Overheard a conversation between Mum and stepdad last night, help

lifecanbetough4

jacques_chirac wrote: »

If things are that bad why do you want to continue living there? Because you're getting a free ride?

because I want to move out once I finish uni and have built up a bit more savings. It would make the whole moving out process easier.

If I move out now, it would mess up everything.

I will try and tell them I will move in next summer when we talk tonight, I am really hoping they don't just say they want me to leave this month

jacques_chirac

DKLS wrote: »

Perhaps they want to grow old disgracefully and have wild sex all over the house?

A bit difficult when you have a selfish pain snail in the house.

Kitchen table so clean you could **** on it?

krlyr

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

Being thrown out and being blamed for the reason for all their problems. It has been the case throughout my entire life, I get blamed for everything.

Then remove yourself from the situation. You are not forced to stay there, it is simply the easiest solution for you right now. Thousands of other people your age have managed to leave homes - whether they were chucked out, walked out, mutually agreed it was the best time to fly the nest or whatever.

If you are unhappy with how they treat you, you are the only one who can control the situation, i.e. leave so that you cannot be their scapegoat, if that is what you feel you are.

I imagine you will soon begin to really appreciate the sacrifices made for you once you're on your own two feet, with rent, bills, etc. to cover yourself. I know I certainly did!

hazyjo

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

if I was a parent, you must be joking if I even thought about charging my children rent whatever age they were

Maybe that's why you're like you are then. Oblivious to real life costs and living expenses.

Doesn't look like it's done you much good...

Not everyone will charge their offspring rent. But I think it does people good to understand the value of money. Once you're an adult and have some money coming in, that's a bit different to a parent being expected to support a 'child'.

Jx

hazyjo

Actually, the fact the OP keeps coming back with other little comments which are quite obviously said to provoke a reaction, I'm very much leaning towards this being some bored person who really does need to get out more and get some friends. Maybe that bit was true.

Jx

poet123

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

Yes, my Mum has OCD with cleaning/tidyness, honestly its a nightmare

Has she actually been diagnosed with OCD or do you just think she has it because her standards of tidiness are higher than yours!!;)

thorsoak

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

Yes, my Mum has OCD with cleaning/tidyness, honestly its a nightmare

Your Mum & Stepdad's house .....their rules when it comes to cleaning/tidyness! It seems as if you still being in the family home, with your business which takes up two rooms and half the family garage is causing your parents nightmare.

If you really want to be building a business, then renting premises should be part of your budget - it is unfair of you to assume that you can just live at home rent-free AND run a business therefrom without contributing.

You say you buy your own food and toiletries - what about contributing to the electricity/water/utility bills?

thorsoak

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

because I want to move out once I finish uni and have built up a bit more savings. It would make the whole moving out process easier.

If I move out now, it would mess up everything.

I will try and tell them I will move in next summer when we talk tonight, I am really hoping they don't just say they want me to leave this month

What would it mess up? If you stay until next summer it sounds as if you would really mess up the relationship with your parents.

Clutterfree

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

because I want to move out once I finish uni and have built up a bit more savings. It would make the whole moving out process easier.

If I move out now, it would mess up everything.

I will try and tell them I will move in next summer when we talk tonight, I am really hoping they don't just say they want me to leave this month

You will TELL them you will move next summer??? :eek:

How about you ASK them if they could let you stay until next summer?

lifecanbetough4

so it seems what I feared was true, that parents don't give a sh it about their children once they reach mid twenties