Couples moving in together

peachyprice

There is no right or wrong, it's when it feels right for both of you.

Although I do find it a little strange when people put a time limit that they won't move in before, I can't understand why you would deny yourself the happiness of being the person you love because of a self-imposed set date, what changes after that date? To me that would be a sure sign that the person wasn't 'The One'.

daisiegg

Met in August, he moved to my town in October at which point I started staying over most of the time, but then officially moved in in February, so after 6 months. Bought a house together after being together for 2 years. Got married nearly 4 years after meeting.

littlestar1981

I guess it just depends on individual circumstances.

My OH moved in after 5 months, as his minimum term was up on his flat and his job contract had finished so it made sense to us for him to move in with me (we lived 20 miles apart) and find a job round here... plus saves on bills!

Best decision we made, IMHO

jackomdj

Another quick one here.

Met him at a nightclub on a Sat night. I had gone to visit my Aunty somewhere I had never been before, he was on a course in the area.

Two weekends later he came to visit me and stayed the night.

Following weekend he came to visit agin.

Following weekend he came for the weekend, he was in the services and getting posted to the next town, he paid for his food and accommodation but ended up staying at mine.

19 years later and we are still very happy together.

JodyBPM

Moved in together when we got engaged, 4 years after first getting together, married a year later. Baby 1 year after that and baby 2 the following year. We've been happily married over a decade now.

sharnad

Kind of after the first date been together almost 14 years

GeckoGirl1985

I started staying at my bfs flat after a week or so of us getting together (he only lived up the road from me when I was still living with mum). I think I ended up moving in 'properly' after 3 weeks or so.

It sounds crazy I know. But we love being together and missed each other when I stayed at mums, so it seemed completely natural for us to live together very quickly. We have now been together 14 months, are renting a 3 bed house and are completely head over heels for each other still. We will be buying a house together next year.

maman

lostinrates wrote: »

What I refused to do was become inextricably linked before a year (mortgage /child/marriage) and neither was I prepared to linger on for ever without commitment. Life is too short to wonder where you stand, (even if marriage/mortgage/baby isn't the future one wants its nice to know where you stand)

I think this is something I'd really want to take into consideration. I wouldn't be burning any boats in a hurry. In my case it was just under the two years when I gave up my job and moved to be close to DH.

So if you've not got anything to lose (e.g. no house to sell or important job to give up) then I suppose you can always reverse things if it doesn't work. And I'd be setting ground rules, especially financial, before we moved in.

It's great to hear such success stories on here but, sadly, you read others where it's all gone pear shaped and one or other partner is stuck with debts or in a strange town.

MrsE_2

I've had loads of boyfriends, 3 fiancees, 2 of whom became husbands.
I've only lived with 3 men in my life, 2 of whom I married & a recent ex boyfriend.
Funny thing is, the 3 I lived with, was pretty quick, from a few weeks to a couple of months.
But I've had other relationships that lasted up to 3 years, but I didn't (wouldn't) have lived with them.

fashionlover10

Me and OH moved in together after 5 months and have been together for 18 months now. Everyone thought it was too soon (but have only voiced that in the last couple of months) and are pleasantly surprised that it is still working.