Heartbroken. What to do?

UnLucky_in_Love

Valli wrote: »

All you know about his family has, I assume, come from him.

So he's telling you what you want to hear.

I suggest that you walk away now.

Thanks Valli. Yes, this is true. However he has been very open and honest, and in no way is he trying to pass the blame.

Walking away will be the right thing to do but it is awfully difficult for me.

SavingPennies_2

tea_lover wrote: »

Oh you poor thing, how awful for both of you. His wife doesn't understand him, you tried to stop yourselves, it's meant to be. How could anyone not understand the pain of such star-crossed lovers??

You know exactly what the response will be so I won't disappoint - you're not in love, you've only just met. It's just a grubby little affair and you should both be deeply, deeply ashamed of yourselves. I doubt you will be though, somehow this will all be someone else's fault (like his wife's for instance).

Makes me sick, you pair of tramps.

ETA: Sleeping with someone else's husband is not a relationship.

Oh get off your high horse, no she shouldnt have done it, but she not the first, she wont be the last, and I refuse to believe you have led a blameless life. Im not condoning her at all but OP id delete your message and leave because all youre going to get is grief. And no Ive never had an affair with a married man i just think your reply is over the top.

OP I do think you need to walk away though as he is probably never going to leave his wife and why should he, he probably isnt as unhappy as he makes out to you. Find someone closer to home and er single!

UnLucky_in_Love

loveabargain13 wrote: »

HELLO BARRY!! *waves* oooppppssss

That's probably not what the OP wants....

No worries. You two go for it.

Valli

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Thanks Valli. Yes, this is true. However he has been very open and honest, and in no way is he trying to pass the blame.

Walking away will be the right thing to do but it is awfully difficult for me.

So you've heard her side of it from his wife then?

Seriously. walk away now. It's one of those 'another time another place' things. If it is meant to be he will end his marriage and then look for you.

CH27

OP he has told you what you want to hear.
He's bedded you & got you feeling sorry for his poor misunderstood soul.

Sever contact.

tea_lover

SavingPennies wrote: »

Oh get off your high horse, no she shouldnt have done it, but she not the first, she wont be the last, and I refuse to believe you have led a blameless life. Im not condoning her at all but OP id delete your message and leave because all youre going to get is grief. And no Ive never had an affair with a married man i just think your reply is over the top.

Of course I haven't led a blameless life, but I've never slept with someone else's husband then gone on the internet to slag off his wife.

I stand by every word of my post and it's nowhere near as strong as what I'd like to post.

Anyway, it's half term so this is probably a bored kid.

UnLucky_in_Love

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

It's indescribably tawdry to meet and have sex with someone you know from the outset is not free, most especially someone who you have known for about five minutes. I can't decide which one of you is the most tawdry here but I'm swaying towards the one who is already in a relationship. I doubt this is the first time he has done such a thing.....

You know what you need to do without asking strangers on the internet.

I know I have done wrong. So does he. We are not proud of it. Our only defence is that this isn't about sex.

We have effectively ended it now. (We have only me the once.) It seems very unlikely the relationship with his wife will ever improve but he will not leave her children.

Person_one

I'm afraid you've behaved (text removed by MSE Forum Team) to some poor woman 150 miles away who probably thinks she's happily married.

Of course he's telling you she's awful, he's desperate to be with you and wishes he could blah blah blah. He gets to stay in his comfortable home and every now and then have a sordid night away with his younger bit on the side without her expecting any more.

You should tell his wife, she needs an STI check and she deserves to know the truth about the (text removed by MSE Forum Team) she's married to.

UnLucky_in_Love

Valli wrote: »

So you've heard her side of it from his wife then?

Seriously. walk away now. It's one of those 'another time another place' things. If it is meant to be he will end his marriage and then look for you.

Thanks Valli. You are probably right. I should walk away now.

No I haven't heard his wife's side of the story. They avoid spending any time together unless it is with the children. They have even shifted their bedtimes so they don't have to spend time in bed together. This has been going on since they got married 1 1/2 years ago.

fake_smile

I take it you have never been cheated on?

Because if you had then I doubt you would inflict that kind of pain on another person because of some crush - which is essentially all it is.