Couples moving in together

lostinrates

Rachylou1981 wrote: »

My boyfriend and I are moving in together in January, this will be after 22 months together. We have taken the whole relationship slow and not been in eachothers pockets from day one, we are individuals and like our own space.

I own my own home and he rents and so he is giving up his rental to move in with me and if we don't kill eachother we intend to buy somewhere together when we have raised a deposit.

Can't wait for our future together. He is my best friend :j

Two of my female best friends are on with their second live-in partner and my other female friend has had three goes at it and now is single again - all three of them rushed into moving in less than a year and had messy splits so I never take advice from them :rotfl:

Whereas I took longer to live with previous partners (one live in seriously, one live in but less serious...we weren't financially linked and separated easily) and it ended.

Were I to ever find myself single again if I were to want to be in a mother relationship I think I'd consider each circumstance on its merit but stick to my mantra or remaining easily separate able' until there was some commitment on both sides in the form of legal agreement.

burnoutbabe

we moved in together after 5 months, just seemed no reason not to. If we were going to be together, we may as well be together. And if it didn't work out, he could move out (its my flat that I own) and rent somewhere else (he was house sharing).

he was staying every weekend so I knew it would be fine to live together, neither of us annoy the other one, when usually people who stay annoy me quite quickly

Oh and we have no financial linking either, as no need.

janthemum

Moved in with OH after 3 weeks.
Nearly been a year now and all going well.
Im 45 so no youngster he gave me keys and that was that......
However never in a million years would I have thought I would do something like this!
I guess you have to take a few chances in life! I was lucky it has so far worked.

hcb42

Moved in after 4 month, married six yrs later. Met 27 yrs ago

ska_lover

We moved in together after 3 months, now many years have passed and happily married.

I think when you know something is right, what is the point of waiting or being overly cautious - could be dead tomorrow..

LottieLou

I have currently been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we are moving in together in the new year. My last serious relationship lasted for 4 years and we didn't ever live together.

I am typically a very sensible person, part of me was thinking is it too soon, but we were friends for over 3 years before we got together. And my mum recently had a grade 4 brain haemorrhage, life is too short to delay something you want to do!

I am financially ready to buy, he has a good wage but minimal deposit/savings. I want to see if we can live together before possibly committing to a house purchase with him.

I know this is the right thing for us now and I don't believe moving in after 6/12/24 months will alter the ultimate outcome.

ciderwithrosie_2

Yep, I was one of those 'swift movers' on the other thread. We were both 23, He moved in 4 weeks after we met. Got engaged after a year, married within 2 years of meeting. It's our silver wedding next year.

Funnily enough, I moved here to get away from a very intense relationship that ended badly (we'd lived together too) and I was convinced I didn't want anything to do with men for a good while but we got on so well, it was just easy, no big drama and I just felt I could be myself and spend a long time with him.

monty-doggy

We were childhood sweethearts so knew each other. We went on a date, spent every night for a week together, then moved in the following week. It seemed crazy as we didn't live close and paying 2 lots of everything. He owned his house I was renting so if didn't work out I could rent again.

6 years later were happier than ever

Faith177

It was about 7 months for us I owned my house OH lived with his mum.

He transferred down from Birmingham to be with me as it made more sense for him to move than me.

His mum kept his room for him and his boss said if it didn't work out she would have him back. We got engaged the following January and that was that.

Oh moved away for work last August and it doesn't look like he'll be moving back any time soon so we are back in a long distance relationship I see him 1 night a week 2 if we're lucky. Our last weekend off together was the 12tj Sept before that it was June

For 6 months of marriage we have spent 2 months together

rjhammond91

hieveryone wrote: »

I moved in with my boyfriend after 6 months - and that was moving 2 hours away from my home town to be with him!

Are you me?! This is exactly the same for me!