Overheard a conversation between Mum and stepdad last night, help

paulineb_2

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

so it seems what I feared was true, that parents don't give a sh it about their children once they reach mid twenties

At the beginning of this thread you described yourself as broken, now your main focus is being upset about the prospect of having to pay some rent so you might keep a roof over your head.

I understand why people on here are beginning to think you are trolling.

If you arent and you have a steady income coming in plus money that could be diverted from your saving for a house fund to pay some rent, then Id say pay it.

Before you do end up being thrown out and your life is going to be much tougher.

bigmomma051204

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

I'm 24 and run a business from home, 4 bedroom house. I have a bedroom and one of the other bedrooms is for stock, Also use around half the garage. I've always known my parents haven't been happy with it, the amount of boxes and clutter I suppose but its how I make money.


Last night I overheard a conversation with my Mum telling stepdad to say to me that its his house, get out. It was my Mum who was forcing the issue. They want to speak to me today at dinner. She also complained about how I never go out(don't have friends) and this prevents them from getting time to themselves and also mentioned not having sex because of me, which I kind of understand but can't they close the door or something, I can't even hear anything.

I have told them I plan to move out at 25 and will beg to stay until then.

But I'm broken right now, don't think she loves me anymore and she has serious problems, she has troubles at work, finance, ocd...

I'm a regular member but wanted to keep this private so signed up with a new username, its not a wum before anyone says it is

Green voids red. :T

*shudder*

thorsoak

Parents do care about their young adults living sensible, INDEPENDANT lives - most young adults leave of their own volition - others need to be shown the door.

No point in feeling sorry for yourself - start looking on Gumtree/uni for a room in a shared house.

stir_crazy

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

so it seems what I feared was true, that parents don't give a sh it about their children once they reach mid twenties

You're no longer a child by the time you reach your mid twenties. One of the definitions of "parent" is to be a protector or guardian. If you are 24 with a job or business then you don't need your parent's protection any more.

That's not to say that your parents no longer care, just that their "main" job is over and now they want their own space. Your mum and step dad are entitled to their own lives.

poet123

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

so it seems what I feared was true, that parents don't give a sh it about their children once they reach mid twenties

There is a huge difference between giving a !!!! and being walked all over. Currently, you occupy more space in the house than they do!!

I have four kids, one who has moved out and three still at home. It can be hard adjusting the dynamic to live as adults rather than parent and child.

Honestly? You are behaving like a child.

Parents are people too.;)

lifecanbetough4

but do you not think it would be reasonable for me to move out in summer rather than now?

lushlifesaver

Clutterfree wrote: »

You will TELL them you will move next summer??? :eek:

How about you ASK them if they could let you stay until next summer?

I agree with Clutterfree here, as others have said it's their house which they kindly let you continue to live in.

If you 'barely use the washing machine' what do you do about clean clothes?!

Also, I do hope your business is all in order and being properly declared.

You are being extremely selfish right now, buying your own food is just a drop in the ocean compared to the rest of the costs incurred by your mum and step-dad. There's utilities (gas, electric, water), buildings and contents insurance, TV license, internet and phone, Sky (if the household has it), the cost of wear and tear to the house and it's contents (furnishings/fixtures/white goods/carpets etc) and unless you go so far as to buy your own toilet paper, soap, toothpaste etc all of those extra pennies which add up!

You are not just taking up 'one room' it's two bedrooms and half a garage. Those two rooms have countless other possible uses and even a four bed house can seem small once you remove bedrooms from the equation.

If you can save for a house you can afford to atleast offer rent, even if they only take a token amount from you. You have mentioned that your mum has 'problems' and one of those which you mentioned were finances. Why you would continue to run a business, keep all the profits and not even offer anything to her is beyond me.
You should also be contributing to the running of the house; cooking the odd meal for the three of you, doing dishes, cleaning (shock horror!)

I suggest you start doing these things quickly otherwise not only will your relationship with your parents become strained you will also receive a sharp knock down when you enter the real world.

And before you decide anything about all of us nice mse people giving you a reality shock and make your mind up about us being older people who just don't understand your situation. Many of us have been or are in the same boat (although not likely to be running a business from someone else's home) and I for one am actually slightly younger than you and wouldn't dream of behaving the way you are - online or in the 'real world'.

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

so it seems what I feared was true, that parents don't give a sh it about their children once they reach mid twenties

realistically what difference is 6-8 months really going to make? If the money you would currently pocket in that time is enough to set yourself up with a home (bought or otherwise) it's enough to also pay rent for that period of time.

*max*

It's hard to imagine someone could be such an ungrateful, whiny, immature little brat at 24 years old outside of the trolling sphere. Poor parents if this is real...

thorsoak

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

but do you not think it would be reasonable for me to move out in summer rather than now?

NO! Do it now!

Tiddlywinks

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

I don't pay any rent but buy all own foods, hardly use washing machine etc.

I can't offer money because I am trying to save for a house. Also chucking me out will mess up my business.


I feel they are using me as the scapegoat to all their problems, always been like that, so frustrating

Selfish, self centred and utterly out of touch with reality.

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

because I want to move out once I finish uni and have built up a bit more savings. It would make the whole moving out process easier.

If I move out now, it would mess up everything.

I will try and tell them I will move in next summer when we talk tonight, I am really hoping they don't just say they want me to leave this month

Me, me, me....

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

so it seems what I feared was true, that parents don't give a sh it about their children once they reach mid twenties

Now I KNOW you're winding us up - school must be out early today.