Dare I do it again?

FBaby

There is no discussion to be here. If you both really want another child, then go ahead. 5 children is a lot, but not that many and certainly doesn't mean you can't bring them up well and give them attention. However, you posted very little about money. Unless your husband has a well paid job, you will be relying on tax payers to fund your choice and that is just not right, however broody you are.

justme111

You don't need babysitting as if kids can not go you do not go?
People are different of course , I personally would have found it very difficult. Not sure why you get upset with posters who said no , you asked the question - you got replies, they were not rude or offensive , you just did not like what they were so you started calling them "negative"

TopQuark

The selfishness and greed of some people never ceases to amaze me! And trying to dress it up as anything else is just deception.

The OP already has FOUR children and now wants a FIFTH, despite the fact that overpopulation is the single biggest problem facing the planet today. I also highly doubt that without tax-payer funded assistance (howsoever provided), it would be financially viable. Expecting others to pay for the enlargement of an already large family is wrong, however you spin it.

Jeez, can't people just be grateful for the blessings they already have, without always wanting more, more, more?

Tenyearstogo

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

The beauty of HE is that it is fluid and will work around us not a school timetable. Pregnancy, birth and everything that comes with it can be educational in its self.

But HE won't be working around you and the two you're educating. It will be around the needs of the baby.

If you will be having those two children with you all day, you won't be able to take the baby to any toddler groups etc.

How old are your other children? And how are they housed bedroom wise? Would a teenager with exams have to share with an 'annoying sibling' disrupting their study?

peachyprice

emsywoo123 wrote: »

OK, slightly awkward as I admit to knowing the OP in RL (kinda) so I wasn't going to post to respect a bit of privacy, but I would say this on any thread where I saw it.......

I find this a disgusting term to use. "Breed regardless"?

Whatever your opinion, I find that phrase vile.

Disgusting? Hey ho.

But she was always going have another cute little baby (that fluffy enough for you) regardless of the opinion of anyone else, her immediate response for an answer to every negative point pretty much proved that. Her mind is already made up, she just wants positive affirmation that she is doing the right thing. It's unfortunate that not many think she is.

claire16c

You're not flush with cash yet you'd consider a garage conversion? Where are you going to get the money for that then?

It seems insane to me to have another child just because you feel broody because that suggests you'll want a 6th once the 5th is no longer a baby.

Wouldn't it be better to do things with the ones you already have? Days out, holidays etc? Instead of squashing them into a house that's not big enough etc

FBaby

We are assuming they are relying on some support from tax payers because OP hasn't stated otherwise and you would think she would have done if they were self sufficient, however I do know three families of 5 children, two of them both parents work full time, pay massive taxes and created employment with their nanny. The third, the mum is stay at home but dad is high earner and they are not big spenders so do just fine on his salary alone without any assistance.

busiscoming2

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Hi
I currently have four children and I'm due to get married shortly. I'm 37 and my partner is 30. He is father to two of our children. I am as broody as hell and would love another baby. The OH would agree tomorrow and get to work straight away so to speak. I,m just so worried. I'm not getting any younger, we aren't exactly flush with cash, we don't really have enough room and on top of this we have taken the decision that the two youngest children will be home educated.
I don't know what to do my body clock is getting louder and louder .

I've highlighted the bit that really hits a chord with me. I remember at that age being incredibly broody, it was a hard instinct to fight, but I knew deep down it couldn't happen. We couldn't afford it space wise or financially and together with the fact I had three healthy children, in my mind it was a gamble.

I believe it felt stronger because it's nature's way of letting you know it's now or never.

At the end of the day it's you and your husband's choice.

tatabubbly

Right, I'm gonna throw my 2 cents in..

Depending on the age, it could be differences. I'm a kid of 5 and there is 11 years difference between me and my youngest sibling. I love being from a big family BUT we were always broke. End of. And I hated hated not having any privacy as a teenage girl, I had to share a room with my two younger sisters. As much as you can split yourself up, one of the kids will always feel like they've been left out, I know my sister does. She's 19 now and was a middle child and will openly tell people this.

For example, how will you fund 5 rounds of kids going to college? Kids get more expensive with age I've found!

My mum is relatively young and she's 44 now and wants another baby. I think its irresponsible but I've said nothing because I love her.

Metranil_Vavin

How old are the 2 eldest, Xmas?

I've just had a baby (well 10 weeks ago now) and I'm feeling broody again too. It's crazy as I find the first couple of weeks so tough, but I think it's my age (40) and the thought that if I want one more, I need to crack on!

In reality we probably won't. We have 2 now, and are full to capacity on space (live in London so upsizing is a hideously expensive business), and actually I want to concentrate my attention on the 2 beautiful children I have.

Not saying I won't suddenly decide to go for it, but think my ramble is me trying to say if you think you can afford it, and you will be able to give all your children the attention they deserve etc, then it doesn't really matter what people on an internet forum say.