented him from being the star of the show with the little woman as supporting act.

As for other staff being on site working over half term don't be silly. He is absolutely being taken advantage of but won't do anything about it. He just expects me to pick up the slack for a situation I can do nothing about.

But clearly I'm in the wrong expecting our marriage to be a partnership I should just nod and smile and let him do whatever he wants.

I've not got time to read the whole thread, but clearly there's a whole heap of issues here which have been going on for some time, and your whole relationship is at risk if this continues, because if you feel this way for too long then you're unlikely to continue investing in your marriage.

You each need to talk, and you each need to listen, and it wouldn't surprise me if you needed a third party there to facilitate this. Whether you go via Relate or see if your church can help with this, I'd make this a priority.

marisco_2

Say_who? wrote: »

I might as well be a landlady and childminder offering sex on the side. In fact I'd be better off my life would be my own.

If that is how you feel about your marriage then some really honest talking is required with your husband. If you two don't address this situation then resentment and bitterness will just build. That would be an awful environment for your children to be raised in and they will be picking up on it all. Personally I would be extremely worried rather than annoyed, if a partner of mine were in such a constant state of anxiety and working themselves into the ground.