Problem at work, need some quick advice....

mountainofdebt

cte1111 wrote: »

I find the "Every time he does this, it's a concious effort not to break his wrist and bring him to his knees" more of a concern TBH. It does seem rather an extreme statement.

Totally agree

Strider590

Ok..... I think this is what i'm going to do.

I'm going to see the business manager, he handles all the employee handbook related stuff and deals with general things about the place.

I'm going to tell him that a certain individual thinks it appropriate to pat me on the back as though a pet animal. I'm going to encourage him to send out a general email, one warning against inappropriate behaviour and warning that some colleagues may not appreciate physical contact. This way, it has to stop and this way it's been dealt with indirectly without going on a witch hunt. Ordinarily I hate when people deal with stuff this way, but sometimes you just have to go against your own principles.

The desk reorganising will be fantastic ammo for later on, I can't really go into detail, but it's like a blind person coming a long and reorganising your jigsaw puzzle. The excuses this guy has for doing this, don't stand up technically (in a technical dept) and he doesn't even know it yet, because he's literally got no technical background at all and has made the one fatal mistake that people always make with me, he's taken my quiet nature for stupidity.

scheming_gypsy

drawing pins through your shirt / jumper

just make sure you remember to put the pins facing out.

Strider590

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

drawing pins through your shirt / jumper

just make sure you remember to put the pins facing out.

:rotfl:


This is sooooooo wrong, does it make me a bad person for thinking of ways to do this?

Takes me back to my school days when the class bully used to throw peoples pencil cases about the room, I pushed drawing pins into my case from the inside, he tried it one day, I got into some serious trouble with the teacher, but he never stole it again :cool:

scheming_gypsy

My old manager tried to bully the whole department, withholding bonuses and grading people down on PDR's so we got a lower payrise. Just a complete tool.
One day he bought a new car, a few weeks later he pushed that bit too far and 7 years later his car keys are still set in concrete where i threw them when I did my garden fence.

CFC

Strider590 wrote: »

Ok..... I think this is what i'm going to do.

I'm going to see the business manager....

....I'm going to tell him that a certain individual thinks it appropriate to pat me on the back as though a pet animal. I'm going to encourage him to send out a general email, one warning against inappropriate behaviour and warning that some colleagues may not appreciate physical contact.

The excuses this guy has for doing this, don't stand up technically (in a technical dept) and he doesn't even know it yet, because he's literally got no technical background at all and has made the one fatal mistake that people always make with me, he's taken my quiet nature for stupidity.

When in fact your quiet nature is an expression of a mix of incompetence in interpersonal relationships and aggression.

For heaven's sake stick to Project Management, never manage people.

Strider590

CFC wrote: »

When in fact your quiet nature is an expression of a mix of incompetence in interpersonal relationships and aggression.

For heaven's sake stick to Project Management, never manage people.

I'm an engineer, I prefer to do, rather than talking about doing, my achievements define me, but I don't run around boasting about them. I can't stand bullsh*t, management speak and small talk.

Touching out context is nothing more than a form of aggression, a show of superiority, a show of ownership. I suggest you go away and do some research on this.......
Watch some of the videos of world leaders meeting each other, watch the body language.

If the company MD pats me on the back, I take that respectfully because the guy built a multi million £ business from the ground up. But when someone with no skills, no qualifications, no experience and a below average intelligence does this, I take it as a show of aggression, assumed dominance and quite possibly as an insult.

AP007

It is inappropriate to pat someone on the back. Just like putting an arm round someone in the workplace if they were upset.

duchy

Must admit I do see where the OP is coming from........it's a fairly subtle form of undermining -and often deliberate -designed to wind you up til you do or say something inappropriate.

I like the general email about inappropriate physical contact idea ....think I'd be asking other members of the team if he fiffles with everyone's desk .....it may be an OCD type thing ....but if it was ONLY my desk I'd be thinking of some creative booby trapping........ I'd go for an alarm going off -loud siren when something specific is moved or a verbal alarm ..."Arghhh that hurts get off" voice alarm -but you're an engineer you may be more creative in your boobytrap

dandelionclock30

I would just tell him straight, please dont pat me on the back again or move my things about. Told to him in a seriously manner, not joking etc.
I would say that I was telling him now to his face and that if he continues that I will be complaining.