Overheard a conversation between Mum and stepdad last night, help

emweaver

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

I don't pay any rent but buy all own foods, hardly use washing machine etc.

I can't offer money because I am trying to save for a house. Also chucking me out will mess up my business.


I feel they are using me as the scapegoat to all their problems, always been like that, so frustrating

That is rubbish, many people saving to buy their own house pay board to their parents and some even pay rent for their own place. No wonder she is fed up with you living there for free, having to do your washing and using her house as a business!

emweaver

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

Yes, my Mum has OCD with cleaning/tidyness, honestly its a nightmare

OCD is an illness, she needs help not criticism . Maybe if you didn't clutter up half the house it would help her OCD. Also OCD worsens at time of stress so maybe this is why she is a "nightmare".

emweaver

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

if I was a parent, you must be joking if I even thought about charging my children rent whatever age they were

You will think differently when the time comes, especially if they are taking over the house as you are.I imagine running a business uses extra electricity too.

yvonne13_2

Gosh I'm not surprised the OP hasn't come back. There's some nasty below the belt comments on here.

fluffnutter

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

Yes, my Mum has OCD with cleaning/tidyness, honestly its a nightmare

Riiigght. Then move out. How your mum approaches looking after her own home is up to her and to deem an incredibly distressing condition as simply a 'nightmare' for you suggests a rather selfish soul.

I have some sympathy with your predicament but you're a big girl/boy now. If living with your mother is that much of a problem for you, then sort your shit out and move out. There are ways; they might not be ideal, they might not be your Plan A but at least they'll stop you moaning about your parents on the internet.

bsms1147

Thread of the day!

tesuhoha

I have a different view. Its so difficult for young people to start off in life today, there are no jobs and its practically impossible to get on the housing ladder. Private renting is expensive and there are no council properties. If my daughter wanted to live with me rent free to save for a house then I would be only too pleased to help out. She is 27 and I have offered her the chance to do this but she is living in a city and is getting a professional qualification paid for by her employer. However, in the future I would help her and any partner to save because I want to see her get a start in life and not have to struggle quite as much (she has already worked hard to get where she is now).

As for making her leave home while still at university, I think that is a very harsh thing.

System

hmmm random thought, is 25 the age you can claim tax credits, for self employment? maybe that's why OP wants to wait? and why they "can't afford" to move out now

globetraveller

You state your mum has problems with her work and finance and yet you wont help financially. Has it not occurred to you that she might rent out the two rooms to help with her financial worries?
Or of course YOU could pay rent- if your business is above board then you can claim expenses I would have thought for storage space.

19lottie82

OP, what is your business? Does it actually make you "proper" money? Do you plan to continue on with it after you graduate.

Would it be worth you paying for storage when you leave?

When you say you are "saving for a house" what do you mean exactly? A deposit to buy? How much have you got saved already?

I think it would be better if you moved out, in terms of your relationship with your parents and also, you, personally.

Unless your business is making you good money, I'd sell it, get a p/t job and move into a house share, which will improve your social life no end.