The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

Code - will your OH consider counselling? If you do go down the donor route you would both have to have some counselling, but it may help him to discuss this anyway (before any decisions are made). Could maybe help him to get his thoughts in order.

Big hugs though - we have a teeny amount of dodgy sperm so I guess it's not quite the same, but the odds are still miniscule. OH won't even discuss donor sperm, it's always been an outright no. Which, if I'm honest, I'm a bit cross about. If we needed donor eggs I'd happily use them. But hey ho - can't make them do anything they don't want to!

Oh and work?! Why would you even ask that? Go home and watch friends all afternoon

picklekin

Aww Code, I would treat yourself to some chocolate, I've seen these Lindor eggs, me wants, how about one of those?

It must be hard for your OH code, knowing its all his fault... My OH was really firmly against adoption, until I compared it to the dog!! I said "He's ours now, isn't he? It could be the same eventually with a child" Amazingly he went from 100% against to it being a genuine option for us (we've even been for the initial "chat" with the council). Maybe counselling would help, and he just needs to find a way to make it acceptable to him... From what you've said though, he's a stubborn sort and getting him to counselling might be a struggle in itself. *hugs*

codemonkey

Just had some sweet and salty popcorn (so much for avoiding salt) and a cookie but not feeling much better.

All I've ever wanted is to be a mum. And I was so careful with all my old boyfriends because I wanted to create a secure life for my children, and then I meet a great guy, who'd be an awesome dad and we get a house and a dog and we decide to have a baby, then life decides to go "hahaha screw you and your efforts codemonkey. I'm going to give a baby to your nasty, scummy, !!!!!! of a relative (seriously, she conceived her first in a pub carpark and needed multiple DNA tests to figure out who the father was cause she'd slept with everyone who drank in the pub) and you get a husband with no sperm". And I'm willing to bet his scummy brothers one of whom is stoned most of the time and the other brother who cheated on his girlfriend multiple times and hid in his car when she found out and doesn't even want kids can have kids.

Sorry. I'm really angry today. I just want to curl up in bed, pull the covers up and refuse to come out for the rest of the day.

Screw it, if anyone needs me I'll be in my blanket fort colouring.

ETA: and all those blydi hours spent doing opks and agonising over pregnancy tests. I feel so stupid!!!

tea_lover

Can I come and play in your fort please? I have infertility anger and creme eggs??

lisawood78

I also have anger, impatience and bacon wrapped chicken with cheese in the middle, can I join in also??

It's either that or take the two stupid ones for a walk, and it's been sleeting, ALL DAY!!
And one of them ate my wellies......

mrshappy

Thinking of you code x :grouphug:

Derby2

Just dropping in to say I'm thinking of you PUPO ladies...

And hugs to Code too.

Clevernamehere

So sorry Code. You must be so frustrated.
Definitely take a duvet day.

Your oh might need to take a bit of time to get his head together. I don't know what kind of counseling might be available but I think it would be a good idea no matter what you decide.

Do blokes ever come on here by the way? I'm sure they could use a rant too. I would certainly be interested to hear a male perspective every now and then.

frozenpenguin

Oh code, I wish I knew you in real life, I'd give you a huge hug - I know it won't really make any difference but still. :grouphug:

I can offer some fancy Green and Blacks chocolate and some just-opened daffodils if that's any help? xxx

codemonkey

Thanks ladies. I burst into tears and the dog threw himself on me for cuddles and I fell asleep (stupidly wearing my contacts!!) .

You're all welcome in my fort, but Lisa, you may keep your chicken because I'm allergic to it :rotfl:

Is there a creme egg dance tea?