Seeing your partner once a week

Errata

I'm not sure if a maximum of 6 hours a week equals a close acquaintance or a friend with benefits. It certainly doesn't provide opportunities to observe the good, the bad and the ugly.

Dunroamin

Tiglath wrote: »

You'd be surprised - my sister hasn't seen her husband for 3 months, and probably won't now he's got his residence visa or whatever it's called, but she still thinks she has a husband.

Your husband would still be your husband if you didn't see him for years!

kelpie35

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Not due to distance, but because any more than once a week is 'sometimes too much' to one of the parties...wants marriage, house and long term future though. Yes.

The once a week rule is a recurring pattern looking back at previous relationships.

To me that is not a marriage :eek:

I really think you need to have a really good talk with your OH and explain how you really feel.

If he is not committed to living with you on a permanent basis then I think you have a really big decision to make.

I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make.

CC-Warrior

kelpie35 wrote: »

To me that is not a marriage :eek:

I really think you need to have a really good talk with your OH and explain how you really feel.

If he is not committed to living with you on a permanent basis then I think you have a really big decision to make.

I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make.

She has said in the past that her ideal situation would be to be married but live apart. I can't help but see that as quite odd.

I've asked her how it's possible to live together if she's unable to handle seeing me more than once a week but she doesn't have an answer.

Errata

CC-Warrior wrote: »

She has said in the past that her ideal situation would be to be married but live apart. I can't help but see that as quite odd.

I've asked her how it's possible to live together if she's unable to handle seeing me more than once a week but she doesn't have an answer.

Of course she has an answer, she's simply decided you're not worthy of being given it. In your shoes, I'd jog on.

Person_one

CC-Warrior wrote: »

She has said in the past that her ideal situation would be to be married but live apart. I can't help but see that as quite odd.

I've asked her how it's possible to live together if she's unable to handle seeing me more than once a week but she doesn't have an answer.

How long have you been seeing each other? Some people prefer to take these things slowly, in small steps.

I might be biased though, as I kind of agree with the bolded bit!

CC-Warrior

Person_one wrote: »

How long have you been seeing each other? Some people prefer to take these things slowly, in small steps.

I might be biased though, as I kind of agree with the bolded bit!

Best part of a year.

Tiglath

Dunroamin wrote: »

Your husband would still be your husband if you didn't see him for years!

Yes, legally but probably not emotionally. I wouldn't say refusing to live with your wife but turning up drunk every few months for a shag and then disappearing again is much of a relationship, but some people are prepared to put up with that for the sake of being able to say they're in a relationship. (Obviously this is purely about my sister's situation, and not a comment on anyone else's arrangements).

Toto

Ultimately if two people in a relationship want different things it doesn't bode well for the future. Unless you can find a middle ground that you're both happy with there won't be a successful marriage. You need to decide if you're both prepared to give a bit, but honestly, I'd probably prepare for this relationship being over. Is it marriage she wants or is it being married to you?

CC-Warrior

Toto wrote: »

Ultimately if two people in a relationship want different things it doesn't bode well for the future. Unless you can find a middle ground that you're both happy with there won't be a successful marriage. You need to decide if you're both prepared to give a bit, but honestly, I'd probably prepare for this relationship being over. Is it marriage she wants or is it being married to you?

Marriage to me, apparently!