Overheard a conversation between Mum and stepdad last night, help

lifecanbetough4

if I was a parent, you must be joking if I even thought about charging my children rent whatever age they were

krlyr

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

My idea was the any rent paid to parents from people my age, was given back to them by the parents to help with moving out when they moved out? does this not happen most of the time?

This was what my mum hoped to do, we had to pay housekeeping from about 16 (the amount depending on our situation, e.g. if we were in education so only working part-time, if we were working fulltime so in a position to contribute more). Unfortunately, life changed, my mum suddenly had to fund a house and 4 kids by herself, and that money had to actually be used to pay the bills.

I don't begrudge paying 'rent' for a second though. The amount was reasonable, I'd never have gotten even a houseshare for the amount I paid. And it taught me valuable lessons in budgeting for a portion of my wages to be going onto rent/bills, so it wasn't a big shock when I did move out.

If your mum is in the position to do this, why not offer to pay rent anyway? The gesture is then there, to show you do appreciate that there are sacrifices to be made. Even if she uses some of it for bills, getting even a proportion of it back would be a bonus IMO.

CAN1976

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

if I was a parent, you must be joking if I even thought about charging my children rent whatever age they were

When I lived at home post uni and was working I was expected to chip in, and I'm glad I was.

A) Being an adult brings with is adult responsibilities

Getting used to living rent free will just make it that much harder when it's time for you to leave.

sodukoman

It's not your house, you are being subsidised, be careful what you wish for.

paulineb_2

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

if I was a parent, you must be joking if I even thought about charging my children rent whatever age they were

Are you upset about being asked to leave or upset about the prospect of paying rent?

If you leave, you'll be paying someone rent, probably much more than your mum and stepdad would take from you.

sulkisu

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

if I was a parent, you must be joking if I even thought about charging my children rent whatever age they were

Good luck with that!

Don't think of it as 'rent'. Think of it as a grown man, earning decent money, contributing to his own living costs and not expecting to [STRIKE]scrounge [/STRIKE]live off of his parents.

Does that sound better ?

lifecanbetough4

paulineb wrote: »

Are you upset about being asked to leave or upset about the prospect of paying rent?

If you leave, you'll be paying someone rent, probably much more than your mum and stepdad would take from you.

Being thrown out and being blamed for the reason for all their problems. It has been the case throughout my entire life, I get blamed for everything.

DKLS

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

and also mentioned not having sex because of me, which I kind of understand but can't they close the door or something, I can't even hear anything.

Perhaps they want to grow old disgracefully and have wild sex all over the house?

A bit difficult when you have a selfish pain snail in the house.

jacques_chirac

lifecanbetough4 wrote: »

Being thrown out and being blamed for the reason for all their problems. It has been the case throughout my entire life, I get blamed for everything.

If things are that bad why do you want to continue living there? Because you're getting a free ride?

Toothfairy4

I hope it is not the case, but if you behave towards your parents as selfish and spoiled as your coming across here then it's no wonder they would rather have the house back to themselves!