Overheard a conversation between Mum and stepdad last night, help

pulliptears

Oh what the hell, I'm ill and cranky..

Pay your share or !!!!!! off.

You are using their home for your business thus saving you rental of premises, you pay no money towards household bills etc. Frankly you are extracting the urine.

Homes don't run on loving family bonds, they require money. Perhaps now you are in your 20's you can hoik up your big boy pants and start giving a shit about your parents eh?

heretolearn_2

my Mum has OCD with cleaning/tidyness, honestly its a nightmare

actually it IS a nightmare having to live with a condition like this, that doesn't mean you don't care about the person who has it, it's just a vent on how it effects your own life. One of the reasons I left home at 18 was not being able to take any more of one of my own parent's problems due to OCD (not cleaning, more obsession with locks/security/lights/knowing where everyone is at any given moment). It's the way they are, I also feel very sorry for them due to the amount of anxiety it causes them all the time, but when you don't live with it 24/7 it's a lot easier to humour and not get annoyed by it. But it was hard to live with and it still drives my other parent nuts!

Pollycat

heretolearn wrote: »

my Mum has OCD with cleaning/tidyness, honestly its a nightmare

actually it IS a nightmare having to live with a condition like this, that doesn't mean you don't care about the person who has it, it's just a vent on how it effects your own life. One of the reasons I left home at 18 was not being able to take any more of one of my own parent's problems due to OCD (not cleaning, more obsession with locks/security/lights/knowing where everyone is at any given moment). It's the way they are, I also feel very sorry for them due to the amount of anxiety it causes them all the time, but when you don't live with it 24/7 it's a lot easier to humour and not get annoyed by it. But it was hard to live with and it still drives my other parent nuts!

Taken alongside the other comments the OP has made about his Mum & Stepdad, I'm pretty sure it means the OP feels inconvenienced by his Mum's OCD and is 100% intolerant about her condition - apart from the impact it has on him.

I don't believe he cares about his Mum's feelings or situation at all.

Melaniep101

I'm not convinced the OP is being serious here, but if it is for real, I'm amazed that your mum and stepdad have put up with you for this long!

Much as I love my own daughter of 19, it was a huge relief to pack her off to Uni so that me and hubby could have a bit of a life to ourselves. Not that we want to swing from chandeliers or anything, but it's nice to be able to have a takeaway without having to pay for a third person, or to come in from work to find the house in the same state as you left it.

OP - You probably don't think your presence in the house disturbs your mum and step dad much but at 24 you are more than capable of fending for yourself, and quite honestly, they have done their bit! They are not responsible for you anymore - YOU are! Grow up and get a life.

Seriously, this sense of entitlement that some young people seem to have really annoys me - your parents owe you nothing, you owe them a lot. It's their house, not yours, so move out and act like a 24 year old!

hazyjo

My guess is the next thing the OP posts will be something else to provoke a reaction, or there'll be another newbie claiming to be the mother or something.

Jx

Melaniep101

hazyjo wrote: »

My guess is the next thing the OP posts will be something else to provoke a reaction, or there'll be another newbie claiming to be the mother or something.

Jx

If they post at all... I doubt the OP will be back...

paulineb_2

Melaniep101 wrote: »

I'm not convinced the OP is being serious here, but if it is for real, I'm amazed that your mum and stepdad have put up with you for this long!

Much as I love my own daughter of 19, it was a huge relief to pack her off to Uni so that me and hubby could have a bit of a life to ourselves. Not that we want to swing from chandeliers or anything, but it's nice to be able to have a takeaway without having to pay for a third person, or to come in from work to find the house in the same state as you left it.

OP - You probably don't think your presence in the house disturbs your mum and step dad much but at 24 you are more than capable of fending for yourself, and quite honestly, they have done their bit! They are not responsible for you anymore - YOU are! Grow up and get a life.

Seriously, this sense of entitlement that some young people seem to have really annoys me - your parents owe you nothing, you owe them a lot. It's their house, not yours, so move out and act like a 24 year old!

Its not that easy just to move out for a lot of people. When I was 24 I was unemployed. My options were very limited and my mum was happy to have me around longer. I was 26 before I moved into my own place.

Not everyone in their 20s has a sense of entitlement, a lot of people move back in with parents after they marry because they cant get on the property ladder.

Sometimes people dont have the financial means to fend for themselves and that is reality.

balletshoes

paulineb wrote: »

Its not that easy just to move out for a lot of people. When I was 24 I was unemployed. My options were very limited and my mum was happy to have me around longer. I was 26 before I moved into my own place.

Not everyone in their 20s has a sense of entitlement, a lot of people move back in with parents after they marry because they cant get on the property ladder.

Sometimes people dont have the financial means to fend for themselves and that is reality.

i agree - but the OP clearly has a major sense of entitlement going on, and I think thats what Melanie above was referring to.

Pollycat

paulineb wrote: »

Its not that easy just to move out for a lot of people. When I was 24 I was unemployed. My options were very limited and my mum was happy to have me around longer. I was 26 before I moved into my own place.

But the OP's Mum & Stepdad are not happy to have him around longer (and no wonder given the attitude he's displayed on here).

paulineb wrote: »

Not everyone in their 20s has a sense of entitlement, a lot of people move back in with parents after they marry because they cant get on the property ladder.

But this particular poster does have a sense of entitlement.
He thinks that just because his Mum & Stepdad live in a 4 bedroomed house, it's perfectly OK for him to fill rooms with his stock, not to mention half the garage.

He even acknowledges that they don't like him filling the house with stock.

He has such a sense of entitlement that he believes that even if he did pay rent, his parents should put that money aside and give it back to him when he moves out.

paulineb wrote: »

Sometimes people dont have the financial means to fend for themselves and that is reality.

And sometimes people just take advantage.
The OP is saving for a deposit for a house.
Not everybody has parents who allow them to live rent-free so they can save up for a deposit.

He's lucky - but he doesn't realise it. That's what's so appalling about his attitude.

Rev

You want to stay rent free despite using two bedrooms and a garage. You want to tell them you'll move out next summer. You think they should give in to your every whim. You can't pay rent because you're saving. You can't blah blah blah.

My god when you do move out OP come back and tell us how it's going. I can see it now.

British had have cut me off because I didn't pay. But I was saving for a car so I couldn't pay. They don't give a crap about people!

Get a grip. Grow up and stop thinking your parents should do everything for you. Get a storage facility. Pay rent. Chip in. So what if the rooms would be empty. Fact is they're not your rooms to decide if they should be empty or full.

Your utter astounding lack of respect for the people who have paid your way for 20+ years is shocking.

I'm surprised they haven't kicked you out sooner to be honest.