Is he being kind or deceitful?

Dovah_diva

I'd be asking who the f*uck is Alice??

pukkamum

Hmm this all screams blackmail to me, you say his family still think he is in a relationship with her, why would he perpetuate that? Why would his family care?
My thoughts would be that she is blackmailing him by threatening to tell family they are no longer together, but why?
Surely this would only be if she was his wife and the family dont agree with divorce.

Errata

Alice doesn't know about you, his family doesn't know about you - does anybody know about you?

Emoticon

I think his family dont know about me because I was married when we met and we both thought it was just a bit of casual kinky sex fun......but we have moved on to something deeper and more loving.

Person_one

Emoticon wrote: »

I think his family dont know about me because I was married when we met and we both thought it was just a bit of casual kinky sex fun......but we have moved on to something deeper and more loving.

Has he met your family or friends?

Emoticon

Person_one wrote: »

Has he met your family or friends?

My family and friends know about him but have not met him.

Doesnt anyone on here think he may just be too kind/caring?

He does tell me that he would feel guilty (and find that hard to live with) if he told her he has "moved on".
There again he does tell me how much he loves me and longs to be a "full time couple".

He admits to being a "ditherer"....understatement of the year!!:mad:

paulineb_2

Emoticon wrote: »

My family and friends know about him but have not met him.

Doesnt anyone on here think he may just be too kind/caring?

He does tell me that he would feel guilty (and find that hard to live with) if he told her he has "moved on".
There again he does tell me how much he loves me and longs to be a "full time couple".

He admits to being a "ditherer"....understatement of the year!!:mad:

No

He sounds like a complete knob to me.

Sorry, but you need to take the rose tinted specs off.

You are second best to this woman, no one knows about you and hes paying her a few hundred quid a month.

Hes taking the !!!!. If he wanted to be with you and out you as his gf he would.

No matter how good the sex is or how much you like him, hes playing you both. I wonder what hes telling her when he speaks to her, probably a load of bull

Stop seeing him or speaking to him until he sorts this mess out and if he wont, you are better off without him.

pukkamum

Emoticon wrote: »

I think his family dont know about me because I was married when we met and we both thought it was just a bit of casual kinky sex fun......but we have moved on to something deeper and more loving.

That explains them not knowing about you then but why not now? Why do they think he's still with Alice?

*max*

I was ready to give the benefit of the doubt, even though it sounded very dodgy, until you said his family don't know about you, and he hasn't met any of your family or friends.

In 3 years.

Honestly...:cool:

He sends money every month to this woman he "used to be in a relationship with" .
His place looks like a bachelor pad.
His family don't know about you.
He hasn't met your family nor your friends in 3 years.

I think he's been feeding you little morsels of truths to mask the giant lie!

paulineb_2

How did you meet this man by the way?