Dare I do it again?

mountainofdebt

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

I was going to post an epic response but I don't see the point. Here are the bullet points.
1. I don't find children or babies draining never have. I will admit to finding pregnancy draining but that isn't forever.
2. The concerns with my age are to do with carrying not looking after or bringing up a child.
3. My children all get plenty of one to one time with both me and my OH.
4. We aren't flush but we aren't broke either.
5. We don't have babysitters as we don't use them. Grandparents help in an emergency otherwise if my children can't go we don't go.
6. We currently have 3 beds we could convert the garage to make 4
7. I already have a dog and two rabbits
8. Having researched and spoken to other HE families there is no reason a pregnancy or baby would interfere in the long term education of my two youngest children. It may have a short term effect on them as with any family having a new arrival means adjustment and new routines. The beauty of HE is that it is fluid and will work around us not a school timetable. Pregnancy, birth and everything that comes with it can be educational in its self.

I thank you ladies for helping me to organise my thoughts. The negativity has actually helped to bring some clarity.

I must admit I thought this would be the response......it usually is in these type of threads

tinkerbell28

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

I was going to post an epic response but I don't see the point. Here are the bullet points.
1. I don't find children or babies draining never have. I will admit to finding pregnancy draining but that isn't forever.
2. The concerns with my age are to do with carrying not looking after or bringing up a child.
3. My children all get plenty of one to one time with both me and my OH.
4. We aren't flush but we aren't broke either.
5. We don't have babysitters as we don't use them. Grandparents help in an emergency otherwise if my children can't go we don't go.
6. We currently have 3 beds we could convert the garage to make 4
7. I already have a dog and two rabbits
8. Having researched and spoken to other HE families there is no reason a pregnancy or baby would interfere in the long term education of my two youngest children. It may have a short term effect on them as with any family having a new arrival means adjustment and new routines. The beauty of HE is that it is fluid and will work around us not a school timetable. Pregnancy, birth and everything that comes with it can be educational in its self.

I thank you ladies for helping me to organise my thoughts. The negativity has actually helped to bring some clarity.

Why on earth would you ask, if you've already made your mind up? Were you after a mumsnet style "go for it sista"?

peachyprice

Not much point in posting really was there if you were just going to go ahead and breed regardless.

tinkerbell28

peachyprice wrote: »

Not much point in posting really was there if you were just going to go ahead and breed regardless.

Neither do I.

When I said draining financially op even on a good income, I meant working.

Not tax credits, or child benefit. There comes a point where you don't get "extra" for every child as you don't qualify. So it is financially more draining, that's a fact. I standby it.

poet123

Forgive me, but the negativity was initially yours. If you had not had reservations you would have been dispensing with the protection forthwith. I think you are one of those contrary posters who, if they meet an alternative argument digs their heels in and say "well ok, I will show you"

All well and good, but remember it is not those on this forum you will be accountable to if things go belly up or you fail in your aspirations to properly home educate those children you currently have. It is down the line those kids will say, or maybe even just think.....why did you not look to what you had rather than try to add another baby into the mix.

But hey, project the negativity onto others and take it as an affirmation of going forward and doing what you actually want to do, regardless of what is perhaps the most sensible course of action for all concerned, not just the adults who seem to want what suits them.....

meritaten

you both want to add to the family? then why not? sometimes the heart overrules the head and there is always 'bunk beds'! Seriously, the size of your family is totally down to you and OH. we on MSE may have an opinion - but, in the end its your decision.

System

.... just to remind you. They don't stay babies for long.

xmaslolly76

Have I said anywhere that I'm going to go ahead no I did not . I have responded to points raised and thanked you all for bringing clarity to my jumble of thoughts. There is a lot of negativity there is only 1 post I can see that included anything remotely positive.

I remember now why I stopped posting on this site.

poet123

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Have I said anywhere that I'm going to go ahead no I did not . I have responded to points raised and thanked you all for bringing clarity to my jumble of thoughts. There is a lot of negativity there is only 1 post I can see that included anything remotely positive.

I remember now why I stopped posting on this site.

You put that negativity there by listing the cons.

If you didn't give more weight to them than the pros then you would just have gone ahead. I have four chidren, I could have afforded five or more but other issues limited my choice. You can have more, but only you know if the risk benefit calculation comes down on that side of the equation. From what you have posted my guess is you don't really believe that it does, but you would like to.

mountainofdebt

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Have I said anywhere that I'm going to go ahead no I did not . I have responded to points raised and thanked you all for bringing clarity to my jumble of thoughts. There is a lot of negativity there is only 1 post I can see that included anything remotely positive.

I remember now why I stopped posting on this site.

You have to admit that your reply seemed to have answers for all the downside - what people were saying was if you had answers to all the questions already, why ask the question?