The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Floaty

Thanks Teamlowe.

I'm lurking but not posting much because I'm feeling a bit ostrich like atm. I so hope 2014's our year, everyone here deserves it. Merry Christmas all xxxxxxxx

bigzippy

TeamLowe wrote: »

Just wanted to pop in and say Merry Christmas to you all and I hope the festive season doesn't force too many awkward encounters with pregnant family members.

I hope you're all long gone from this thread by 2015

What she said
Or any awkward encounters with the 'when are you having kids/Christmas isn't Christmas without kids' etc brigade *roll eyes*

Merry Christmas guys. Have a drink on me! :beer:

angeltreats

Sewit and Star, excited for you both! Great news Star about the funding, and Sewit I will be stalking your posts to see how you get on.

Code, I totally want to be your real life friend so I can drink all your vodka. I had my first ever snowball last night advocaat & lemonade) and it was really rather nice, will have to buy a bottle today if I can face the shops.

Partmouse, I do tend to get CM on and off after ov and as far as I know it's quite common.

TACOD thanks very much my lovely but the USB stick turned up. It had fallen down behind the playstation.

T2D sounds like things are looking up for you, great news that the pretend transfer worked. I am so hopeful for you.

Danielly how are you and DH doing? I agree with everyone that any sort of abuse can never be condoned but the important thing is that you understand there's a problem and get help to deal with it. I wish you lots of luck and send you a big hug x

We had yet more bad news yesterday. On Saturday night, my favourite uncle passed away suddenly. I didn't find out until Sunday evening as we had been away at my work Christmas party and came home via the shops the next day so I wasn't at home to answer the house phone, and my mobile had no signal. The whole family is in shock, we all loved him so much, he was such a lovely, good man. My poor auntie is heartbroken, they were two peas in a pod and adored each other, they'd been married for about 46 years and had made plans for her 70th birthday at the start of January. I drove to work yesterday morning and bawled the whole way and had to turn round and come home again and have a sick day as I just couldn't stop crying. The saddest thing is that my litle goddaughter and her sister have lost not only their granddad but also their mum (to cancer) in the same year.

So in the second half of this year we've had three bereavements, a terrible car crash (but thank god my parents are doing really well now although my dad's recovery has been long and painful), totally unexpected redundancy, hubby had two operations, the whole infertility thing, another uncle had a stroke, another auntie has cancer... 2013 truly has been a hideous year. Still, only eight more days and it'll be over and I can't wait.

By the way, if anyone else is considering hypnosis, I would recommend it. Primmer kindly sent me Zita West's IVF cd which I will use when our treatment starts, but in the meantime I've been using Maggie Howell's relaxation one (in the purple box) and it is really helping me. I'm sleeping better and coping better with all the horrible stuff that keeps happening, and just generally feel a bit calmer about everything. Maggie has a lovely relaxing voice and while I don't remember much of what she says, it's all very positive.

codemonkey

angel - I'm so sorry about your uncle. It's a terrible time of year for that to happen, especially after everything else that has happened this year.

It definitely sounds like 2013 has been a bad year for us all - lets hope that 2014 is much better.

I have returned alive from the supermarket. I wasn't planning to go out at all but I started wrapping gifts last night and realised that somehow my bottle bags had all got totally soaking somehow. I tried to dry them on the radiators but this morning they were still wet so I went out to get more. As I went about 8am, it was still relatively quiet so managed to clean them out of bottle bags and get selection boxes for DH's friend's kids because he forgot. He came in yesterday and said he'd forgotten to get something for his aunt (if I remind him, I'm nagging so I leave him to it), and his friend's children. Luckily I'd bought a tin of sweets for us, so his aunt is getting that. So annoying though!!

Have also realised that the 3 shirts I bought him might be in the wrong collar size - I'm sure he said he was a 16" collar but I washed one of his shirts last night and it was a 16.5". Oops.

