Family cut themselves out of my son's life

wiggywoo9

Thanks for the new posts. Actually been a change in situation- after all that silence and adamant to leave him for a long time, I started getting texts again with casual messages like 'morning, hows x?' and 'what sandwiches shall I make for the Halloween party?'. Needless to say I ignored it. Then it was instant about this party they'd previously arranged, just a small picnic tea, so I replied saying I wasn't going to pander to her, not coming, you need to start respecting me as an adult and parent. I also suggested she apologise and that my no.1 priority is my son, she needs to remember I'm the only one she should talk to regarding him and anything I decide is final.

Well, she said I'm not apologising, you're being pathetic, I'll do what I want etc., and if anything happens like my uncle (who had a stroke and has some difficulties still, and relies on others), I'll regret it. She also suggested none too kindly that they'd come and get my son themselves.

I don't know anymore. I'm giving up on them. I think she's manipulating my sisters too atm cos my sister's phone is off and can't contact her to say, sorry about party. She can say anything and there's no-one to tell my side. I'll do a little tea at home here and take my tot for a spot of trick or treating later perhaps.

*Oh and I'm so grateful to MSE for all the support- that vampire pic of Martin on here made me cheer up

Any

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Well, she said I'm not apologising, you're being pathetic, I'll do what I want etc., and if anything happens like my uncle (who had a stroke and has some difficulties still, and relies on others), I'll regret it. She also suggested none too kindly that they'd come and get my son themselves.

OMG, mellodrama and drama queen or what??
She is a psychopat. You are better off without her.

HPoirot

Don't tell your side of the story at all, don't bother with such an outright pathetic bully, anything you say will only be brought down to her own level. Given her response above, if I were you I would cut all contact definitely here and now. Good luck with building a wonderful life for you and your little boy.

Mojisola

HPoirot wrote: »

Don't tell your side of the story at all, don't bother with such an outright pathetic bully, anything you say will only be brought down to her own level.

Given her response above, if I were you I would cut all contact definitely here and now. Good luck with building a wonderful life for you and your little boy.

Absolutely - stop playing her game by responding. Your sister's not available on the phone - you can learn something from that!

Don't answer the phone if it's any of the relatives and don't reply to texts.

areia

did this woman called your mother bring you up ???....if so grab the scissors and cut the attention seeking bond

there has been a lot of really nice good comments that i agree with.

nothing I hate more is pretending everything is alright after a few days of silence and going on like nothing has happened will sickly sweet texts. ,,,and if she really thinks she going to just pick your son up and take him with out your permission ( hope you kept that text) think its called ummm kidnapping

Id give up even attempting to justify your reasons either because no matter what you say unless she gets her own way she will never ever see sense, seems shes rules the house and no one has any balls under that roof,,, why are people so scared to speak up in that house.

Get out as others have said and make new friends your little is 2 he will suffer more stress with your mother and your stress that without I certainly wouldnt feel/ or be made to feel guilty he has his mum, his mum will help him make friends and in doing so you will too

PuzzledDave

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

She also suggested none too kindly that they'd come and get my son themselves.

If she continues in this manner, I would strongly recommend informing the police of this threat to abduct your child. In fact, I would consider speaking to them sooner rather than later as she seems confident that she can do this impunity.

Let's face it, what would you do if she does try to take him tomorrow ?

wiggywoo9

Well I keep the door locked and bolted, so it'd be tricky getting in. I'd call the police then, wait for them to sort it out and hopefully keep my son distracted. I live in a small block so its an entry system at door downstairs. Unfortunately, she has the key to my door and entry, kept it when I left it at hers, for emergencies. But there is a pretty strong bolt.

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Well I keep the door locked and bolted, so it'd be tricky getting in. I'd call the police then, wait for them to sort it out and hopefully keep my son distracted. I live in a small block so its an entry system at door downstairs. Unfortunately, she has the key to my door and entry, kept it when I left it at hers, for emergencies. But there is a pretty strong bolt.

Change the lock on your flat!

KxMx

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Well I keep the door locked and bolted, so it'd be tricky getting in. I'd call the police then, wait for them to sort it out and hopefully keep my son distracted. I live in a small block so its an entry system at door downstairs. Unfortunately, she has the key to my door and entry, kept it when I left it at hers, for emergencies. But there is a pretty strong bolt.

Why sit and worry that this might happen- i'd get onto the Police now.
She's trying to control you with threats and intimidation so call her bluff and contact the Police.
I would also change the locks.
It is not an over reaction when it concerns protecting the safety of your child.

PuzzledDave

I can understand you not wanting to call the police since:

A) She's your mother

and

You may feel the police won't take you seriously.

Sure, the odds of her actually turning up to take the child - 1 in 10 at most maybe.... but from an outsiders point of view, a one in ten chance of a BABY BEING ABDUCTED by someone who seems totally irrational and quite frankly crazy is MORE than enough reason to call the police.

If she is willing to forcibly remove your child, what else is she just as willing to do ??? :eek: