Ruined engagement surprise, what can we do ??

Caramel147

I think the key here is to remember that this is about Michelle and Daniel getting married. Their marriage. Not a proposal or a wedding. Them spending their lives together.
When you look at it like that, it doesn't seem such a huge deal that she knew she was going to be proposed to.

If I was Daniel, I'd be angry and upset, yes, but you don't deserve a free ring. Discount, flowers and an apology is perfectly right from the jewellers.

FBaby

How much did the ring cost? Quite a bit it would seem from your first post. I think it is quite right that you should get some compensation. A reputable jewellers' employer (or any for that matter) should have know better than to make that mistake. They were a bit slow to come up with some compensation...that's today's business...but they have. The question is? How much were they offering and how much were you expecting (as in the value of the ring). There is a difference between a £200 ring and a £2000+ ring.

whitewing

Why don't you (and Michelle's parents, if you want), organise a surprise 10th wedding anniversary present/Christmas present for the happy couple. You can't do anything about the proposal surprise being ruined but you could do 'something' different. (Contact surprise surprise the TV show).

lostinrates

whitewing wrote: »

Why don't you (and Michelle's parents, if you want), organise a surprise 10th wedding anniversary present/Christmas present for the happy couple. You can't do anything about the proposal surprise being ruined but you could do 'something' different. (Contact surprise surprise the TV show).

It's quite a lot of planning in advance, surely? Planning something for their tenth wedding anniversary when they aren't even married yet:D

Stephb1986_2

Wouldn't it of been a bit obvious it was a surprise when Michelle wasn't with him? It doesn't need spelling out surely! Why didn't the store just say sorry I can only speak with Mr who ever I will call back later.

Hopefully Michelle will love the ring, Maybe just accept the flowers and how ever much off their wedding rings as things like this can leave a bad taste in your mouth. It is awful sad that the surprise got ruined. I know from my own experience planning mine and my fianc!'s wedding.

Steph xx

LannieDuck

I think it's rather a cheek of the manager to offer a discount on the wedding rings, when it's an engagement ring that's causing the trouble. I can understand the annoyance at the offer of money off if the OP's son goes back to spend more...

I might be inclined to use my righteous anger to suggest that the manager apply the offered discount to the engagement ring. If he did, I'd feel the matter had been satisfactorily resolved.

Richard53

I work on the principle that we are all imperfect and mistakes happen. If there's a genuine mistake, then for me an apology wipes the slate clean. The offer of flowers would have been a nice touch and very welcome.

(If the 'mistake' had an ulterior motive, such as selling the son's details to a wedding dress company for marketing purposes, then I would be furious and demanding all sorts of things. But it seems in this case it was literally a clerical error, a key fact not written down, or not written in the right place, or not read at the right time. It happens.)

The OP was right to feel disappointed on her son's behalf, and even angry for a brief period, but posting the company and the names of the 'guilty men' on the web was way over the top and a serious error of judgement in my view.

grey_lady

I find this disturbing - you lied to your partner, you son's potential fil lied to his partner and you are teaching your son that telling fibs to your nearest and dearest is ok. Well I don't think that is ok.

Plus if he's big enough to get married then he's big enough to deal with the fallout from this himself.

Plus its cheeky to expect the ring to be free.

cattie

In all likelihood the girlfriend already knew that the 'surprise' was looming. I know I did when my ex was planning a 'secret' engagement & know of a few other people who have seen through the wall of what other people think is secret planning.

Women have great intuition & the fact that the girlfriends response to a jewellery store calling about a ring is that she doesn't think she was supposed to know about that indicates that it was not a great surprise to her after all. Anybody who truly didn't know would be completely baffled as to what ring the jewellery store was calling about & start an inquisition with their boyfriend straight away.

Anyway, after 10 years together, surely an engagement can't be a surprise, she's probably been expecting it to happen long before now.

anniec19

The OP was right to feel disappointed on her son's behalf, and even angry for a brief period, but posting the company and the names of the 'guilty men' on the web was way over the top and a serious error of judgement in my view.[/QUOTE]

You're right & I apologise. I have edited the post as I feel I was too hasty. However, I do feel that this shop has belittled the experience. Hey oh, you live & learn !!:A