Couples moving in together

MadDogWoman_2

When I met my DH he was still in the house he bought with his ex (trying to sell), her new fella was there too, he spent his time in his bedroom with no tv!

About 3 months after meeting me he took it on himself to move out into his sisters house - it wasn't a popular move with ex as she then had to take on mortgate (dh walked away didn't demand anything).

He was then living in a 2 bed with 2 other adults and 3 children (1 a newborn) Spent about 6 months sleeping on the floor there.

We had booked a week away just to have some time on our own as I was still at home. He stayed the night as early morning flight, and never left. 8 months after we met.

We moved into our own house 9 months after that.

Pee

We had very few nights apart after the first fortnight although I didn't move in until six months. It wasn't an irrevocable decision in anyway, but we were on the same page when it came to marriage and babies. No thank you but if it ever felt important to either if us we would reconsider and yes but it didn't happen. If I had wanted to get married I'd have waited to move in until we got married, just to keep everyone's mind focused on what we wanted. I was also thirty two and had lived with my ex for several years. I moved in with him after a couple of months. If I didn't want to move in with someone pretty quickly I'd call it a day and not string them along, but if I was younger I'd want to but would be more sensible and take it a bit slower.

Rachylou1981

My boyfriend and I are moving in together in January, this will be after 22 months together. We have taken the whole relationship slow and not been in eachothers pockets from day one, we are individuals and like our own space.

I own my own home and he rents and so he is giving up his rental to move in with me and if we don't kill eachother we intend to buy somewhere together when we have raised a deposit.

Can't wait for our future together. He is my best friend :j

Two of my female best friends are on with their second live-in partner and my other female friend has had three goes at it and now is single again - all three of them rushed into moving in less than a year and had messy splits so I never take advice from them :rotfl:

podperson

We got engaged after 4 months, moved in together after about 5 months and still together over 13 years later. Some people did say it was too soon but I knew that it was right for us. It also felt completely different to other relationships I'd been in previously - I'd actually been with other people longer but if I'd thought about living with them then it seemed much too soon. Do what feels right for you.

squirrelchops

I met OH online. Met him in person and never really moved out!

Hermia

Person_one wrote: »

Now that I own my own little place (and there's only room for me here) it would take a heck of a lot for me to give it up to move in with someone.

Ideally, they could buy the flat next door and pop round regularly!

Same here! I hate living with another person and would love to meet someone who feels the same. I have relatives who have been married decades and never lived together. They love it.

I do agree each person needs to do what is right for them. I think being in similar financial situation can be a factor. I have a friend who is very wealthy and she is very cautious in relationships. It takes absolutely ages before she lets someone move in because she always has so much more to lose than them (and it also gives her time to spot the signs of a gold digger).

Person_one

Hermia wrote: »

Same here! I hate living with another person and would love to meet someone who feels the same. I have relatives who have been married decades and never lived together. They love it.

I do agree each person needs to do what is right for them. I think being in similar financial situation can be a factor. I have a friend who is very wealthy and she is very cautious in relationships. It takes absolutely ages before she lets someone move in because she always has so much more to lose than them (and it also gives her time to spot the signs of a gold digger).

Sadly, that's not a problem I've ever had the misfortune to experience! :rotfl:

marisco_2

I had been with my ex for 2 years before we moved in together. We got engaged a year later and then it was another year before we got married.

Grumpygit

Met OH online on March 18, met him twice in person beginning and end of May (for a weekend each time), he moved over here on June 17 into a place that I had rented for us.

So 3 months I suppose, but we had only seen each other about 5 nights in total in that time.

southoftheriver

I've been with my OH nearly two years and we aren't moving in together until next year at the earliest. We're both happy with where we're leaving at the moment (trying to find somewhere nice where we live is a nightmare). I'm also probably relocating because of my job next year so it makes sense to wait to see where that is otherwise we'd have to move twice in quick succession.

To each their own but I wouldn't want to move in too quickly as I hate moving house. I'd also want to make sure the honeymoon period is well and truly over before making that step!