Couples moving in together

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Was just reading the thread which asks how we met our other halves and I couldn't help but notice the comments about people having only been together 6 or 7 months and moving in with their partners.

This seems really fast! How long do you think is right to wait, should there be a set time or do it when you feel it's right?

How long were you dating before you moved in and how was the subject brought up?

neneromanova

I suppose it's whatever make sense/feels right to you both. OH and I moved in together 9 months after getting together but we had known each other for 2 years previous. Plus I was in North Devon and he was in Swindon so it just made sense the amount of travelling I was doing.

You could look at it as Why pay 2 loads of Rent/CT/Bills when you can get 1 place and it be cheaper for you both.

CC-Warrior

It will be a minimum 2 years for me. I know someone who moved in with their boyfriend after a month - and she thinks I'm strange.

hieveryone

I moved in with my boyfriend after 6 months - and that was moving 2 hours away from my home town to be with him!

gazebo

when the time is right, but never when circumstances appear to force it to be the only available option as that will only ever end in tears.

Fosterdog

It would depend from couple to couple. With me and OH it was only five months before he moved in with me and a another four months until we moved to a bigger place together with extra bedrooms for his kids to stay over.

For us it was purely financial, OH couldn't afford to stay in his flat and was about to be made homeless, we saw each other every day and he spend 3-4 nights a week with me anyway.

I couldn't see him out on the street, I originally agreed he could bring the kids to my house for his contact so he didn't have to always take them out somewhere (he would have been mostly living out of his car with some nights at mine and the odd night with other family). Then agreed he could store some stuff in my spare room until he had somewhere else to save having to buy all new furniture. In the end I just couldn't face him sleeping in the car when I had a perfectly good house.

It just felt right and didn't take long for us to want a bigger place and set up properly together.

The hardest bit for me was getting used to sharing everything again as I had lived alone for five years and loved my own space and independence.

lostinrates

CC-Warrior wrote: »

It will be a minimum 2 years for me. I know someone who moved in with their boyfriend after a month - and she thinks I'm strange.

We went on a fourth date as a holiday, and never really lived apart till later, after we were married after that....so I guess moved in together after a clue of weeks for all intents and purposes.

While its not something I recommend it worked for us. What I refused to do was become inextricably linked before a year (mortgage /child/marriage and i wouldn't have signed a rental agree ment with someone after a couple of weeks or months). On the other hand neither was I prepared to linger on for ever without commitment. Life is too short to wonder where you stand, (even if marriage/mortgage/baby isn't the future one wants its nice to know where you stand)

mildredalien

Officially about a year until I moved in with my OH, but I was house-sharing when he moved into his flat so from about 8 months on I spent most of my time living with him. It just worked out that way and felt right. If I'd had my own place it might have been different I suppose!

GeckoGirl1985

I started staying at my bfs flat after a week or so of us getting together (he only lived up the road from me when I was still living with mum). I think I ended up moving in 'properly' after 3 weeks or so.

It sounds crazy I know. But we love being together and missed each other when I stayed at mums, so it seemed completely natural for us to live together very quickly. We have now been together 14 months, are renting a 3 bed house and are completely head over heels for each other still. We will be buying a house together next year.

s0237276

Moved in after 3 weeks of knowing each other, engaged after a year, married after 2.5 years together.

sulphate

We moved in after 4-5 months, in November 2009.

People thought we were insane but we got engaged in February 2012, married March 2013 and bought a house July 2013 :T

Totally depends on the relationship and the couple. I was with one boyfriend for 3 years without ever moving in together just because it was an immature relationship/we were young and stupid/it never got to that stage.