Its a little bit complicated

outrageous_monkey

((((((((((((((Poppy)))))))))))))

Well done you and your family!

I'm just wondering if now is a good time for you to sit down with your family (mum, dad and possibley sis) and explain what fully happened. I say this because you said you are willing to talk to the SW. If its the first time your parents are going to hear it, then it's gonna be a huge shock to them. You're amazingly brave. I have the upmost respect for you.

From what little I know, if you want, say, parental responsibilities of your cousin (I know thats not the right word, I cant think clearly at the mo) you do have to go to court. But there is help out there.

I hope you got to sleep last night and if ever you want a chat or vent off some anger, then you know where we are.

rabbit_burrow

OMG, what a sick bleep bleep, I'm talking about your aunt aswell as her hubby. I am angry and hurt for all the girls he abused (how many before his daughter [the one he got convicted for, I mean]). He should have had his hands and d**k removed with a butter knife. I just want to throttle the sick pair, I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. The bleeding SS are useless! When my stepdaughter was killed by her mum in 2004, the school headteacher and nurse had reported the change in the mothers mental state to the SS at least 7 times, they did nothing, and look what happened. Afterwards they claimed that there was 'no records' of the phone calls. How convenient.
Anyway, I really hope they do something. I am so sickened and angry, but I bet it's only a fraction of how you feel.

HUGS

Sarena X

sleepymy

Well done to your family poppy, hopefully this will work and that poor little girl will get the help she so badly needs. Good luck to you all.

jinky67

:A I hope that revealing ALL to SS will help both you and your sister and also your cousin.
She was probably told the same as you.
Be strong and this pair get all they deserve!
PS You have nothing to be guilty about:grouphug:

KittyKate

Poppy I have nothing to add other than you are the bravest person I have ever had the honour of telling so.

ailuro2

Be as strong as you have been up until now, your cousin needs you to be strong to help get this evil 'man' away from her- she has not had counselling yet, as far as you know, and is only 14- perhaps too young to realise none of it is her fault. Help to put this person behind bars, and even if she ends up in care the chances are she will besafer than she is presently. Having known a paedophile first hand I know how cunning they are- I knew one well for 15 years and found it so gobsmacking when I found out about him.:mad: It ruined my non-immediate family, thankfully his wife believed her 3 y.o. daughter immediately and took action-it later it turned out he had abused an older girl some years before. The girl in question had told her grandmother what her uncle was doing,but the granny didn't believe her..He did serve time, not long,though,because thankfully he didn't physically harm the child, it was caught before it escalated with her..castration is too good for him.:mad:



For your cousin-try to get your contact details to her somehow- listen to any hints about what school she may go to- perhaps pass her a letter saying you are there whenever she wants you, to support her, listen to her, and that you not speaking to older members of the family was for a good reason, but she was always loved by you and your closest family. Knowing she has somewhere to turn to in an emergency would probably be a great comfort to her. Perhaps not a home address, just an email or mobile number would be enough.

mae

This all sounds like its very painful for you however its obvious you are willing to face this pain and fear in the hope it will help your cousin which is you ultimate goal, however I also hope that the pain you are having to endure also takes some of your power back and takes the power away from him. Part of getting your power back is gaining some control and is part of your journey of healing. I am a counsellor and I highly recommend a book called the Inner Child by Penny Parks. I'm not suggesting you read it yet as you obviously have alot on at the moment but if things calm down enough for you to get some time I suggest you try reading it to help empower you and heal you. This man has no power over you now he can not hurt you again and he is weak and powerless that is why he preys on children as he has the power and the control. I wish you every success with your cousin and also in gaining some peace of mind. Your awful experince can be put to use in helping stop this dreadful man. Good luck and take care.

Katie~baby

Why would she lie and say that they did not see the man anymore?? Thats SICK!! Shes knowingly put her daughter at a very high risk!

Your doing everything you can Poppy and well done to you and your family for trying to help this young girl!

Be strong x x

poppyscorner

Hi,

I would like to again say thanks to all of you for your continued support it really is invaluable to me at the moment.

There has been more contact from SS today apparently 'they' have moved my cousin away from everyone she knows and have been living in a very remote farm house the SW says she imagines that they have moved her schools as well as their new place is a fair hike from the old one very clever that how they are deliberately isolating her.
Apparantly they know this because they have changed GP's and the healthcare associates have informed them.
As yet they haven't found out what school she is in I have no way of speaking to her they won't give address and nobody in the family can make contact.
I spoke to my mother last night and I told her if it all comes out there will be a lot more details she will need to hear she said she can read between the lines and she is aware of hat has gone on without actually being told.
She informed the SW of the overdose who said she is very troubled by it all but they can't do anything at present as they can't storm in throwing allegations around without evidence to base it on and to get this evidence of history etc they have to wait for the other areas SS where he has abused children to give them the info.
I hardly slept a wink last night think I eventually fell into exhausted sleep at about 2.30am and was awake again at 6.30am very very unsettled.
My mum has said that she would rather take my cousin in herself than see her go into care she has a room but I wonder how they would cope mum says we coped when it happened to you but this will be very different we had our parents to rely on her parents have betrayed her.
Please don't take me wrong I would love for her to stay with my parents they are genuinely lovely people and will give her all of the love and support she needs and I also think she would take great strength from her stay with them I just want them to be sure before they commit.
My sister has gone to pieces and is close to boling point with the whole thing she is really really angry as she has tried so hard to remain in contact but is stopped at almost every opportunity the latest thing about 10months ago was to take my cousins mobile from her.
I just don't know how much longer my cousin can take it if she has already tried to take her own life then how long before she does it again and all the while SS are waiting I know they have to but it is so frustrating for all concerned and also very worrying I just wish I could do more.

Poppy

milkydrink

You're doing great Poppy.

You're doing a million times more for her than most children in this position get. Shes fortunate at least to have you all helping her.

You all sound very determined, she may have got crap parents, but she has a good family in your one.

XXX