Ruined engagement surprise, what can we do ??

gayleanne

Gordon Bennet, some people, the OP has joined this site to post this, the absolute cheek, thinking that they can have free wedding rings. Lately thats all we seem to be getting is:- can I sue, how much compensation, what are my rights, everybody seems to want something for nothing, and why join a site to ask?

Well to be quite truthful if I was the girlfriend, I wouldn't be annoyed that the shop, accidentally told me about the ring, I think that I would be more worried that my boyfriend, took his mum with him to pick the ring. Especially as he is 28, he is not a little boy at that age, (or is he)

[Deleted User]

Hi,

reading the original post again, Michelle didn't seem too surprised if all she said was, 'I don't think you were supposed to tell me that', methinks she knew what was going on.

marisco_2

anniec19 wrote: »

What do you guys think ??

I think the compensation culture in this country is absurd. The company made a mistake, they have apologised and offered a discount to the original price of the ring. Your reaction and ludicrous demands are only succeeding to cheapen this whole situation even more.

I would strongly recommend that you are very careful about naming and shaming a company, its location and individual employees names on a public forum. That kind of action could end up costing you far more than the ring is even worth!

itsanne

anniec19 wrote: »

This is the first time I have posted on here. I was looking for opinions, not abuse. Daniel works long hours which is why I offered to deal directly with POB and I have a long background of working in customer service. Everything I wrote is true, and provable, so I have no need to worry about naming names. It has been ruined for them and the attitude from the shop stinks. Ps surely it's traditional to ask the brides father ????

I do think the manager should have phoned rather than emailing, but fail to see how an apology with offer of flowers and a discount "stinks". To expect more seems more compensation culture than anything else - it's not as if you can be offered anything which will reinstate the surprise element.

It doesn't strike me that the fact that it would normally be your son dealing with the shop warrants the amount of criticism you've had as it's really a family matter that you've taken over, but I suspect people are finding this irritating because your expectations are so unreasonably high.

As it's not advisable to give names in the way you have done, I think you should edit your original post to at least remove the surname (preferably all the names) and ask jackomdj if he would be kind enough to do the same from his copy of your post. He doesn't have to do it, but it would be in your interests if he would.

pinkshoes

Did she say yes??????

barbiedoll

When my husband bought my engagement ring (we chose it together), I had to have it sized and the jewellers promised that it would be ready for the following Saturday. We had planned a celebratory meal with a couple of friends so that I could show off my diamond.

Of course, on the Saturday we went to the shop and the ring wasn't ready. I moaned a bit about how our "engagement party was ruined" and they gave us (I think) a voucher for the shop, or some money off, I can't remember which.

We came out of the store thinking that we had a right result, ok, I couldn't show off my ring that night but I did have plenty of opportunity to do so in the following 15 years. It didn't ruin my life, it didn't even ruin my day so I think that OP and son need to get a grip.

First World Problem? I'd say so!

meer53

Poor Daniel. And poor Michelle ! Wonder if she knows she's marrying her MIL too ?

Okydoky25

Kynthia wrote: »

Hopefully most men would know whether their future fianc! would adore or abhor this tradition. I personally find it offensive that anyone would think my father should have veto over who I marry. I make all the big decisions in my life..

I think times may have changed for our generation but I wanted my Dad to be asked by my now Husband more out of respect for him. It's no longer about permission.

OP my husband took me abroad to propose to a very romantic city and forgot the ring..I got over it so will she.

wiogs

I take it Daniel is too busy to post asking for advice himself.

It is a shame that the surprise has been spoiled however what's done is done.

I hope your son manages to grow a pair and deal with his own problems in future.

meritaten

jeez - get a grip! mistakes happen and tbh it sounds as if Michelle wasn't fooled by your elaborate ploys! possibly she is far more intelligent than you give her credit for!

you got an apology and flowers - I don't see why they should give you a free wedding ring! what if Michelle thinks 'I am not marrying this mummys boy and refuses the proposal'?

You shouldn't have actually named the shop and even worse identified its employees! it was a mistake and it wasn't done maliciously! I think you are out of order!