The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

sexki11en

MrsSippi wrote: »

I do understand to a point how soul destroying it must be tohave trouble trying to conceive

No, you really don't because in your own words....

MrsSippi wrote: »

I have not beenthrough it so can't understand fully).

MrsSippi wrote: »

It almost seems like there is an element of attention seeking (for want of abetter word) about it.

I honestly cannot believe you've said this about a "friend" who is so obviously going through an awful time and one who clearly trusts you (rather misguidedly apparently)

MrsSippi wrote: »

I am not trying to sound so unsympathetic.

No? Try harder. MUCH harder.

MrsSippi wrote: »

but would you really say tosomeone 'we really need everyone's support right now this is a very distressingtime for us' (and I mean that is literally what she said). It goes withoutsaying that everyone will support her anyway (and have told her this).

I would and did. I was brutally honest to anyone who asked throughout our horrible, painful journey. Infertility is not something to be ashamed of so why shouldn't we ask for support during such a difficult time in our lives?

MrsSippi wrote: »

I have thegreatest of respect for anyone who can put themselves through such a gruelling process.

You're not respecting your "friend at all. Announcing to an internet forum that you're bored with her distress after just one day and thinking she is attention seeking. And you're not respecting the girls on this thread who are currently feeling the same as your friend. To read your insensitive comments, on a thread that is meant to be a safe place for these girls to vent exactly like your friend is, without being judged, is not fair for anyone in this situation.

I'm almost 100% sure you didn't mean any offence, but speaking as someone who went through such a hard and sometimes very black 4 years of this (and it's not over now, I'm still infertile and always will be) and someone whose own friends said some truly horrible things, not intentionally, just by not thinking first, I find your comments in this particular post extremely insensitive.

SK

codemonkey

Ok, I have a question. When I was at the FS they gave me provera and said to take it for 2 weeks then my period would start after I finish and when it starts to book an appointment with my practice nurse for bloods. By my reckoning, it'll start during the festive period, so what do I do??

Peonie

codemonkey wrote: »

Ok, I have a question. When I was at the FS they gave me provera and said to take it for 2 weeks then my period would start after I finish and when it starts to book an appointment with my practice nurse for bloods. By my reckoning, it'll start during the festive period, so what do I do??

I was in the same situation, minus the provera, last year. Check with your GP what days they are open, if the practice nurse is in, the person who will take the drugs and the hospital driver who collects the blood from the surgery and takes it to the hospital. If not, get the paperwork or list of tests from your FS, phone the hospital and check what days they are open and go on the best date that suits your cycle.

codemonkey

Thanks Peonie. Its a bit of a pain - they have a full blood spectrum from CD2 anyway - seems they want another for something to do.

time2deal

Tea - come back!

Just a lament for the evening. We miss you.

time2deal

IVF/ICSI/FET cycles currently ongoing.

Derby2: Started down-regging on 28th October. Long protocol. EC 14 Nov. 3 eggs collected. 1 embie on board 17/11/13.
BFP!! 1/12/13

Wonder Woman: Started down regulation on 24.10.13. Long protocol. Stim started 12.11.13 EC 27 Nov. 9 eggs, 6 embyros. 1 embryo onboard 2/12.
Whattodonow: downregging est to start 15/12. Appt 12/12

lucyloo77: FET planned for late Nov/Dec
Tea Lover: Starting down reg in the coming weeks. (Delayed to Jan)
Sewit: Looking to start over Christmas or early in new year.
Peonie: Starting IVF in 23 November
Star02: ICSI planned for Jan/Feb

Ovulation induction (Clomid unless otherwise stated)
cwtw (insolitol)
Part Mouse (Menopur)
Littleme82
Picklekin

Awaiting FS or other appointment.
Danielley (13/12 Pituitary specialist)
Floaty
lisawood78 (surrogacy)
onestep (adoption)
MrsDavo
codemonkey (3 Dec)
vesper. Doing d2/21 bloods at the moment
goodvibes (Dec IVF referral)
angeltreats. First FS appointment 28 November & DH urology appointment 29 November
Slinky_selina
frozenpenguin (18 Dec)
loveactually. IVF appointment 4/02/14

ttc limbo
Purcy81

Whattodonow

Wonder_Woman wrote: »

Feeling totally carp today...have a bl**dy infection now from the procedure!!!!!! !!!!!!. Other than that, feel my normal self. Am convinced with all this bad luck it cannot possibly worked :

Or using other logic, you are now due some good luck

Peonie

Peonie wrote: »

I was in the same situation, minus the provera, last year. Check with your GP what days they are open, if the practice nurse is in, the person who will take the bloods and the hospital driver who collects the blood from the surgery and takes it to the hospital. If not, get the paperwork or list of tests from your FS, phone the hospital and check what days the [COLOR="rgb(255, 0, 255)"]blood section is [/COLOR] open and go on the best date that suits your cycle.

Hi code, I wrote some bits down wrong so have changed them above.

Rowingirl

Hi T2D please can you add me to Awaiting FS or Other Appointment list: 17 December IVF review.

codemonkey

OK, a weird question, and please feel free to tell me to get a grip, but I feel like I'm going through a bereavement, only with less sympathy because people don't know what's happened. Is this normal?

I know logically, a 30% chance is better than a 0% chance and that as it's an NHS cycle, they wouldn't do it if they didn't believe there wasn't a chance, but still, it feels like I've lost something. I'm almost scared to let myself hope that we'll get some sperm because if we don't, then we'll both be so crushed!!

Also T2D, when you get a minute can you change me to waiting for HSG and SSR.