Seeing your partner once a week

krlyr

*max* wrote: »

So you've spent about 300 hours together in a year. That's how much time most people spend with their work colleagues in two months. Just to put it in perspective.

To put it into perspective some more, going by the average UK lifespan and the fact that people apparently spend 3 years of their life on the toilet, that makes it about 310 hours on the toilet a year. OP likely has more of a relationship with their loo than their partner!

Ms_Chocaholic

Have you met her family/friends? If not, that would raise my suspicions about being her bit on the side.

CC-Warrior

duchy wrote: »

I think they have commitment issues

Ideally how often would the other partner want them to see each other ?

A couple of times a week is fine, as we both have our separate lives.

CC-Warrior

Laurajo wrote: »

. How flexible is it? Are you happy with it? After a year, I'd be wanting a bit more.

Flexible on one side, not so much the other. To me it's a serious relationship but only on a casual basis. Sounds weird, doesn't it.

CC-Warrior

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

Have you met her family/friends? If not, that would raise my suspicions about being her bit on the side.

Some of them.

CC-Warrior

Slinky_Malinky wrote: »

Could you be her bit on the side? Sorry to ask but it sounds like she could be already with someone else.

No, I don't think so. This is a commitment issue on her behalf. Although she told me that she wants a ring on her finger after two years, I think she's happier being single with some casual dating thrown in. But she'll struggle to find a husband if she's unable to cope with anything serious.

CC-Warrior

*max* wrote: »

So you've spent about 300 hours together in a year. That's how much time most people spend with their work colleagues in two months. Just to put it in perspective.

Probably a bit more than that, as we did see each other twice a week to begin with, but it became a bit much for her, so started seeing each other less.

balletshoes

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Probably a bit more than that, as we did see each other twice a week to begin with, but it became a bit much for her, so started seeing each other less.

so she's backed off as time has gone on, rather than become more involved?

CC-Warrior

balletshoes wrote: »

so she's backed off as time has gone on, rather than become more involved?

Backed off a bit, then back to a sense of normality, then backed off again.

kelpie35

Can I ask how old you both are.

By the sounds of things this relationship (if that is what you want to call it)
is making you very unhappy.

I think the time has come for you to move on and find someone who is willing to spend time with you and to enjoy doing things together.