The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Rowingirl

Wonder_Woman wrote: »

Please can anyone help with what may be a daft question - once it's decided you are ready for EC, do you still keep stimming until the day?

Am praying that by some miracle I have some suitably sized follicles at scan on Monday I think they do EC on a Thursday so would that mean you would vkeep injecting Mon,Tues, Wed eve or just stop?.

I took my last Menopur injection the morning before the trigger shot. So if your EC is on Thursday then your trigger would be on Tuesday night and your last stim shot on Monday.

Wonder_Woman

Thanks Rowingirl xxx

time2deal

codemonkey wrote: »

T2D, I was planning to pick up your list when I did the others but I need to go out. Will do it when I get back if nobody else has.

Hope it's good news and you feel better soon x

I meant lots has changed for other people. Same old here - but I'm feeling much better. I'll update the lists now.

time2deal

IVF/ICSI/FET cycles currently ongoing.

Derby2: Started down-regging on 28th October. Long protocol. EC 14 Nov. 3 eggs collected. 1 embie on board 17/11/13.
Wonder Woman: Started down regulation on 24.10.13. Long protocol. Stim started 12.11.13 EC (est) w/c 25 Nov.
Whattodonow: downregging tostart 15/12

lucyloo77: FET planned for late Nov/Dec
Tea Lover: Starting down reg in the coming weeks. (Delayed to Jan)
Sewit: Looking to start over Christmas or early in new year.
Peonie: Starting IVF in 23 November
Star02: ICSI planned for Jan/Feb

Ovulation induction (Clomid unless otherwise stated)
cwtw (insolitol)
Part Mouse (Menopur)
Littleme82
Picklekin

Awaiting FS or other appointment.
Danielley (MRI)
Floaty
lisawood78 (surrogacy)
onestep (adoption)
MrsDavo
codemonkey (3 Dec)
vesper
goodvibes (Dec IVF referral)
angeltreats. First FS appointment 28 November & DH urology appointment 29 November
Slinky_selina
frozenpenguin (18 Dec)

ttc limbo
Purcy81

Part_Mouse

t2d glad your feeling much better.

time2deal

Hey all,

Excuse my self indulgent post here. I feel the need to chat.

I had a really good talk to DH today. I think we should go on long drives just to talk! It's somehow so much easier with a light distraction, but not the TV etc. I think he was surprised at how much this whole thing has impacted me - I'm a strong sort of woman, but it's really broken me the last few days. I'm always on the cusp of tears, and just distracting myself as much as possible. But it's easier to talk when you can close your eyes, and somehow just less intense while in the car.

I was saying to him that we can't just keep throwing money at this, but he said he was happy to continue, and next time would be cheaper as it would be a FET. We also talked that even if it happens that the timing is going to be hard to manage with us emigrating, but we are both happy now to just take the timing as it comes. If it means we delay moving back to Oz, then so be it, but he doesn't want to stop trying now. Once I'm ready he really feels we are so close and should try again.

I'm never sure if he is just going along with me, so it was good to hear that he actually really does know whats going on, that he understands the problem and wants to keep trying. He surprised me by showing how much of the medical stuff he has absorbed!

We also agreed that we are not yet ready for surrogacy. I'm not comfortable with it, for a number of reasons. I actually got in touch with a Thai agency on Friday, and it just feels too much like buying a baby. I feel like I'm becoming one of those crazy desperate women with a cheque book throwing money at any potential solutions, and I'm not sure that is really me. I'd never say never, but it was good to at least agree that was on the backburner for the moment.

I had a lovely evening with friends, who don't know whats going on, and it was a good distraction. My lovely goddaughter was on wonderful form, and really cheered me up. She is 3 and a complete charmer. She loves seeing me and spent most of the time firmly holding my hand, playing and cuddling. I know it should make me sadder, but actually she makes me so happy as she's just a wonderful little girl. Maybe its because I know I'll always be a big part of her life, so it makes not having my own easier.

So, I'm a bit better. I feel much less alone after talking to DH, we really are in this together. Hope the rest of you are feeling ok too.

Part_Mouse

t2d so glad the chat with your dh helped, going through it together really is so much easier than braving it alone.Its lovely yo have little ones around to cheer you up and be part of your life. You've been through a heck of a journey and at the end of the day you have to do what feels right for you guys.

vesper

I'm glad t2d he understands properly.

I'm never sure whether hubby understands how I feel at the moment, like I'm a failure every single month And always find a good drive helps. We did the same earlier, had a good talk in the car, because there's no distractions like the tv, or a cup of tea. Did also give me time to explain in no uncertain terms what I would do to him if he was late from work on Tuesday for our fertility appointment.

Had a nice day out and did some xmas shopping. Think we are now done (although I thought this before).

codemonkey

T2D - sorry about the list. I didn't get home til later than expected and then had a much needed lie in and cuddles with the dog this morning. Surrogacy is a huge decision so it'll probably take some time to decide if it's for you. I agree about the little ones. For some reason pregnancy bumps are harder for me to deal with than actual children.

Feeling rather down in the mouth today. Have a horrible feeling that something bad is about to happen.

Slinky_Selina

Have we eaten all the cake?

You know how something never seems to happen and it happens twice in quick succession? Well I reported what I thought was a very quick visit by AF a couple of weeks ago and now she seems to have come back and is staying for a while. I had thought it might have been a side effect of the colposcopy on Friday but the hormone headache and sugar craving tells me otherwise! So none since May and two in the past 3 weeks.
I hope its not going to keep up like this, it's spoiling all the plans of the Provera, on the up/down side I'd best book my hsg :eek: