The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

SewIt_2

Oh Rowangirl, I'm so sorry to hear that. You must be devastated. Big big hugs honey, hope that DH is home soon. Could the embryologist give you any indication of why? Was it straight IVF or ICSI? I will keep everything crossed that they are just slow. Thinking of you xxx

Derby - I didn't get a scan until day 9 so day 6 seems quite early. At that point I had some follies, but they were very small. Enough grew in time, so you have time and upping the dose will help. I know its easy for me to say, but try and not think about it too much as you are doing great. x

T2D, how long have you been DR for, it doesn't seem that long? Are you on a short protocol? Good luck for stimming xx

Tea - get the egg dance at the ready! Hope you get to satisfy your 'urges' soon :rotfl:

PM - how are the injections going?

Chickpea - sorry you are struggling right now, it must be tough to see people who would be at the same stage as you would be, hugs x

littleme82

Sewit - I'm so pleased you are at the top of your list - you must be so happy. Hope you have an amazing christmas and go out and party as hopefully this will be the last time you are able to!

WW - hope they get your dosage sorted out.

Tea - that sounds pretty awful what you went through. Hope it doesnt happen again. I'm shouting on the egg for you :j

Babywanted - really hope the miracle happens for you.

Angel - hope you're keeping well. You've really been through it recently. Hope your FS appointment comes through soon and you can get going on your treatment.

Derby - don't feel down, its still really early in the process. Part had to keep on having scans and injections but she got an egg! Glad to see they're upping your dose - fingers crossed! You're never too old for cuddly toys.

Chick - good luck with your diet.

Time - hope the scan is going well. would have loved to see their face when they saw the t-bar inside! Goes to show how they dont always read the notes....

Rowangirl - thinking of you


I hate this part of the cycle - taking tablets and knowing you still have another 10 days or so to wait before you get down with it...... Does anyone else get to the point each month when you stop and think why do we keep trying when we know that medically its just not going to happen.

Feeling a bit today

tea_lover

SewIt wrote: »

Tea - get the egg dance at the ready! Hope you get to satisfy your 'urges' soon :rotfl:

Think what's more likely to happen is that I'll end up having an argument with OH about something really stupid like chips or 'what else that bloke in emmerdale has been in'* and I'll go to bed in a strop with only the cat for company. That's usually the surefire sign that ov. is here :rotfl:.

* sadly these are real examples.

SewIt_2

oh dear tea - hopefully it will be plain sailing tonight, with no chips or Emmerdale in sight!! I too get very irritated with my DH when I'm ovulating, often its cause I'm annoyed he's not up for it. He says it cause I'm so ratty and that doesn't put him in the mood! Its a vicious cycle sometimes!

Thanks Littleme - still in shock a wee bit. Actually think I need to call the clinic to find out if I can DR over christmas, as I assume they will be shut then. Didn't get any scans last time during DR so it might be ok. Sorry you are feeling down today, hugs x

Rowingirl

Hope your follies start to take off Derby. Mine were slow starters but quickly caught up after day 6.

Clinic called again at 5pm; one egg is showing signs of fertilisation and they will check the other four eggs tomorrow. They want to do embryo transfer tomorrow afternoon. My head is spinning; I'm happy, nervous, hopeful, shocked, scared our embryo won't make through tonight. I want to go to the clinic and sit by the incubator to metaphorically hold my embryo's hand & coax it through the night. OMG today has been a rollercoaster .

Primmer

Rowingirl - really hoping your embie continues to fertilise and is successfully transferred tomorrow - keeping everything crossed

tea_lover

RG - everything crossed xx.

Wonder_Woman

Just caught up as in London all day, gaaaah what an emotional rollercoaster for you RG! Praying you have good news in the morning.

T2D - yay for stimming!!

Derby2 - Good that they've upped your dose. I naively assumed you just carried on stimming until something happened (excuse my ignorance)? What is the cut-off point? Fingers and everything else crossed for you. Hot water bottle and bed sounds like a lovely option.

Tea, :rotfl:at your comments re chips/emmerdale. Me and DH are exactly the same.

Littleme, hugs for feeling carp. I know it sucks everyday but some still seem worse than others. Sending you a virtual hug!

time2deal

IVF/ICSI/FET cycles currently ongoing.

Rowingirl: started stimulation on 23/10/13 (short protocol IVF cycle). EC 5 November. Collected 5 eggs. Fingers and toes crossed for fertilization tonight.
Derby2: Started down-regging on 28th October. Long protocol. Scan 6 Nov. Increasing dosage - next scan 9 Nov.
Wonder Woman: Started down regulation on 24.10.13. Long protocol. Next scan 12 Nov. EC on w/c 25 Nov.
Time2deal: Downreg 2.11.2013. Stimms started 6 Nov. Doing long (antagonist) protocol. Next scan 12 Nov.

lucyloo77: FET planned for late Nov/Dec
Tea Lover: Starting down reg in the coming weeks. (Delayed to Jan)
Sewit: Looking to start over Christmas or early in new year.

Ovulation induction (Clomid unless otherwise stated)
cwtw (insolitol)
FrozenPenguin
Part Mouse (Menopur)
goodvibes
Littleme82
Picklekin

Awaiting FS or other appointment.
Danielley (MRI)
Floaty
lisawood78 (surrogacy)
onestep (adoption)
MrsDavo (5 November)
codemonkey
vesper

ttc limbo
Purcy81

codemonkey

Rowin, so pleased about the emby/embies. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

T2d - yay for stimming and bye bye coil.

tea - that sounds like us. Earlier we had a fight because I accidentally managed to download an episode of Made in Chelsea and he was going on about me watching rubbish tv and I was trying to point out that it was only part downloaded and not watched and it was an accident. I'm rubbish with the sky remote because I never actually get to have it except when DH is out. Today I got grumpy because the woman sitting next to me whispers to herself -I know what she's doing at any given time because she whispers a running commentary "now, open this, and file save and I think I need a cup of tea, I'll go make a cup of tea".

littleme - hugs for the crapness.

Not had a good couple of days psychologically - broke down in tears last night because I'd been reading a book and came across a name in it and I thought "ooh that's a nice name" and tried it with our surname and then realised there wasn't any point thinking about it. Then today my best friend had a baby and I am happy but I got upset because the chance of that never being me is so much higher than the chance of that ever being me. So I cried on DH again. And now I'm sore because the dog decided I was crying because DH was being mean to me so he jumped on me to defend me. Just fed up and sad and angry at the world and at myself because what kind of friend am I?

Oh and I'm f'd off with the fertility clinic because we still haven't heard anything from them and I've calculated that even with the new reduced waiting time that means I'll only have to wait a year for IVF, but means we now only get 2 cycles, by the time I get my appointment and then wait a year, plus another couple of months of general NHS fannying about, I'll be well over 35 and my chances drop further, and they're so low anyway, I don't need the extra drop thank you.

I've calculated - the population of Scotland is just over 5 million. The population of the area I'm having treatment in is a little under 500,000. If one in ten is having fertility problems, that's 50,000 people - that's including those who will have private treatment and those who will not need IVF. Presumably we're not all having fertility trouble at once, so why does it take so bleedin long?