Not looking forward to seeing the family tomorrow (well, I am - just not looking forward to the "when are you having a baby?" questions or the raised eyebrows because I can't drink atm). It's not like I can say "Well, DH doesn't have any sperm at all so we're waiting for him to have a biopsy to see if we can have ICSI, but realistically, there's probably more chance of me becoming a supermodel than a mum. Pass the carrots please".

angeltreats

codemonkey wrote: »

Not looking forward to seeing the family tomorrow (well, I am - just not looking forward to the "when are you having a baby?" questions or the raised eyebrows because I can't drink atm). It's not like I can say "Well, DH doesn't have any sperm at all so we're waiting for him to have a biopsy to see if we can have ICSI, but realistically, there's probably more chance of me becoming a supermodel than a mum. Pass the carrots please".

Well my friend (who is in exactly the same infertility situation as me except with two failed ICSIs behind her) says she has started to give exactly this sort of reply to questions like this and I have to say I'm thinking of adopting her tactics. She reckons that people who ask the questions are nosy and insensitive and if they make her feel bad, she will bl00dy well return the favour.

SewIt_2

Thanks for the good wishes ladies. My best friend called me to say she is 12 weeks pg. Her first is baby was ivf and this one was natural. I am really pleased for them but I came off the phone and cried. I feel so sad that it might never be me getting to make that call. I feel robbed of normality and also like a total witch for not being able to be happy as I should be. In the time we've been trying they will have got pg and had two kids. Trying to give myself a break and realising that it's hormone related to as af is in full flow.

Arrggghhh, just want Christmas to be over now and I was looking forward to it. Hoping I'll feel better soon. X

frozenpenguin

time2deal – hope the mince pies were tasty!

SewIt – I’m on almost the same sort of timetable as you. I’m on the long protocol down-regging with Suprecur to start on 13th Jan and first scan on 4th Feb. Then I’m on 137iu Gonal-F pen injections with egg collection provisionally booked in for the week commencing 17th Feb.

Whattodonow – good luck for your scan on 3rd. x

angeltreats – what an awfully cr*ppy year you’ve had. So sorry to hear about your uncle and everything else. I really wish 2014 will be your year xxx

AFM – CD1 which means I’m now counting down the days til CD19 (to start Provera) and CD 21 (to start Suprecur). It’s probably the first time in 2 years I’ve actually looked forward to AF arriving!

I wish all of you a very merry Christmas and I agree with PM, code and everyone else – I’m keeping all my bits crossed that 2014 will be the year for all of us on here and this thread will be empty by 2015! :beer:

Rowingirl

Hugs to everyone after a crappy 2013. I hope in 2014 we'll all have our babies and can leave this thread behind. Thank you ladies for your support, it's meant a great deal to me. :xmassign:

Exciting sewit and star, I hope you have BFPs soon.

Thinking of you PM. 2ww is hellish and 'symptoms' can mean something or nothing.

mrshappy

codemonkey wrote: »

Not looking forward to seeing the family tomorrow (well, I am - just not looking forward to the "when are you having a baby?" questions or the raised eyebrows because I can't drink atm). It's not like I can say "Well, DH doesn't have any sperm at all so we're waiting for him to have a biopsy to see if we can have ICSI, but realistically, there's probably more chance of me becoming a supermodel than a mum. Pass the carrots please".

I started giving answers like that to some people, it did make me feel a bit better seeing insensitive people squirm a bit x

angeltreats

Agh. Think we may have caused an argument.

DH's mum and dad are staying with his sister overseas as she is about to have a baby. They sent a gushing email today - arrived safely, here's what we're doing for Christmas dinner, can we have a Skype some time tomorrow, oh and by the way we've all had ever such a lovely time building the cot, dad and SIL's husband built it under SIL's direction, we are all so happy and jolly just waiting for the baby to arrive, isn't it lovely and exciting.

DH replied asking what the hell were they playing at, did they learn nothing from a couple of weeks ago when I sat and bawled at their dining room table and had to drink myself into a coma to be able to cope with seeing my other knocked up SIL, and no we would not be skyping tomorrow. I haven't read the email he sent but can imagine it was probably pretty inflammatory and downright rude, as he isn't exactly tactful.

I had been planning to tell them that our internet was down due to the wind to get out of the skype call, as I just can't bear to look at my just-about-to-drop SIL, but he didn't give an excuse, just that we wouldn't be available.

I foresee a tiff of some sort