The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Rowingirl

Folic acid is a B vitamin so water soluble. You can't overdose on it because your body will pee out the excess.

tea_lover

Yeah you just wee out what you don't need. I wouldn't advise taking 30 or so at once but the extra one here or there won't make any difference.

picklekin

Colleagues at work just had a long discussion about babies and how a friend was pregnant with triplets and she'd got pregnant both times within a month of trying, I'm ashamed to say I had dark thoughts! I wish in a way I could just tell everyone, have it out in the open, but when ever anyone asks me about children I just mumble "maybe one day" and change the subject. Finally told my mother a couple of months ago and it was not a good move, I now get melodramatic texts about how she "can't sleep for worrying about me, and how I should be thankful I have a lovely husband".. Grrr...

Sorry, rant over, and Happy New Year, hopefully the year of the horse brings us all what we want

Clevernamehere

Rant away Picklekin.
I told my Mum too quite recently. I have mixed feelings about it. She was upset that I hadn't told her sooner and then worried herself into a state about the whole thing. That was a big reason why I didn't tell her before. The whole thing is stressful enough without worrying about her now too. Anyway, what can you do? It has it's advantages too. At least it explains to her why I've probably been a massive cow the last couple of years!

neon_dannii

It's difficult but I think if more people would talk about their endeavours to get pregnant, then people wouldn't be so ignorant and much more aware. It's just difficult to talk about it though.

Fingers crossed for all you lovely PUPO ladies btw

frozenpenguin

Hi everyone, there’s lots going on on here - I miss a week and there’s 10+ pages to catch up on! (massive post alert)

clevernamehere, tealover, codemonkey, Part Mouse, Floaty, whattodonow, Fairydust and anyone I’ve missed – thank you very much for your wishes.Father-in-law is getting better slowly, he’s been moved from intensive care and the doctors say he’s making really good progress (although they do keep telling him he’s had a “Very Serious Operation”!). I think they’re looking at another 3-4 weeks in hospital as they need to make sure everything inside has healed before he can even start having liquidised food, and then they need to make sure that’s okay before letting him home. We have joked to him that by the time he gets home hopefully we’ll have a BFP

teaandcakeordeath – yay, congratulations! That is very exciting and no need to hide it – when it’s one of us its fine! :j x

tink – good luck with the Clomid, I had 7 months of it but with no success. I think it affects everyone differently, the main symptoms I had were really bad spots (worse than normal as I have PCOS so I usually have some anyway), horrible ovulation pain, headaches and I put on over half a stone.

PUPO ladies – congratulations! I’m keeping my fingers crossed for some BFP’s on here over the next few days :j

codemonkey – I had a HSG last March, I was actually expecting it to be worse than it was. I took some paracetamol about 45 minutes before – it’s a bit uncomfortable and when they put the tube through your cervix it’s painful for a few seconds but nothing unbearable (and yep, like Mrs Davo said, wear a pad when you go home). The whole process is quite surreal really – hope it all goes okay. x

fairydiamond – good luck for your appointment Monday. It’s nothing to be scared about, there’ll be a lot to take in but you’re free to ask as many questions as you like (even if you think it’s a silly question). x

Peonie – sorry to hear about your sister but that’s excellent news that it hasn’t spread. x

SewIt/Fairy/RowinGirl – hello cycle buddies! I’m not too bad; Provera AF came and went (and was no different to normal really). Monday next week I will have been DR-ing for 3 weeks and my baseline scan is on Tuesday. The first couple of weeks of DR-ing weren’t too bad but this last week I’ve felt pretty carppy – really really tired and a headache that’s just on the edge most of the time. I’m actually looking forward to my scan next week and the Gonal-F pens! How are you three? I agree SewIt – we need a fab catchy nickname, I quite like the Fantastic Follies Foursome :rotfl:

Hello to all the new ladies and hugs and best wishes to everyone xxx

picklekin

I did once, a friend of mine and my husbands asked us The Question and I simply answered "We've been trying for while, but no luck I'm afraid" and she looked sad but understanding, my husband however looked like he wished the ground would swallow him up. I felt OK telling this person as she's Danish (we were in Denmark) and doesn't know any of my other friends and if felt nice to be honest, but it was rather awkward as I don't think people are expecting that answer.

Peonie

The folic acid bottle says not to take more than the recommended dose. I will in future.

1 day til testing - eeek!
I've had PMS symptoms. I don't know if it's from the progesterone or not. The last 3 days I've also been really tired but I've got a cold so who knows.

codemonkey

HSG went ok. Hurt a bit when the tube went in, but she showed me the photos afterwards and said both my tubes looked fine with no blockages. I guess that's a good thing, but it does mean that our failure to get pregnant is firmly in DH's camp. I'm such a control freak that I hate the fact that the decision isn't with me anymore. DH gets to decide and I think he's gone cold on the idea of a sperm donor.

I talked to him about it last night and he said he didn't know if he could go through with it. I told him it would still be his baby, that he'd be there for the conception, all the appointments, the whole pregnancy, the birth and through the raising the child part but he got upset and was trying not to cry. I told him that we didn't have to decide right away and that we wouldn't do anything he wasn't happy with.

It's just really hard to know that I do have the ability to have a child, and that I no longer get to make that decision because DH's stopping point is way before mine.

Feeling a bit depressed and trying to work out whether I should go back to work this afternoon.
:(

codemonkey

As for the telling people thing - I've taken to bluntly telling the truth. It's kind of a relief.