Seeing your partner once a week

Hermia

CC-Warrior wrote: »

She has said in the past that her ideal situation would be to be married but live apart. I can't help but see that as quite odd.

I know couples who do this. My uncle and aunt have never lived together, but have been happily married for decades. I love the sound of it as I need my own space.

Laurajo_2

The whole living apart together thing can work, but only if both couples are happy with it.
Me and dh owned separate places when we started courting, we would spend maybe one night a week and then Friday and Saturday night together. This progressed over time to two nights a week and the entire weekend, and then to moving in after two years.
Dh had been single for a number of years and had never lived with anyone and needed his personal space, however over time it just developed naturally - now last time I wa away for a few nights, he really really missed me!

I couldn't do it - to me, six hours a week doesn't constitute a relationship, particularly if it is one partner choosing to do so. How flexible is it? Are you happy with it? After a year, I'd be wanting a bit more.

SailorSam

I was expecting you to say you lived over 100mls from each other and worked odd shifts, in which case you were making the best of a bad situation. But if it's just you don't see each other that's more like having a good friend for nights out.

Errata

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Marriage to me, apparently!

A woman who barely knows you, wants to marry you but doesn't want to live with you tells you everything you need to know about them.

duchy

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Best part of a year.

I think they have commitment issues

Ideally how often would the other partner want them to see each other ?

22cuddles

We live about an hour from each other and I work odd shifts. It means we only see each other about once a week, either at the weekend (usually Sat evening and most of Sunday) or a day in the week if we have plans with other people e.g. I've recently been away for a friend's birthday for a weekend. We probably don't see enough of each other as we'd like but that's the way it has to be for the time being. If there's no prospect of things changing in the next 12 months or so then perhaps we will have to rethink.

Slinky_Malinky

Could you be her bit on the side? Sorry to ask but it sounds like she could be already with someone else.

balletshoes

CC-Warrior wrote: »

She has said in the past that her ideal situation would be to be married but live apart. I can't help but see that as quite odd.

I've asked her how it's possible to live together if she's unable to handle seeing me more than once a week but she doesn't have an answer.

I think you already know this is not the relationship thats right for you, if you do want a long-term relationship, living together, marriage, house, all that stuff.

*max*

So you've spent about 300 hours together in a year. That's how much time most people spend with their work colleagues in two months. Just to put it in perspective.

Ms_Chocaholic

2 weeks = 336 hours