Is he being kind or deceitful?

tea_lover

aileth wrote: »

Now I'm constantly going to be eyeballing people for collars or VCBL (visible chastity belt lines).

I used to work with a guy who was a really odd shape. So much so that a few of us had commented on it (not in a nasty way, and certainly not to his face!) I'm thinking I've worked it out now :rotfl:.

FBaby

Emoticon wrote: »

I appreciate your views. Thankyou

It isnt OK any longer because if we were to live together I would require him not to keep me secret from Alice because I would feel uncomfortable by being complicit in his deceit of her and because of the calls being taken whilst I sit silently, NOT acceptable.

I'm wary of elaborating on the lock and key issue, but...in its used more to play a game called "tease and denial" and being a sort of symbol of possession " think - alternative wedding ring"

Oh God....I really must get around to writing the companion book to 50 shades (thats me making a joke by the way)
:rotfl:

Well to be fair, it's a completely different sexual world than mine. For that perspective, I find this thread quite instructive, not that I find any of it personally interesting in any way

I do understand the progression, but again, much of what he says/does doesn't make sense. If indeed, he is just being nice and supportive of this woman and his kindness means that he expects nothing in return, and if he trusted you to tell you about her from the start....if it is because he thinks she would be devastated to find out about you and that would affect her mental health....wouldn't that mean a woman who WOULD want contact with him one way or the other?

It is NOT normal that a relationship based on kindness is one where contact is avoided from the part of the one receiving that kindness. That's why I think it is directly link with BDSM.

Mojisola

Emoticon wrote: »

The type of BDSM we enjoy requires high levels of trust - what I know about him I could ruin his career

Then the blackmailing theory is a very real possibility.

FBaby

That's not really the purpose of the chastity cage. It's general use is to exchange power to the dominant partner by controlling when and if the submissive receives any form of release; it's not used just to prevent cheating but to even prevent masturbation and depending on the device used sexual thoughts in general as pain is administered through the device should the submissive become aroused. It can also be used to purposely administer pain and discomfort by engaging in arousing behaviour without allowing release from the cage.

I find it quite interesting that in this scenario, OP is enjoying having this control (I am assuming that's part of the role), yet although putting her partner in a sub role, he is instead controlling her emotions with this relationship with this Alice. Makes you almost wonder whether she does exist in real life...maybe he created her just to mess up with OP's mind as part of the release he gets when OP refuses to open the lock....

poet123

Mojisola wrote: »

Then the blackmailing theory is a very real possibility.

Especially if Alice was with him a lot longer than the OP has been with him.....

FBaby

Going back on the issue of cheating...it's not just a one direction thing...you can cheat by pleasuring rather than being pleasured...surely his other body instruments are not locked too?

Errata

Tropez wrote: »

Though I do believe that some domme/sub relationships enjoy the potential for the embarrassment of the sub in being caught out in some manner wearing a cage.

The folks in A&E enjoy the locked up ones predicatment far more

poet123

Is anyone else reading this hearing "Living Next Door to Alice" running through their heads? Or is it just me?

Tropez

poet123 wrote: »

Is anyone else reading this hearing "Living Next Door to Alice" running through their heads? Or is it just me?

No, because I don't know that song.

However, I do now have that "Running through my head" by those Russian girls running through my head.

That's not good.

Errata

poet123 wrote: »

Is anyone else reading this hearing "Living Next Door to Alice" running through their heads? Or is it just me?

I've got "Who is Sylvia, what is she" playing in my ear'ole.:rotfl: