Family cut themselves out of my son's life

GobbledyGook

I don't think anyone was attempting to make things worse. However there is a perception that things like kidnap only happen in the movies.

It doesn't. Sometimes Grandparents go too far and whilst it should be easy to call the police and send them round to collect the child it doesn't always work like that. Sometimes the legal process can take longer than it should. My MIL was arrested for trying to take my girls from their school and it still took me a further 8 weeks to get a legal injunction against her because of holiday closures, backlogs and other issues when it should have been very easy.

No-one is trying to scare you unnecessarily. It's just that sadly you are not alone in the troubles and worries you have had and those a bit further down the road want you to be aware of the fact that you must keep your guard up. Even when it goes quiet.

For what it's worth I hope you and Wiglet have a happy, and quiet Christmas. I'm glad his Dad is doing ok and I hope he continues to do so, and in time I hope he becomes a support for you.

I'd get the breast joint, but that's because I like that part best Rather than a separate dinner for Wiglet you could let him pick at the bits you are having? Saves you doing two dinners. Roasted veg make brilliant finger food.

Have a lovely time.

Gemma x

Angry_Bear

Was just reading another thread about someone who's 6-yr old found the Christmas presents and was finding all the Santa advice quite interesting. It might be worth starting Wiglet now on "Mummy buys the main presents, and Santa gives a stocking" (or novelty gift or something).

It might make things easier when he grows older and starts asking awkward questions . It also makes it easier to explain why you can't afford things - rather than trying to explain why Santa won't get him some things.

nicki_2

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Can anyone advise about dinner for Christmas though? I am getting my shopping via Asda delivery. There is a breast joint at £5, thigh joint at £4 and medium crown at £8. I want enough for turkey sandwiches but not too much fuss/time/waste/expense. I got myself a mini oven a month or two ago which can fit it in and saves me using halogen cooker. I might make wiglet a mix dinner (nuggets/jetters/chips that kind of pick as you go dinner) and just have turkey myself with dog? JUst not sure how to cook all these different turkey bits as I've never done a Christmas dinner

I buy a Bernard Matthews turkey breast roast, pigs in blankets (Asda sell them in a 12 pack for £2 or you can get a pack with little stuffing balls in as well but not sure about how much they are), frozen roast potatoes, a packet of stuffing, and pre-prepared veg (either frozen or fresh) and apparently I need to buy yorkshire puddings as well this year. I count the preprepared stuff as a little Christmas gift to me so I don't have to stand in the kitchen preparing everything. It costs a little more, but it means I get to spend more time with my daughter and its not quite so stressful.

Christmas is the only time I definitely use my oven so I plan how I'm going to cook it all the day before, I note how long each thing takes to cook and at what temperature, then work out a timetable based on "When the meat goes in, 30min later I need to put in X, then another 10mins put in Y" etc etc. I write it up and use a timer to make sure I don't over cook anything. Also I use foil dishes to cook the stuff in, means less washing up and again more time with my daughter (or watching TV, reading my newest book) Oh and I also cook the veg in the oven, again less dishes if you use foil trays

I also cook enough of everything to make sure there's leftovers for supper if we're hungry when we get back from my parents, and the following day. My daughter goes away to spend time with her dad & his family on Boxing day, so its nice to just whack some leftovers on a plate, bung it in the microwave/oven/on the hob and relax a bit. This is the 9th year of me cooking Christmas dinner and each year it gets a little more streamlined. My advice, note down what works and what doesn't somewhere where you can refer to it again next December and change anything you need to

Make the most of the time you have with Wiglet while he's small and wants to play. My daughter turns 13 soon and all she wants to do Christmas morning is consume as much chocolate as possible for breakfast while parked in front of the TV or with her head buried in a book. I might as well not be here except to remind her that one selection box is more than enough or she'll be sick :rotfl:

harrys_nan

I would go for either the turkey breast or the crown, as I'm not that keen on the dark meat. Wiglet should be fine on a proper christmas dinner now, just chop everything up smaller so he can use his fingers if needed.He might make a mess but so what it can all be cleaned up.
It sounds as though you are both going to have a lovely christmas and next year hopefully will be a lot better for you. You have come such a long way and wiglet will be very proud to have you as his mum when he old enough to understand.
You certainly have got into all our hearts Wiggy , xx:):D

jellyhead

I think that everybody in the thread means well, and just wants Wiggy to have all of the information she needs, and a plan for what to do in those 'what if' situations. Let's not fight

jellyhead

Woah, has this thread been merged with another one?

HPoirot

jellyhead wrote: »

Woah, has this thread been merged with another one?

'tis the season of goodwill!!

unicorn1984

Agree with Harrys Nan about just making what you are having, why make more work for yourself? He will love Xmas dinner! My son had a full Xmas dinner (turkey, roast and mash potatoes, carrots, peas, stuffing, gravy, bread sauce, pigs in blanket) last year and he was only 14 months old and loved it!

Sorry I was slow in replying about the Elf on the Shelf Harry Nan, but luckily someone was on the ball its such a good idea!
The reindeer food I got from a friend at work, her Mum makes and sells them on eBay, think they were about £2 or something?

Its so nice reading about everyone getting ready for Xmas, sat in work listening to Xmas tunes rocking out! Ha ha

Regarding telling him about Santa, me and my workmate were discussing this on the tram the other night, I was saying it will be like a FT job trying to keep up with what I have told him about Santa, what if he sees 2 in the same shop etc? How do I explain it?! Ha ha. I love the whole Santa part of it for little kids, cant wait to start sprinkling talcum powder and leaving boot prints on the floor for him to find in the morning, carrot for Rudolph, sherry for Santa etc I think its lovely!

Wiglet is very lucky to have a caring Mummy and no matter what you eat, drink, open on Xmas day, he will have the time of his life because he will be with his Mummy and there would be nowhere else he would rather be!

Good news re: Wiglets Daddy too! xx

Saturnalia

unicorn1984 wrote: »

Regarding telling him about Santa, me and my workmate were discussing this on the tram the other night, I was saying it will be like a FT job trying to keep up with what I have told him about Santa, what if he sees 2 in the same shop etc? How do I explain it?! Ha ha. I love the whole Santa part of it for little kids, cant wait to start sprinkling talcum powder and leaving boot prints on the floor for him to find in the morning, carrot for Rudolph, sherry for Santa etc I think its lovely!

The shop Santas are Santa's deputies. Santa is very very busy at the North Pole so he gets his staff to go to the shops and bring the children's messages to him.

But the Big Boss Santa does drop in at the shops from time to time so you never know, this one could be him.

unicorn1984

Saturnalia wrote: »

The shop Santas are Santa's deputies. Santa is very very busy at the North Pole so he gets his staff to go to the shops and bring the children's messages to him.

But the Big Boss Santa does drop in at the shops from time to time so you never know, this one could be him.

Ha yeah that's the one we came up with too!

We got quite into it, saying what if me and my son are walking and see a bloke p!ssed up dressed as Santa... we went into this whole spiel about that being Santa's naughty brother and he was meant to follow in Santa's footsteps but he went a bit off the rails! Ha ha

I don't particularly believe in saying "don't do that or Santa wont bring you any presents", my boyfriend said it the other day and I was gutted for my son, even though he didnt understand!